How can I ever win the love of my life back?

[HiDnGoD]

.....the manipulation and the basic deceit are sure signs that she probably isnt relationship material at this point.
Move on

Yes, the deceit on her part was one thing, and the way you responded to her wishes for space. She asked you for something & you didn't give it to her, because of what YOU wanted. To her that means you don't care about her, only about you.
If you ever want a slim chance for this to work, then let her go. If it was meant to be, she will come back to you. If it wasn't meant to be, then you've already begun your healing process.
Good luck.

 

[AMGETR]

Yes, the deceit on her part was one thing, and the way you responded to her wishes for space. She asked you for something & you didn't give it to her, because of what YOU wanted. To her that means you don't care about her, only about you.
If you ever want a slim chance for this to work, then let her go. If it was meant to be, she will come back to you. If it wasn't meant to be, then you've already begun your healing process.
Good luck.

Thanks for the advice. Best so far yet. Thank you.

 

[Quadsweeps Sister]

...If she wants to be jealous, fine, I should be able to not get into a fight with her

....I have nothing now.

IMO its not fine for her to be jealous or you to be jealous, etc. If you have trust and love - this jealousy would not have its place inside your heads. There's most likely some mistrust which occurred somewhere down the line.

And although it may feel you have nothing, is this really the case? Yes, you have 'loss', but what about friends and family who have more than likely faded into the background as most people let them when so intensely focused on their 'love'? Reconnect with these people if you need to. Apologize for having put them on the back burner. Make plans with them and enjoy their company. It will set your mind at ease.

Let her go. Don't call her, don't look for her. If you keep the wound open it will not heal and you will not have the energy to focus on something more positive at the moment which is enjoying 'yourself'.

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"We deceive ourselves when we fancy that only weakness needs support. Strength needs it far more."

Dial_tone on glass dildos..."They're not real glass, knucklehead. They're Pyrex like a glass baking dish. You'd have to be pumping that sucker 400mph to break that thing unless you've got a kung-fu grip coochie..."

 

[*MissFit*]

sometimes things arent meant to be.. not always waht we want to hear...

i just dated someone for 3 months.. was happy as hell.. and one day things just turned to shit.. and i had to move on.. it was hard but it had to be done

It's weird...one moment.. one decision.. one thing we do.. affects the next

 

[H_T_]

how old ye be, bor?

 

[Gymgurl]

You know by reading your post you sound very jeaouls and possesive and IF that is the case then it should be over. Who are you to tell her to quit her job? You can run her life...she already has a daddy

 

[AMGETR]

Just like to update some of you: We got back together last week. Both very happy again. Both are taking this as a learning lesson.

 

[HiDnGoD]

Just like to update some of you: We got back together last week. Both very happy again. Both are taking this as a learning lesson.

Glad to hear it. Hope it works out.
There's lessons all over life, for those with the wit to see them.
Good Luck.

 

[EnderJE]

Hope it works out, bro.

BTW, you asked her to quit her job over you? Are you serious? That's fucking funny. Who are you to do that?

 

[Kachunga]

So how after all of that did you get the opp to get back with her? Inquiring mind wants to know! I dated a bartender at Outback, made the same mistakes as you did i.e. calling too much, stopping by her bar, and I have not seen the chick since. That was 2 years ago. I wish you luck but you went through some killer drama!