do people know when they are bad in bed?

[bigguns7]

Not to make excuses for someone who is a shitty fuck BUT . . .

It could be that the two of you aren't compatible . . . yet

For instance, one of my girlfriends could not stand having fingers inserted in her, only rubbing on the outside. But my next girlfriend only liked having fingers inserted in her, no rubbing on the outside. Had I only had a one night stand with my second girlfriend, she would have thought that I sucked in bed, but after we were together for a while, she communicated it to me and then things were great.

Another example, some girls can't stand a guy thrusting deep, but other girls only get pleasure out of it if the guy is drilling holes in her. If you liked it deep, but you slept with a guy whose last girl liked it shallow, you might think he sucked in bed,when in reality he just doesn't know what you like.

by telling someone your likes and dislikes during sex, YOU can make THEM better in bed.

But, some people just suck no matter what.

 

[rnch]

old quote from mae west (NOT may1010)

'when i'm good i'm great, but when i'm BAD i'm BETTER!"

 

[M1KAI]

bigguns7,
Im not having a jibe at you but if your GOOD in bed you should be able to tell if somone is responding or enjoying what you are doing to them then change it to suite them i do you can normally tell by body moments and any moans or groans she makes...!


but i agree its better when someone tells you waht really gets them off or gives you a clue so you can build on it sex starts ok with a person but gets better..!


Thats why one nighters are not as good a haing it with people who you have slept with before as you know how to get them off really well...!

 

[SeXKiTTen_CanDy]

You’re bad in bed if you just lie there and do nothing.

Contribution is a must.

 

[M1KAI]

SeXKiTTen_CanDy,
You know it depends what position your in really you cant do much if the bloke is on top as such.

when im on top my girl does not do anything as such as im in complete control and if she does try it fucks it up (guess i can be quite doninating) but when she is on top there is fuck all i can do, By that i mean that if she is sat bolt upright it can be hard. but if she is on top but lieing on me then sure we can both work it..!

It depends what position your doing and depends if you like to dominate or not people are different and its alot of fun when you have two very dominating people in bed things get very competative

My girl is quite submissive and lets me do what i want to her and does what i say.

Had one girl once that was as mad as me and we where at it for hours trying to out class each other...!

What im trying to say is that no one is crap as such we just do things differently to others and i would never say to a girl hey you where crap do you know how much damage you can do by saying that..!

Just be understanding with them hold there hand and show then the way, say its ok if they are unsure about things or if they fuck up dont go off at them just say dont worry and try again sex should be fun for both people. It does not take very long for someone to know what they like.

The only people i would take the piss out of are the ones that say they are studs and can fuck all night long and can make you cum in 2 mins. Then you get them in the sack and they are nothing like they say. Dont say there crap make them cum and dont cum yourself and when your getting close say:

"Sorry im not getting anywhere can we leave it for now".

I did that once to a girl who was boasting to all her friends and me how good she was etc. She had not slept with very many people as she did not really know what she was doing and seemed very nervouse. She was very timid after that night and she said in the morning um sorry can we keep this between me and you

When her friends asked me how she was i said she was OK and i enjoyed it. I did not wanna distroy her just knock her down a peg or two

 

[fiatconspiracy]

if you are a guy an are bad in bed, double down on the oral sex

 

[~Elizabeth]

I believe that bad sexual performance has many causes:
Overly self-conscious
Not able to let go
Not observing what your partner’s body language is telling you
Not paying enough attention to the partner
Glory fucking
Lack of communication
Unsure of what YOU want from the experience


I always felt that if your not going to do something right the first time don’t waste your time.

When your talking sex if you’re not in for the distance, fool around, come back to it and get down!

Theirs NO excuse for Failure

I have had one moderate sexual experience, he was quick and thought that was it! The night had gone perfectly, he preformed mentally, he was capable of performing physically then he came and went. I didn’t tolerate the poor performance, explained there was more to do. He got a 10 min down time, I worked him over and then I worked him out.

I made him play twice as long for NOT DOING THE JOB RIGHT THE FIRST TIME

Then I didn’t bother to call him back.

There is more to life than sex, if you know what you want you will have it.
I knew that if he wasn’t conscious enough to make that first impression it was a small hill and fast slide down.


Excuses aren’t something someone makes once; it’s usually a way of life!


There’s just too much out there to be distracted with excuses.

 

[smallmovesal]

now that's what i'm talking about!

 

[Train Harder]

Jen how could someone not get it up for you.

 

[WIDELAT]

DO GIRLS?

WHAT ABOUT GIRLS I HAVE HAD A FEW THAT WERE HORRIBLE DO THEY KNOW? HOW ARE YOU?