Glad to hear you are seeing some of the results from the var!
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Here's a discussion about it that helps explain some:
http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?t=393957&highlight=r-ala
RE: dairy, etc. YES GET RID OF IT! For the next 4 weeks you need to get your body down to only those things that are optimal. Anything with a lot of anything (e.g. sodium) that you arent' used to eating will cause a side effect like bloat. I'm 3 weeks post show and I'm still working on cleaning out eveything that affects me. Any extra amount of ANPB leaves me bloated for 2 days. Clear it all out!
Oatmeal -- I'm not sure what starchy carbs you are using right now - but since you have some time yet and you have a place in your diet for starchy carbs - I might suggest you run a little test. I'm sorry - I dont recall if you are carb cycling or what yet. But take each of the different types of starchy carbs you currently eat - e.g. oatmeal, yams, white potatos, cream of rice? -- Eat only one of these types on seperate days when you have starchy carbs in your meal plan. And then note how you look, how you feel during, at the end of that day, and the following morning. Then after you've done this with each of the diff carb types, see if there is one that is optimal for you - i.e. provides the best fullness, least bloat, least stomach ache, etc. And then use this as your starchy carb as you enter your last week or two of prep.
The science behind "oatmeal = water retention" -- never seen a study on it, but common sense says -- carbs like oatmeal, rice, cream of wheat, I guess even pasta (which I just stay away from in general) require water to be cooked in -- that means they are absorbing water. Particularly if you are at the point where you are needed to include water increase / decrease in your diet manipulation, that is additional water you have to account for and also get rid of. That then implies that a carb that doesn't require additional water to eat would be the more optimal way to go --e.g. yams or regular potatos.
Just another little side note about wheat-based stuff -- its estrogenic - this can also perpetuate water & fat retention (or non-optimal fat shedding).