get an abortion?

[gsxr]

OK, I slept with this girl that I shouldn't have. Now she's telling me she's pregnant and that I'm the only one that could be the father. I don't want a child at this point in life, especially not with this woman. Yeah I know it's murder and all, but any tips on convincing her to have an abortion?

 

[prophet]

just hope 1 of 3 things happens

1. she is lying

2. she dies in a car wreck

3. she has a miscarriage

 

[LivinLarger]

If I were you.....
glad I'm not

Tell her even if she keeps it you will not marry her and that it would be a mistake for her to have this baby.
She might consider adoption but may change her mind after birth, then you get to pay child support for 18yrs, unless she let's you give up rights to it but she will most likely take your money because she can.
Also, bitches lie about this crap all of the time, did you stop calling her or end it recently? They like to throw that up and see if they can pull you back in, then in another few wks she'll have an magical immaginary "miscarriage" and things will be back to normal.
I would test her ass so you know if she is BS'ing you, if she is move on, if not you will not be able to force her to get an abortion if she does not want one, then it gets ugly.
Good luck

 

[gsxr]

Well I'll keep hoping. #2 and #3 seem pretty unlikely, but #1 is a always a possibility. I doubt it though, we've been fucking pretty regularly for the past few months. If I had some I'd slip her a few RU486s, but they don't exactly grow on trees.

She says she would feel bad if she gave up the baby. I don't care if she feels bad or not, she was supposed to be on the birth control patch... 99% effective my ass. Besides telling her the truth (that she's emotionally fucked up and a total psycho and that having a kid would be a nightmare), anybody know of a good argument for abortion?

 

[Alpine]

Just explain to her how an abortion is the best way to handle this situation. Tell her how it is only going to ruin 3 lives - hers, yours, AND the babies. Also explain how the baby deserves a better chance at life than the 2 of you can provide at this point in your lives. Unfortunately tho, ultimately the final decision is up to her. Good luck!

 

[Alpine]

Also, get her to make this decision immediately! Make the appointment for next week, pay for it, and take her to the appointment. The longer she thinks about it the more likely she will be to having the child. That's a shitty situation to be in. I feel for ya bro!

 

[LivinLarger]

She says she would feel bad if she gave up the baby

Tell her you will feel bad if you have to pay child support for 18 yrs for a kid you never wanted in the first place.

Also, get her to make this decision immediately! Make the appointment for next week, pay for it, and take her to the appointment. The longer she thinks about it the more likely she will be to having the child. That's a shitty situation to be in. I feel for ya bro!

GOOD ADVICE!

 

[Alpine]

Tell her you will feel bad if you have to pay child support for 18 yrs for a kid you never wanted in the first place.

I wouldn't say that because it will probably piss her off that your bringing something like this down to a money issue. Then she may not listen to anything else you have to say just to spite you. That would suck even worse if she had the kid out of spite for you.

 

[gsxr]

Also, get her to make this decision immediately! Make the appointment for next week, pay for it, and take her to the appointment. The longer she thinks about it the more likely she will be to having the child. That's a shitty situation to be in. I feel for ya bro!

I'll try this aproach. If she doesn't go for it I'm slipping her some RU486. Whether it is ethical or not, I'm getting out of this fucked up situation. If I have to see this psycho for 18 more years my life would really suck.

 

[the_jarhead]

Been there done that. Have the kid to prove it.

First thing take her ass to the nearest clinic to make sure. Even if she isn’t lying she might just be late. Make sure!
Try your best to convince her that abortion is the best thing. I can’t really help too much It obviously didn’t work for me. 5 years later my ex agrees that it would have been better. We love the kid and are able to tolerate each other enough to be civil around her but we both agree our lives could have been much better have she not had her.
As for slipping her the pill if she suspects you did it and you get caught you’re looking at major time. Minimum of illegal possession and mileage distribution. Not to mention I read that is being tried for attempted murder for the doing the same thing.

 

[LivinLarger]

I wouldn't say that because it will probably piss her off that your bringing something like this down to a money issue. Then she may not listen to anything else you have to say just to spite you. That would suck even worse if she had the kid out of spite for you.

True, I had this same shit happen to me so I am pretty bitter about it. I hope you can work this out, mine never even told me until she was 5 mos along and abortion was no longer an option.
I was in basic training at the time so I never knew. She wanted to get married, I did not so she stopped taking the pill and got pregnant.
I tried to do the right thing and marry her but she was a whore and got pregnant from her new husband while we were still married. Now I make their house payment for them, do not let this shit happen to you.

 

[Puddles]

If she won't go for abortion, try to convince her to consider adoption for the child. My parents weren't married, dad tried to get mom to abort, she didnt (obviously since I'm here), but in all honesty, she should have put me up for adoption. The doctor that delivered me wanted to adopt me...he and his wife couldn't have kids. My mother was misserable and blamed me for what she chose. Your g/f shouldn't keep a child she's not ready for and able to take care of.

 

[gsxr]

Well, she got tested and it's official. She ain't going for abortion, even though it's only two weeks. I'm fucked.

 

[b fold the truth]

I start with the help...and say a prayer for you.

B True

 

[LivinLarger]

Gsxr, does this girl want you back? If she does she may be using the kid to rope you back to her.
In this case you need to make it clear you will have NOTHING to do with her if she has it. Personally I would tell her that if she were not pregnant you would take her back and you could have kids when you are both ready for them. Of course this would be a lie and you would have to be convincing, but consider the alternative.

 

[ThePolishHammer]

First thing. Make her take a pregnancy test, and watch her take it!
Make sure she dosent fuck with anything.
Dont give her a warning that she has to take it. Theres so much knoweldge on the internet, and through heresay. A few days could be enough for her to find out how to fake a pregnancy test. If shes depserate enough to go this far, im sure shed try and find a way.
So just show up, say here take this.

 

[Friscochick]

Well, she got tested and it's official. She ain't going for abortion, even though it's only two weeks. I'm fucked.

OHH SWEETIE..

YOU KNOW, THIS IS SUCH A HARD SUBJECT... FIRST OFF, I WOULD JUST LIKE TO STRESS THE FACT, THAT SHE IS GOING THRU A WHOLE BUNCHA EMOTIONS THAT YOU PROBABLY WOULD NEVER UNDERSTAND WHICH MAKES HER HARD TO COMMUNICATE WITH. SHE'S NERVOUS,SCARED,EXCITED,DISAPPOINTED ALL AT THE SAME TIME. SHE MORE THAN LIKELY JUST WANTS YOUR APPROVAL IN ALL THIS, WANTS YOU TO HUG HER AND TELL HER THAT EVERYTHING WILL BE OK. THING IS, IT WON'T AND YOU DONT WANT TO BE WITH HER, LET ALONE HAVE A CHILD WITH HER. MY ADVICE TO YOU WOULD BE GO TALK TO HER TELL HER THAT YOU HAVE THOUGHT NIGHT AND DAY ABOUT THIS, AND THAT YOU ARE IN NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM READY FOR SUCH A COMMITMENT, AND THAT SHE PROBABLY ISN'T EITHER. TELL HER THAT YOU ARE EXTREMELY SORRY THAT SHE IS GOING THRU WHAT SHE IS, AND THAT YOU ARE SCARED AS WELL. TELL HER, THAT, BY HER HAVING THIS CHILD... IT WILL NOT MAKE HER OR YOUR LIVES BETTER.THAT BY HAVING AN ABORTION, AS HARD AS IT MAY BE, IT IS NOT NEARLY AS HARD AS WATCHING A CHILD GO BACK AND FORTH FROM A BROKEN HOME.. SEEING PARENTS ARGUE BACK AND FORTH ABOUT MONEY, VISITING DAYS, AND EVERYTHING UNDER THE SUN BECAUSE EACH PERSON IS BITTER FROM NOT BEING READY FOR SUCH A COMMITMENT. LET HER KNOW, THAT IS NOT HER THAT SHE WILL HURTING IN THE LONG RUN, IT IS HER CHILDS. THAT NO MATTER WHAT SHE DOES TO LOVE AND CARE FOR THAT CHILD.. HER BABY WILL BE HURT AND TORN NOT KNOWING WHAT A TRUE FAMILY UNIT IS LIKE. THAT SHE HAS HER WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF HER, AND YOU HAVE YOURS, AND YOU NEED TO CHOOSE WISELY HOW IT IS DRAWN OUT.

SEE WHAT SHE SAYS TO THAT.. YOU MIGHT JUST GET THRU TO HER..
I AS WELL, WILL PRAY FOR YOU.. I AM A SINGLE MOTHER AND NOTHING IS HARDER.

 

[-SD-]

I have been in exactly where you are at bro. In order to have her see it your way you might have to take your mind to a very uncomfortable place youve never experienced. This means you might have to pound the idea into her head how all of this is the worst thing to happen to her. All of this will have to be done in a very willfull negative, verbally assaulting manner (borderline verbally abusive). you basically will have to empty your emotional tank for any chance to make this happen, because you know the alternative.

 

[DigitalKyle]

If I had some I'd slip her a few RU486s, but they don't exactly grow on trees...She says she would feel bad if she gave up the baby. I don't care if she feels bad or not, she was supposed to be on the birth control patch...

You are one sick, pathetic exuse for a human being. You can't put the responsibility on her. If you didn't want any chance of her getting pregnant, you shouldn't have had sex with her. And for you to "slip her a few RU486s" if you had the chance, you should be brutally raped by bubba, and handed over to SatanicGoatslayer for whatever he wants to do with you.

 

[TheProject]

Does it seem creepy to anyone else that the potential fatality of an unborn child is being decided on an internet chat board?

I didn't mean that in a self-righteous way. Just feels weird.

That's why I didn't click on this thread initially.

 

[makedah]

Well, this situation is certainly a sobering reminder that nookie ain't ALL fun and games!

 

[Friscochick]

Well, this situation is certainly a sobering reminder that nookie ain't ALL fun and games!

HEARD THAT!

 

[wlibbe]

I don't really know what to tell you but I just had a baby 2 months ago and it is the most amazing thing in the world. My husband is just beside himself over his little girl. You may think that you are not ready but if she decides not to have an abortion just try to think positively about it. It is definitely going to change your life but you don't have to give up EVERYTHING. I really hope it works out for you-whatever she decides to do.

 

[b fold the truth]

Any update as to what you did?

B True

 

[Kohai]

Sorry to hear about your dilemma. No matter what you do it's not going to be easy. However you (she) has to make a decision. I think Friscochick had some good ideas but instead of talking her into an abortion, talk her into an adoption. Like I said, neither will be easy but killing an innocent baby because a birth control patch didn't work just isn't right.

 

[Hangfire]

Yeah I know it's murder and all, but any tips on convincing her to have an abortion?

That has got to be one of the most fucked-up things I have ever read/heard/seen.

Jerkoff.

Actually, in your case, that's not a bad idea.

 

[Hangfire]

.......anybody know of a good argument for abortion?

Yeah.

YOU