Friends with Benefits

[SheDragon]

Sounds fair if the other person is looking for the same. Ive heard people say they wish they could just find someone to satisfy their sexual needs without having to commit. Why don't you sign up for one of those matchmaking online sites and specify that you're searching for a sex buddy that you can have fun with on a regular basis. Newspapers have those too. Just a thought.

 

[SheDragon]

generally thats how it works, but as long as you keep feelings out of it your good. ( but that sound a whole lot easier than it is to do)

I chose not to do that with my very Hot friend and have been happy with the choice for over 10 years, because i know i would have eventually started having feelings for her or vice versa, a good friendship is really close to a relationship already.

So Good Luck!

Great reply. Its true, if you are one to easily fall for someone, then you should really think about whether thats a good idea.

 

[Wulfgar]

Sounds fair if the other person is looking for the same. Ive heard people say they wish they could just find someone to satisfy their sexual needs without having to commit. Why don't you sign up for one of those matchmaking online sites and specify that you're searching for a sex buddy that you can have fun with on a regular basis. Newspapers have those too. Just a thought.

she dragon is my FWB

 

[Freak Nasty]

I have a listing on one of those sites. Its just so hard to weed through the spam and fake personals. I go out to clubs sometimes, but thats hit or miss too. My wife tells me to stop actively looking. When you are not looking it will come to you.

 

[SheDragon]

I have a listing on one of those sites. Its just so hard to weed through the spam and fake personals. I go out to clubs sometimes, but thats hit or miss too. My wife tells me to stop actively looking. When you are not looking it will come to you.

wtf??? you are married???? you are soo wrong!! you live up to your name, dont you? LOL

 

[Freak Nasty]

Why am I wrong? Me and my wife agreed to having friends with benefits. I firmly believe whats good for one is good for the other. As a matter of fact she is the one that has a steady FWB. I'm trying to catch up to her.

 

[Tytan]

damage is already done to your home bro.......FWB always fucks someone up, you, her, your wife....someone will develope feelings and boom you guys are fucked.....handle your business

 

[Freak Nasty]

nope. He is both of our friends (he is only her benefits part though). Actually she is not getting any benefits at the time anyway (thats a different story). We are just trying to help him get through a rough time in his life now. No damage. The thing is that we talk about and have rules of engagement about our meetings.
I think if you talk and get all the small things out in the open, then there isn't any resentment. I will never be jealous of him. I am more jealous of her, in that she gets to have fun and im busting my hump trying to meet new people.

I kind of feel bad that our friend is incapacitated at the moment, so if I find someone it will just be me having fun.

Remember now, we are not fucking random people each time. Too much dangerous shit out there even if you are safe all the time.

 

[jdynasty]

u r so lucky!

CC

 

[Freak Nasty]

Only lucky because we get along with each other so well. I just think most guys want it one way without the other. My wife doesn't really want to be with another woman so the MFF threesome is a no-go. So the next best thing is a one on one with someone else.

Many say it will end bad or ruin what you got. Well I will tell you it will not unless both of you are not going in with a mindset that this is just fucking. Its not dating, its not seeing someone on the side. Its just fucking. Maybe hang out to get a drink or play pool or something.
We don't spend money on the other person like someone would do when dating or trying to date. I want to get off or she wants to get off from someone different than we are used to.
Nothing to do with who is better, but different. Sex is sex, love and commitment are just that. Im not leaving and neither is she.

I can tell anyone who is thinking about it to cover ALL the potential circumstances.
Is kissing allowed? What about oral sex? Who provides protection? Im telling you, you got to think about all things and make sure both people understand.
Men and women can say the same thing and interpret it completely different. Its like people say repeat what I say and this is what I mean by it.
That way when someone says "no oral" and someone goes down to get things slippery, the other person (in the relationship) doesn't blow (no pun) their top. We also don't hide things from each other. We don't go into detail about each stroke but we are considerate of each other. IE. "Hey Im gonna be home late, so don't worry. Im hanging out with <insert name here>"