Im the same way... but I have to cool the fuck off before I can even think about holding my wife. Otherwise within 3 minutes im so hot I just have to get some seperation, period. And i swear to you my wife has more hair than any woman I have ever seen! Its like i got a lion's mane on the pillow next to me. For that reason she ends up holding me quite often because breathing into that shit gets me overheated fast, or just damn near chokes me... and ill take a raincheck on all that!
However when Im not hot as hell, I love holding my wife and either I hold her or she holds me when we go to bed every night. Its good stuff