Does this keep happening to everyone else?

[Seashell]

You're friends with a guy for a pretty long time, everything is cool, you feel really comfortable around him.

Then one day out of the blue.. he puts the moves on you. And then everything gets weird and uncomfortable and it messes up the "friendship".

Or does everyone else have guy friends that don't hit on them? Or do they, but there's no weirdness afterwards and you can go back to being friends?

 

[MissJanet79]

I'm right there with you Seashelly... this has always happened to me. I hate it 'cause the next male buddy will be like I'd never do that to you, etc etc. Next thing you know, they're writing you a letter or making moves.
I do however have ONE male friend who hasn't put the moves on me... he had a girlfriend when I met him YEARS ago & they had a child together...they got married & now have 3 kids together. So it's SAFER... although he does flirt a little from time to time, but he's HARMLESS.

MEN!!

 

[FigureSkater]

Seeing that every guy I've ever really dated for more than a few weeks was someone I was friends with first, I've had that happen to me plenty of times (but it was usually mutual coming on to each other). And usually if it doesn't work out we're ok going back to being friends, even though that often takes time for things to get back to normal....actually, come to think of it, most of my current guy friends are friends I sort of dated but it didn't work out for one reason or another.

 

[mbrooke5]

Personally I think as women we have "male" friends just in case. Just in case something goes wrong in our relationship, life, etc. But I have a bunch of male friends and most of them have tried to make the move or ask me on a date, but i just laugh and tell them u wish. It may be a little uncomfortable for awhile, but it usually calms down! Guys are guys and they want to know what's under those clothes especially when they like you already as a "friend"

 

[Seashell]

Hmm...well I'm more referring to the situation where there's no romantic interest from the female's side.. otherwise that's not quite what I'd call a "friend". If you kinda like the guy, then there'd be no issues with him hitting on you.. right?

But if you have no interest that way, and all along have assumed he didn't either, then it gets weird afterwards when something happens..

I hear you though mbrooke... it'll calm down after a bit I guess. It's just mucho awkward right now.. d'oh!

 

[wutangsfiancee]

Seashell

You could always try this line....... Really I am flattered, BUT I think of you as a brother and that would be totally not my thing...lol..... I have used it a couple of times.. This seems to make them feel a little better about being turned down and then it is put into a different light and it isnt as weird afterwards...

 

[MissJanet79]

Seashell

You could always try this line....... Really I am flattered, BUT I think of you as a brother and that would be totally not my thing...lol..... I have used it a couple of times.. This seems to make them feel a little better about being turned down and then it is put into a different light and it isnt as weird afterwards...

SOOO TRUE... I've used that plenty of times... doesn't hurt their ego's!

 

[mbrooke5]

But if you have no interest that way, and all along have assumed he didn't either, then it gets weird afterwards when something happens..

I think guys always have the intention of getting in our pants, that's just their nature. So Seashell you may have assumed, but he knew what he was doing by playing the friend game. Hey the lines that the girls metioned worked for me and them, so it is likely that it'll work for you!

 

[velvett]

Yes, but this hasn't happened in years - as I've gotten older my guy friends are near non-existent and now replaced by girlfriends.

 

[Puddles]

I have some guy friends who know better than to really try to hit on me. I don't mind a little flirting though...that's always fun.