Divorces Did You Marry Your Soul Mate?

[curling]

I know alot of you didn't like "The Mexican" but it had a good theme and it came from the gay hit man. Where he said if you truly love somebody when is enough enough and the answer was never. So it got me thinking if you truly love someone and they are your soulmate the theme was you should never stop trying no matter how hard it gets.

I am having some trouble in my own marriage now and it is weird because it is like three days from our 20th anniversary and I am taking her to Vegas but I would almost rather take a bud instead of her right now.

But I know she is my soul mate we have been through it all together but I just need to realize that marriage like life is a rollercoaster and we are the bottom now but hopefully it will come back up.

Anyway I was just wonder if you got a divorce if you considered your SO your soulmate or did you get married "just because".

 

[HUCKLEBERRY FINNaplex]

Not divorced yet,but I certainly did not marry my soulmate.Just my kids mom.

 

[Pamela]

No I did not.

He was a long hair bass player in a Rock / Blues band.

 

[WODIN]

There is no such thing.

 

[hamstershaver]

if you divorce them they werent your soulmate

 

[curling]

There is no such thing.

You better take that back or I am going to tell your wife and she will cut you off for a month. Hope your hand is working well.

Hamster,

Good wise point.

 

[WODIN]

You better take that back or I am going to tell your wife and she will cut you off for a month. Hope your hand is working well.

Hamster,

Good wise point.

been there done that.

 

[biteme]

Evidently not. But I don't believe in the whole soulmate thing. That there is only person out there for everyone. A bunch of cockamamie. Did I spell that right?

 

[WODIN]

You better take that back or I am going to tell your wife and she will cut you off for a month. Hope your hand is working well.

Hamster,

Good wise point.

You're just digging for bullshit reasons to dump your looney tunes wife.

 

[The_Ghost]

Before I would have said yes, but now I think it is possible to have multiple soulmates out there.

 

[curling]

You're just digging for bullshit reasons to dump your looney tunes wife.

Hey, only I can call her looney tunes. You know it is the same priciple as you can say bad things about your family but nobody else can. I don't maybe you're right. She don't want to do anything anymore. She is acting like she is 70 or something. She always wants to stay home. I told her you know you have plenty of time to be old and can't do nothing when you are old and can't do nothing live life now before it passes you by. Then we just get in a big fight again. I mean she promised me she would ride me with the sport bike group Sunday and she went back on her word on that and it really pissed me off.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Could it be possible that one person feels the other is their soulmate but the other person does not feel the same?

I think I had that once.

 

[jnevin]

I'll be officially divorced for three weeks tomorrow. It's a tough thing. I've wondered what I could have done different, she says the same thing. It's a bitch when two really good people aren't good together. She's trying to work on what ruined it for us on her end to get back with me. I'm trying to work on the same so I don't make the same in another relationship. I'll love her forever, but don't think I'll be able to be truly happy with her. As far as one soulmate goes, I don't know. Just make sure you'll be able to live with the consequences. It's honestly the hardest thing I've ever done and keep wondering if it was the right thing, even though my gut tells me it was.

 

[starfish]

I think I will marry or be with my soul mate. I don't necessarily have to be married. It's dealing with all the players/liars before you find that person which sux.

 

[jnevin]

Could it be possible that one person feels the other is their soulmate but the other person does not feel the same?

I think I had that once.

That's exactly how it is for my ex-wife and I. She's convinced I'm the only person in the world for her, but I have doubts. I've been seeing someone and it's going well. I still miss my ex every day. Like I said, hard situation.

 

[SoKlueles]

I think I will marry or be with my soul mate. I don't necessarily have to be married. It's dealing with all the players/liars before you find that person which sux.

I agree

 

[Forge]

But I know she is my soul mate we have been through it all together but I just need to realize that marriage like life is a rollercoaster and we are the bottom now but hopefully it will come back up.

Anyway I was just wonder if you got a divorce if you considered your SO your soulmate or did you get married "just because".

Marriage is full of ups and downs; the couples that survive the long haul hold on through the downs and enjoy the highs, while the divorcees bail when the ride gets boring. A good marriage takes work, most people today believe that when it gets hard it's over, and that is just wrong. Divorce has been made too easy and convenient for couples. You have to be willing to compromise and make sacrifices for the marriage. My wife couldn't do that, so we are divorced.

Was she my soulmate? We both believed so when we exchanged vows, we still have those feelings for each other. But it takes more than love to make a marriage work. I don't believe that we have only one "soulmate" for each other in this world; it's just a word to describe two people who are deep in love and get along really well. So yes I believe she was my soulmate, and hopefully I find another down the road.

 

[crew9]

Could it be possible that one person feels the other is their soulmate but the other person does not feel the same?

I think I had that once.

If you are even talking about who I think you're talking about so help me god

 

[Patrick Steele]

Soul makes don't exist. I hate hearing women talking about waiting for their soulmate to come along before they get married. There are no soul mates. Relationships and marriages are about getting along with one another and having great sex. Some people classify that as a soulmate.

 

[gtrcivic]

my last gf i was w/for 6 1/2 yrs.. no she was not my soulmate...ended going crazy on me and had to let her go.....

soulmate ??? don't think there is one out there...but pick the one that is most compatible

 

[Patrick Steele]

my last gf i was w/for 6 1/2 yrs.. no she was not my soulmate...ended going crazy on me and had to let her go.....

soulmate ??? don't think there is one out there...but pick the one that is most compatible

Exactly. When I first start dating a girl, it's all fun and always have a great time being together. But then after getting to know them for a while, they turn into a totally diffirent person. They become more controlled, start acting crazy and ask wayyyy to many personal question.

 

[alien amp pharm]

If you are even talking about who I think you're talking about so help me god

 

[jerseyart]

No I did not.

He was a long hair bass player in a Rock / Blues band.

LOL

And it didn't work out?

 

[theoak01]

Im not married yet but Ive been with my girlfriend for 3 years,minus a 2 month stint on my own recently,and before I thought I could marry her,but after today when she showed me she could be violent by throwing shit at me Im glad I woke the fuck up. and now I dont believe I have a soul mate,but I will find someone who me and her can mutally tolerate and respect enough not to drive each other nuts

 

[riverrock]

Had an interesting talk about this with a Canadian girl while on holidays a few years ago. I mean, in a world of about 6 Billion, how culd there be just 1 person out there only?

 

[casualbb]

I think the whole soulmate concept is dangerous...

it pegs you as needing this person, being incomplete without them, etc. Clinging to this idea is what makes people tolerate negative or harmful situations. "but he/she is my soulmate"

There are endless numbers of people that would make any given individual happy. Optimally you shouldn't "need" your SO but rather have decided to be with them based on how they make you feel

 

[Pamela]

LOL

And it didn't work out?

No, I'm sorry to say it didn't!

We were both way to young.

 

[gregory]

I think the whole soulmate concept is dangerous...


There are endless numbers of people that would make any given individual happy. Optimally you shouldn't "need" your SO but rather have decided to be with them based on how they make you feel

Yes this is true. There are endless people that would make someone happy. The problem comes when you try to meet them. You're lucky if you actually find just one in a lifetime, most never find that person, as proven by the divorce rates.

 

[biteme]

Had an interesting talk about this with a Canadian girl while on holidays a few years ago. I mean, in a world of about 6 Billion, how culd there be just 1 person out there only?

Only the igonorant think so, you know those damn Bush supporters. LOL

 

[The Shadow]

Could it be possible that one person feels the other is their soulmate but the other person does not feel the same?

I think I had that once.

Frisky, right?