Hey ladies, lesbian admirers.

[RottenWillow]

Ladies,

I have recently found myself in a position of trying to avoid the breathless admiration of a gay girl. I have thinking about this subject quite a bit lately and have talked about it with friends. I am kind of at a loss about how to deal with it.

This girl is very pretty and I was really flattered at first. I tried to duck her but I think she is mistaking my attempts at diplomacy for shyness so she is still trying to hook up. She's trying to arrange a girl/girl sex buddy relationship. This girl is also funny and I think she's pretty cool. I guess I might be sending mixed messages but I do not have any sexual feelings for her or any other girl. I've only ever had one other very brief incident with a gay girl hitting on me so I have no experience with how to deal with this.

Have you had similar experiences and how have you (diplomatically) handled it? I dont want to hurt any feelings.

Guys please skip this thread unless you have had first hand experience with a girl who's dealt with this.

 

[SoKlueles]

Well, treat it as you would treat a guy who is trying to hook up with you that you dont want to hook up with. Tell her your flattered that she likes you, but you dont see her that way.
Say, that you want to be friends and nothing more...Its better to tell her instead of...sending mixed messages .and hurting her and your friendship in the end. I hope this helps...good luck

 

[Mr. Black]

Tell her plain and simple..."I like cock"

 

[Gymgurl]

I would go with what Soklueles said....just say it....Well I guess Mr. Black summed it up also...

 

[jubei]

Finally a woman who likes men...Yay!!!!

 

[Puddles]

Just tell her the truth, you like her as a friend but that's it. If she keeps at it tell her it's gonna ruin the friendship. Good luck!

 

[Nihilist]

Well, treat it as you would treat a guy who is trying to hook up with you that you dont want to hook up with. Tell her your flattered that she likes you, but you dont see her that way.
Say, that you want to be friends and nothing more...Its better to tell her instead of...sending mixed messages .and hurting her and your friendship in the end. I hope this helps...good luck

or you could do what youd actually do to a guy and slap the dyke in the mouth.

 

[RottenWillow]

Just tell her the truth, you like her as a friend but that's it. If she keeps at it tell her it's gonna ruin the friendship. Good luck!

I do like her a lot as a friend and I guess I'm thinking she'll bail on me completely if I just say straight out there is never going to be any lesbo a-go-go. I suppose I'm getting my friendship needs met and am reluctant to jeopardise that.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Well, I have been hit on by gay men, and even had them openly ask me to have a sexual relationship with them, and that is similar to your situatoin. Tell her the truth, like I do. I usually say, "You seem like a very nice guy, but I am straight, and I'm really not interested." They usually take it fairly well.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Oh, for the record, I worked with a couple of them, so had to be around them, and never really had a problem with the one's I worked with after that, and even had a few freindly conversations at work later with both of them.