Help! My Girlfriends Has Given Me An STD!

[RugbyNut]

Help! My Girlfriend Has Given Me An STD!

Hey

My girlfriend told me last night that she took a smear test and the results revealed that she had chlamydia, I've been with her now for like 6-7 months and I'm pretty sure I have it too. I felt like punching the bitch when she told me, but she explained she only been with 2 guys this year; me and some dude on a one-night-stand, the poor girl was in tears. Anyway I experienced a stinging feeling when I took a piss a few months back but the pain stopped so I ignored it (stupid I know)

Anyways this was in like June, I'm goin to a clinic on Monday to get some antibiotics to treat it but I have no idea about this shit (always asleep in sex-ed classes), and I'm fucking scared that I won't be able to have kids, I'm only 21 are my days of random bareback shagging over?? I'm also worried about my health, what are the long-term side-effects??

Thanks, RugbyNut

 

[Mr. Black]

Fortunately for you chlamydia can be completely cured. Get on your anti-biotics and you will be fine. There are no long term side effects. Do yourself a favour, do a search on google on the topic and further educate yourself.

 

[Christopher X]

If it's just chlamydia you've got, you should be OK since it responds very well to antibiotics. But it's important that you take the whole course of treatment and also, of course, that your girlfriend is treated too or else she'll just re-infect you. (Even if she's been treated in the past, you are likely to have re-infected her.) And you'll need to use condoms until you're both in the clear to avoid re-infecting each other again.

You should also inform any other partners you've had since you started with this girl, too.

The chances that it will affect your ability to have kids are minute, but if you're worried, mention it at the clinic. They won't mind your asking questions. With proper treatment it is unlikely to have any long-term effects on you health - but again, ask if you're worried.

Riding bareback with someone unless you know for a fact that she's clear of STDs is never a good idea. I hope that's not one of the take-home messages that you were sleeping through!

Anyway, good luck on Monday!

 

[RugbyNut]

Thanks a lot for the advice bros, I'll get searching now.

Incidentally what do you think I should do? I really like her and she told me that she doesn't want to lose me either but all I can think about is her fucking that other guy (after we met but before we were oficially "together") like a fuckin whore. I couldn't touch her last night it kinda disgusts me.

She apologised while in floods of tears, is she genuine or just another slut?

What should I do?

Thanks, RugbyNut

 

[SoKlueles]

be proud it wasnt genital warts...my cousin got those and she has those for the rest of her life....when she has a kid she has to have a c secion because of the fear that she will pass it on to her baby....
but then i had a friend that her hubby was a jerk..and she got crabs from him....and he tried to tell her she got them off of a toilet seat...and i think at first she believed him. I felt sorry for her...but she got rid of those too. Good luck

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Right, chlamydia can be cured with anti-biotics. I've had it a couple of times (fortunately I haven't caught anything else). If I got it from my girlfriend though, I would tell her to hit the road, if she caught from someone WHILE dating me.

 

[stevemac]

I'd be pissed she didn't use protection on the one night stand! but mistakes happen, you'll be fine and there is a lesson to be learned. Be glad it wasn't something much worse.

 

[Christopher X]

Incidentally what do you think I should do? I really like her and she told me that she doesn't want to lose me either but all I can think about is her fucking that other guy (after we met but before we were oficially "together") like a fuckin whore.

If you really like her, stick with her. That's my advice. If she fucked the other guy before you were "officially together", then I don't see that as a reason to dump her. It would have been good if she'd insisted that he use a condom, but that's a different matter. We all live and learn, and you can just be grateful that it's not something much worse than chlamydia.

 

[Gymgurl]

I agree with the last post. it could have happend the other way around and you could have given it to her. So it really doesn't make her a"slut". I think we can all learn something from this tread!!

 

[Deleted member 33117]

If you really like her, stick with her. That's my advice. If she fucked the other guy before you were "officially together", then I don't see that as a reason to dump her. It would have been good if she'd insisted that he use a condom, but that's a different matter. We all live and learn, and you can just be grateful that it's not something much worse than chlamydia.

Agreed. I never hold a girl's sexual history against her. If she is not sleeping with anyone else, after we agree to only sleep with each other, then it doesn't matter. Besides if she has alot of experience, hopefully she has learned some skills, and I prefer women who are sexually uninhibited, and open to new things. Sexually reserved girls are really not even as good as jerking off.

 

[SC4EVA]

It's hard b/c for some reason it really does bother what experiences our partner has had in the past but we for some reason feel as though ours is fine.

It's a hard decision and its really up to you. If she didn't know then there nothing to real do about it. Shit happens... If she did thats a whole nother ball game. Just be glad it was one of them many other worse things that are not curable.

My only advise is to wrap it!!

 

[Deleted member 33117]

SC, well again, look at my points above. It doesn't bother me. Besides, if I told a girl that her sexual history bothered me and she asked how many women I've had sex with, she would probably get pissed and tell me to go fuck myself if I answered it honestly.

 

[SC4EVA]

LOL.... guess just better not to speak about it! LOL

 

[Deleted member 33117]

SC, take a peek at the thread I just opened on that subject. Any advice?

 

[SC4EVA]

LOL Now theres a different approach to the subject!!!!

 

[fsupat70]

cut off your pecker and become a monk your life is over

 

[Gymgurl]

Fsupat.....the way you talk about that girlfriend of yours......your pecker just might fall off

 

[Deterass]

Put that bitch on the road!

 

[Deleted member 33117]

chlamydia is very common most sexually active people have this or have had this, and usually there are no symptoms.

antibiotics and you will be fine, dont break up with her, she didn't know, there usually are no symptoms

Right, its very common. I've had it 3 times, and I know alot of other people who have had it as well. If you screw around alot, you will almost certainly catch it sooner or later.

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

chlamydia is very common most sexually active people have this or have had this, and usually there are no symptoms.

antibiotics and you will be fine, dont break up with her, she didn't know, there usually are no symptoms

 

[fsupat70]

if you make her feel guilty enough about it im sure you can get some anal sex out of this mess

 

[Deleted member 33117]

SoKlueles, actually I think he is every woman's dream. I'm going to start acting more like him... I think it would help me get laid more often.

 

[SoKlueles]

I think i love FSUPAT hes my kind of dream boat

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

she is no doubt feeling guilty, take it easy and do not "shame" her. Shame is bad, and can hurt how good she feels when she is with you.

 

[gingersnap]

she is no doubt feeling guilty, take it easy and do not "shame" her. Shame is bad, and can hurt how good she feels when she is with you.

Yeah, shame=low self esteem=shitty sex

 

[RugbyNut]

Thanks for the replies bros, it's a tough one ain't it?

I'm not really that pissed about her givin me the clap, but the fact she did a one-nighter with some other dude.

It happened like this, we meet, do the normal things: movie, drinks, night in video etc then one night after my 21st b'day (when I was shitfaced drunk) she starts getting heavy "where is this going?" "what do I mean to you?"......I thought she was getting too serious too soon (this is like a month into it) so I told her I really liked her but I didn't want to get so serious.

Anyways, she takes this as a blow-off, like a week later I lose my mobile phone and all the numbers on it, so I have no way of contacting her. She doesn't hear from me and assumes things are over, goes out, fucks dude etc.

Then I see her in a club and explain what happened with my phone and that I didn't blow her off, just scared of committing etc after that things are more or less fine.

Sorry for goin on bros......I don't wanna turn this into an agony aunt page etc but she swore me to secrecy so you are the only people I can discuss it with.

I don't wanna lose her but I still don't know what to do.

Thanks, RugbyNut

 

[Mandinka2]

Thanks for the replies bros, it's a tough one ain't it?

I'm not really that pissed about her givin me the clap, but the fact she did a one-nighter with some other dude.



Anyways, she takes this as a blow-off, like a week later I lose my mobile phone and all the numbers on it, so I have no way of contacting her. She doesn't hear from me and assumes things are over, goes out, fucks dude etc.


I don't wanna lose her but I still don't know what to do.

Thanks, RugbyNut

She sounds like a real sweet heart , you're 21 , if this is the kinda chic u want around , get ready for a life of misery. What's gonna happen when u guys argue and ur not speakin for a little while? Do urself a favour Bub (and btw I notice the ladies here given the opposite kind of advice they give to their female friends in a similar situation).

 

[Mandinka2]

I agree with the last post. it could have happend the other way around and you could have given it to her. So it really doesn't make her a"slut". I think we can all learn something from this tread!!

Huh? Then HE'd be the slut , I can just picture the women of this board sayin "Oh yeh ,she didnt call for a week so it's ok that u went and screwed some other chic , met up with ur regular thing , boned her and now she's infected , don't feel bad about it , you're really not a bad guy"
Oh yeh , I nearly forgot the best bit "She should understand!"
WTF!!!???
Women - so fair and so impartial.

 

[RugbyNut]

Huh I see your point Mandinka......

It was a bit different though, it was more like a month that we didn't speak for, but I don't like the fact that she could just go out and fuck another guy, even when we weren't together.

I haven't slept with anyone since I started seeing her and I KNOW that I didn't give her chlamydia.

She's not like you made out though Mandinka, if she was I would've binned her long ago.

RugbyNut

 

[Mandinka2]

Huh I see your point Mandinka......

It was a bit different though, it was more like a month that we didn't speak for, but I don't like the fact that she could just go out and fuck another guy, even when we weren't together.

I haven't slept with anyone since I started seeing her and I KNOW that I didn't give her chlamydia.

She's not like you made out though Mandinka, if she was I would've binned her long ago.

RugbyNut

Bro , now listen to me carefully cos I played the game too (I'm talkin about rugby) and know the score...
This chic's morals suck ,ok a month is a lot different I agree but one night stands are a certain sign of nutso chics. STDs do not come outta nowhere which says sth about the quality of guys she's been with. Now here is what you should ask yourself: when all the tears on her face are dry , this chic has given you an infection that she says she got during a "one night stand" , now given all of that , and given the fact that you are not in an objective way to be making rational decisions think about why she FORBADE you to speak to people around you about this. Now if she's so fucking pure as the driven snow and only made one mistake then why is she concerned with secrecy?

You're a very young guy and believe me I had the wool pulled WAY down over my ears by a few chics in my time , and mostly cos I was emotionally involved. I'm lucky , I never caught anything but I have always avoided chics who I thought were likely to put me in that position. I'm sorry to tell you Bro but I can almost guarentee you this will end in tears , and they wont be yours. Believe me I only have your interests at heart and love women , but confine that to only those women that love men. This is about making a difficult emotional choice for yourself and getting through some pain , now I could be a bastard and tell you what a lot of chics (especially in your part of the world) tell their gfs in similar situations: Find another guy on the side - bone him , then get out. But I dont advise that - that is for scum. Good luck pal whatever you decide , its a very tough world out there - PM me anytime.

 

[RugbyNut]

Thanks for the advice bro, but I think I'll give her a second chance for now, but I'll go into things with my eyes open from here.

She doesn't want anyone to know because she feels embarassed and doesn't want to be known as a slut. If what she says is true (and I believe her) she's only been with 2 guys this year, (including myself) I don't think that makes her a slut.

One more strike and she's out, but thanks for the heads-up anyway bro.

RugbyNut

 

[fsupat70]

i think this girl has seen more cocks than an army doctor and shes lying to you, dump her ho ass

 

[Austin316]

whats the STD that is treated by ramming a antibiotic rod through the tip of the penis all the way through?

 

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Chlamydia is nothing. Just feel lucky that you didn’t wake up and have your dick look like someone nuked it with blister agent.

Look at it from another perspective. It may have just been a night of poor judgment. These things happen. It could also be a peek into her Modus Operandi.

Bag it with this chick 100% from now on. Lesson learned. Keep an eye out for anything that can be suspicious. Don’t get too close until you know that she is 100% for real.

It was Chlamydia but it could have easily been something else that would have changed your entire life.