I have a similiar issue. Sex is like eating, you should have at least three meals everyday. And for us gym rats, we like to eat at least five times a day. My issue is that my wife isn't a very sexual person. I am absolutely in love with her and I wouldn't want anybody else as my wife or the mother of our child.
My biggest advice would be that, if you are truly in love and you want to spend the rest of your life with her and have a family, then it isn't worth ruining it all on some random peice of tail. Those few seconds of having the hair stand up on the back of your neck are not worth the life time of joy that you'll have with your wife and kids.
Try not to put yourself in those situations that can lead to your giving into temptation.
Buy some stock in Jergens and don't hurt your wrist (this is my approach)