MH, The homophobic thing is just a reaction in my opinion. Society has made us what we are, and if we stray from that position, then we are deemed horrible. Hence the extreme homophobia. I, for one, have no real hang ups with it. I have never been with a man, or attracted to a man, but am certainly not going to get all riled up if I touch another man somehow. And in a 3 some situation, there is really no real way that you are not going to touch another person at some time. Sexually or not, it just happens.