I am going to come to the defense of the women here, not really for anyone on this board but in respect for my Mother.
My mom and dad married whent they were 18 and 19 repsectively. My Mom dropped out of college so she could move to the oilfields where my Dad worked.
Flash forward 14 yrs - she has had 13 kids, 12 alive and living while living with an alcoholic husband. He was so bad, his employer sent half his paycheck to my Mom to keep food on the table.
5 more years to that - he stops drinking. Seven more years after that he is aomewhat wealthy and leave the Mother for his secretary. A real dick move.
Now - how the fuck is a woman supposed to appreciate in value during that time while she is trying to raise 12 kids with an alcoholic husband? Now she did stay quite slim but I am sure the vag was mashed after squirting out 13 kids.
She could not even get a gas credit card at the time because she had no credit history. My older brother had to get her a credit card in his name for her to use.
So here is my opinion on the matter, you saddle a woman with raising your child, you are committed to her for life. If you are rasing the child and she can move on fine, otherwise, man up fuckers.