Getting your girl to lose weight...

[Melaina]

Negative feedback is not going to motivate her... it will diminish what self esteem she has. You may think she is comfortable at her weight... but maybe she's consciously aware of it but doesn't quite know how to address it. The best thing for you to do it to guide her into the right direction and let her decide if she likes it. I am very pro "female classes" for girls who have no interest in being in the gym... yoga, pilates, kickboxing. Join a gym with her... check out the classes.... go when there is one... she spends an hour in spinning... you go work out.

But at the end of the day... if you can't get past her looks then let her move on to find someone who loves a bit extra on her bones.

 

[KD1]

Infect her with swine flu. If she is like the guy at my office who had it, she will drop 15 lbs.

 

[chucktown04]

Negative feedback is not going to motivate her... it will diminish what self esteem she has. You may think she is comfortable at her weight... but maybe she's consciously aware of it but doesn't quite know how to address it. The best thing for you to do it to guide her into the right direction and let her decide if she likes it. I am very pro "female classes" for girls who have no interest in being in the gym... yoga, pilates, kickboxing. Join a gym with her... check out the classes.... go when there is one... she spends an hour in spinning... you go work out.

But at the end of the day... if you can't get past her looks then let her move on to find someone who loves a bit extra on her bones.

I actually got her to join my gym with me about a month ago and I have been training her. I always give her positive feedback and tell her how attracted I am when she goes and works out hard and eats good. She is definitely concious of her weight and I think she is really loving the results she has been seeing so far--this is good because I think she is doing it for herself and not for me which is what I want. Our gym does a lot of classes like that so I will try to get her to start taking one of them. I think she would like them and I have been cutting into my workout time helping her. Thanks for the advice!