Do men like to be hit on?

[smurf2]

I think of it as stupidity because i didnt think things out properly and because of that, i made bad decisions.

 

[blueta2]

what if you have a character flaw/ a thing you know you do ...and you still do it..do it while you recognize youre doing it but somehow think the outcome will be different??

fml

Work on ridding yourself of the flaw. Ask a higher power to remove it (al anon talking here) and then make a conscience decision to stop it.
I'm actually leaving right now to start a Mindful Meditation course which this sort of mediation addresses character defects etc.

 

[blueta2]

I think of it as stupidity because i didnt think things out properly and because of that, i made bad decisions.

ok, but we are human we mess up. Just dislike the self name calling even if the action was stupid, you were not! The action was.

I hear you on the making the bad decisions. Most of mine were based on fear, so changing that now.

 

[shirlene29]

I think of it as stupidity because i didnt think things out properly and because of that, i made bad decisions.

for me I know its a gullibility about human nature...so ya, it is stupidity.
I dont think someone will be willfully cruel when Im proved wrong time and again...and I wear my heart on my sleeve which people take for a weakness when its really that I'm just very open about my emotions with people Im close to.
fuck it..

 

[blueta2]

<--- wears heart on sleeve also!


Gets me into a whole heap of trouble. I'm learning how to detach from my "good girl" these days. Everyone tells me I need to get tougher and meaner with men. In business I'm a shark and in friendships, I take no shit, but when it comes to relationships, I get like jello

 

[shirlene29]

I gotta be honest outright lust has gotten the better of me quite a few times...and a willingness to please a whole nother buncha times
Im also to free with money-gifts...and looking back I'm wondering how many people I just unintentionally "bought" and who was really there for me

funny to me how many friends or lovers I had their back but they rarely had mine
I've become a bit of a recluse because of it...

 

[smurf2]

I def am not open with my emotions whatsoever

 

[miplank]

I def am not open with my emotions whatsoever

yeah, cuz those 2 years of you and chris' doing all that lovey dovey gay shit on EF never happened

 

[blueta2]

I gotta be honest outright lust has gotten the better of me quite a few times...and a willingness to please a whole nother buncha times
Im also to free with money-gifts...and looking back I'm wondering how many people I just unintentionally "bought" and who was really there for me

funny to me how many friends or lovers I had their back but they rarely had mine
I've become a bit of a recluse because of it...

You sound a lot like me. I did and do a lot for others and they rarely have my back. I mean some close friends do, but the men in my life, well they never did!
It's all about being codependent. We tend to make our own selves feel needed and who are we if we are not needed right?
We are forced to look at our own self when we have no one else to focus on.
Hard to change that, but it is possible

 

[redsamurai]

yeah, cuz those 2 years of you and chris' doing all that lovey dovey gay shit on EF never happened

ololololololol