Does SEX play a big role .............................

[velvett]

If you don't have good sex, it's most likely a symptom of a more serious problem (for your friend, the guy not caring about her orgasm is simply unacceptable and shows what he really values, and it's not her).

exactly

 

[Kroliczek]

Sex is fun in a relationship...it SHOULD be fun. But it is not crucial. I love sex: I would have sex 10 times a day if I had my way all the time. We have a lot of fun having sex. But if he is tired or if we are busy, we can enjoy our time together doing something else:
talking, laughing, drinking, smoking, ANYTHING ELSE.

The 'foundation' of a relationship had better be something more concrete than sex. If not, when the sex wains, the relationship will as well.

 

[hardrock]

Good a reason as any in my book. With my last girlfriend I couldn't break one off most of the time. Partly cause she gained so much weight and I wasn't physically attracted to her and the other part was she was kinda a dead fish.

What kind of prick doesn't even try to get his lady off? I won't even finish until my girl does.

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Being a bad lover is not the same as being a selfish one.

If he doesn't care about her sexual pleasure there are probably other issues about her life that he doesn't give a shit about.

True.. and now that she's at wits end, she said sure he's trying but the sexual attraction is near gone.

 

[Lady Viking]

I coudlnt be in a relationship that i wasnt attracted to the man.....and u gotta get the big O

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[Sweet_Bitch]

Shallow nothing.

I dated this guy once, great guy-sweetest guy, my best friend. We had so much in commone and always had a great time together. But the sex SUCKED. Bad. I tried for a while to improve the situation but in the end I couldn't handle it. It made more sense to me keep the friendship and find a boyfriend that was good in bed, thus having the best of both worlds. (This of course did not work out, but it was a nice idea.) Seriously though, there is nothing worse then bad, unsatisfying sex. And I think some of the guys will even agree with that!! It is hard to tell someone that you are ending things-especially a marriage-over sex though. ANd yeah, to say it out loud does sound kind of shallow, but is she's unhappy then her happiness is more important. If all he wants is someone to get him off he can go buy a doll.

 

[hamstershaver]

sex is overrated

 

[SoKlueles]

sex is overrated

no its not, its feelings between two people.......strong lusty feelings

 

[hamstershaver]

no its me catching a nut qucik so i can go watch the game

 

[velvett]

True.. and now that she's at wits end, she said sure he's trying but the sexual attraction is near gone.

My gal pal is having the same problem and his behavior does lead into all aspects of their life.

It's ok for him to get off in bed but not her.
It's ok for him to go out with his friends but not her.
It's ok for him to go and come home whenever he gets there but not her.
It's ok for him to eat dessert and pasta but not her.
It's ok from him to not take care of their son (ie: feed & change diapers)but not her.
It's ok for him to put off the housework but not her.


She begged him to go to counseling and he said there's nothing wrong with him. Then she placed blame on herself trying to get him to go by saying that there's something wrong with her and that she need him to be there to understand what was wrong and why. You know what that fuckhead said, "that's not my problem".

I'm their son's Godmother and I'll be damned if I'll go to their house when he's home. I can't even look at him without taking a frying pan to his head - he took one of the strongest girls I know and put a huge crack in her soul and it breaks my heart.