Definition of romance?

[Ceebs]

I know we talk really dirty on this board, but once in awhile it's nice to stop and appreciate the value of romance, if only to add variety to your sexual routine.

I used to think that romance was about candlelit dinners, flowers, and all of those greeting card cliches, but now I'm thinking it's about connecting with someone on an intellectual level, and simply showing genuine kindness and caring. You can't pin romance down to an activity or a gift of material possessions - it's in the way you relate to your significant other. You can be having the nastiest, porn star-iest sex ever, but as long as you have nothing but loving intentions in your heart - that's romantic.

At least, that's my definition - how do you all define it?

(Mods, feel free to move this to Chat if you deem it appropriate.)

 

[Bigsatan13]

Kind of like the difference between "making love" and "having hot monkey pornstar sex"? My wife and I have always had hot pornstar sex, since day one, and it keeps getting wilder as the years go by. If you would have asked me 10 years ago where our relationship would be today sexually speaking I would have never seen this coming. Anyway, romance can be perceived differently and be as individual as one's fingerprint. Now to answer your original question, romance for us is flirting, teasing, touching, talking, rough-housing, riding, laughing and just enjoying spending time with each other. Her friends tell her they admire our relationship. I translate that to be that they want to fuck me hot monkey pornstar style.

 

[Puddles]

It's the gentle kiss on my forehead, the long embrace out of the blue, the "I Love You" said in the middle of the day, the cup of coffee brought to me while I'm still in bed in the morning, the "wow, your ass looks great in those jeans" as we're walking down the street, the phone call to just say "hi," sharing the laughter over a joke that only the two of us understand kind of things. It's the little things that happen every day that make me smile and think how lucky I am to be with the love of my life. To me, that is romance.

 

[buffdoc]

Good food for thought.
My wife and I've been together 18 years now (!). I think it has to do with mutual respect and a real desire to do whatever it takes to advance the psycho-emotional and spiritual growth and welfare of the other person, however that tends to manifest.
This attitude leads to a certain amount of willing, joyful self-sacrifice; so then the payback far excedes the investment. A seeming paradox, but it works.
Within this context, which also implies open communication, the most intense, nasty porno-sex can take on an elevated, spiritual significance. Love-making with this intentionality can change the couple, and in some ways, the world that we inject this energy into.
Philosophically yours,
buffdoc

 

[buffdoc]

Bump. Nobody else, or is it too scary?

 

[Bigsatan13]

NAH! Bunch of stiffs in here.

 

[Puddles]

NAH! Bunch of stiffs in here.

You know that's a good thing for the Sheets!

 

[Robert Jan]

romance is when you get layd like ALL the time. not like every week or every day or some shit but like ALL the time.

and when i say all the time.... i mean ALL the time.

seriously tho romance is in definition "as it happens in the storys"

poetic
artistic
beautiful

type of love

like as in... suck me beautiful

 

[Gladiola]

I think romance is just the way you show or communicate that you love & care for your partner.

Personally, I wouldn't find a dozen red roses romantic. It would piss me off. It's cliched & shows no thought & originality, but I'm weird like that.

In my relationship, romance manifests itself in some goofy ways. Snuggling is romantic to us. I just have to look at him a certain way or make the smallest noise & he'll turn from the computer & know I want my "Favorite Place" (sitting on his lap).

I love funny notes & silly e-mails. I am very attached to my teddy bear & he has my bear leave me notes sometimes that say he asked the bear to tell me how much he loves me.

Caring & concern is romantic. When he looks out for my needs, when he sticks up for me, when he puts my needs/wants ahead of his. -> all those things that show love.

 

[the_jarhead]

That is exactly how my wife and I are. The only time I can remember have making love slowly was when she had her boobs done and that was only cause it hurt when they moved. We both like hard, fast, talking dirty, hair pulling, ass slapping, pound it home sex. I don’t buy flowers never have I think it’s a waist of money they only going to die in a few days anyway. Hell I could buy her a new vibrator for the same price and we can have fun with that for a long time.
They way define romance is the fact we never want to be apart from each other. I have friends who can’t wait till poker night so they can get away from their wives. I think that is sad. I don’t go out often with out my wife because I don’t like to. I have more fun with whatever I am doing if she is there.
Romance is the fact that we are best friends.

 

[Ceebs]

Bump for any new thoughts on the matter.

 

[vinylgroover]

Bump for any new thoughts on the matter.

i think you covered it beautifully with your original post.

 

[Pamela]

I like writing little love notes and hide them in his lunch.

And I get up early and all throughout the house I light candles
so when my love gets up, he see the house all lit up with candles & smelling very good.

One Valentines Day I cut out Red Hearts and wrote I LOVE YOU
on all of them and put them up all over the bed room.

 

[vinylgroover]

I like writing little love notes and hide them in his lunch.

And I get up early and all throughout the house I light candles
so when my love gets up, he see the house all lit up with candles & smelling very good.

One Valentines Day I cut out Red Hearts and wrote I LOVE YOU
on all of them and put them up all over the bed room.

How sweet is Pamela. You simply MUST be a angel.

 

[Ceebs]

How sweet is Pamela.

Very. If she were any sweeter, I'd have to take a cap of r-ALA to lower my blood sugar.

 

[Pamela]

How sweet is Pamela. You simply MUST be a angel.

&

 

[Pamela]

Very. If she were any sweeter, I'd have to take a cap of r-ALA to lower my blood sugar.

Thank You
for you too..

 

[Puddles]

A couple of nights ago I woke up to go to the bathroom and as I was crawling back into bed my husband opened his eyes, smiled, and said "I love you," and put his hand on my arm when I settled back under the covers. It's little things like that that just melt my heart and make me feel like I'm the luckiest woman in the world.

It's the big smile and the high-five he gives meas we walk past eachother when we're supper setting excercises on opposite ends of the gym . Sharing the fun in every day things together is romantic.

 

[notoriousQQ]

romance is such a dynamic thing. Romance and being romantic has a great deal to do with being attentive to your partner IMO. Initially romance has to do with discovery and interest in who someone is and attraction and personal expression IMO. Sometimes romance has to do with cards, candy, jewelry, flowers and other ways of showing that I care/love her. Sometimes its more of sharing that special part of myself emotionally and spending time in ways that are meaningful like laying on a blanket under the stars drinking champagne and eating strawberries, or cuddling up in front of the fire holding each other- just sharing in the small beauitful things in life that I find to make special memories. Other times it is making her breakfast in bed or drawing her a warm bubble bath, giving her a cup of hot chocalate with a candy cane in it and giving her a massage afterwards if she's had a long day. But, then again, romance could also be fucking her like a porn star at the end of a night out on the town whenever she has been absolutely dressed to kill and there is nobody in the world that I would rather be close to/ share myself with. Anyway, my incoherent .02 in ramblings.

 

[Friscochick]

Romance to me is at an unexpected time the person looking into your eyes, and connecting to your soul without even saying a word.

Romance to me is at a time when the last thing you want to do is be romantic, your partner reaching over and gently holding your hand.

Romance to me is loving someone so much that you feel that being next to them, even hugging them is not enough..


Romance to me is having a lil flower in the park picked just for you, and have it put in your hair.


Romance to me is having someone run there fingers thru your hair and being able to feel the admiration and love without even looking them in the face..

 

[andezzz999]

Sky fits heaven ....
so ride it....
Lips fit mouth....
so kiss them....
boy fits girl so hold your baby tight...
and the lips they kiss remind you of someone you once knew...
long, long, ago,
familiar as these blue jeans that fit like a glove,
like an old lover cuming back for more.

Of course, my wife things doing the dishes and vacumming for her is romantic even foreplay!

I think romance is doing the unselfesh things that don't have to be asked for but are always appreciated. It can be a kiss a hug, a neck rub....it can be coming home with something special, just going out of ones way in an effort to do somthing nice.

Selfless giving....

 

[Frackal]

I like writing little love notes and hide them in his lunch.

And I get up early and all throughout the house I light candles
so when my love gets up, he see the house all lit up with candles & smelling very good.

One Valentines Day I cut out Red Hearts and wrote I LOVE YOU
on all of them and put them up all over the bed room.

I wonder how many women there are in the US that are similiar in goodness

 

[robsatx]

romance to me . . .

My idea of Romance:

My wife has recently taught me to "love" in a way I never knew existed. Although I have always loved my wife, I have learned (with her help) that to truly love someone requires a lot more risk than I had ever imagined. With greater risk comes greater reward.

As I was learning this "amazing love" - I was having a difficult time loving her that much. I have never felt so vulnerable in all my life. For the first time in our marriage, I feel like we are "holding" each others "hearts" - almost traded. It is very difficult to "describe". But it feels like I am more in tune with her "feelings" than ever before. I feel like a teenager in love that has never been hurt before - but so much more.

Sounds weird . . . huh? Never knew that love could be like this.

Anyhow since this has happened, My wife has become the "best" wife any man could ever ask for. Don't get me wrong she was always a "great" wife. Now she is this amazing - indescribable womain. I can't stop staring at her. I miss her when I am away and she knows exactly how to make me smile. I try my hardest all the time to make her happy. I thought this would fade after a few days. It has been nearly a month and I am looking for more things to try to make here happy. I try to do little things that seem to make a big difference for her.

I can not believe she has felt this way since the beginning. I felt almost "lost" when I realized where I was in my relationship with my wife. She was miles ahead.

Anyhow, thanks for listening. I probably did not do a good job with the description as it is difficult to describe.

Simple Things:

Don't ever forget the love for one and other. Remember to take time and just "talk", "look" and truly "listen" to one and other. Tell each other how much you love each other with simple actions. A smile when you see him/her walk in the door. A kiss goodnight with a long "tight" hug. Feed each other ice cream, cookies or whatever you guys like. Tell each other things you have not told each other in a long time. Bring up memories of good times before, during and after kids. Look at pictures in your early dating stage. It is amazing about the things that you can talk about that will bring back great feelings you forgot existed. Then after you do all that, remember to do it all the time.

To me, the burdens seem to go away during that time together. The pain of the past seems to go also. I have never felt so much joy as I have recently.

I love my wife more than words could ever describe. I can look at her for hours as she sleeps and just smile. I love so many things about her.

I thank the Lord every day for my wife.

P.S. I truly hope that others can feel the way I do. In all my life this has been the most amazing love I have ever experienced. Sex with someone you love like this will be UNREAL. You can almost feel what they feel. It is so much more than sharing. God, I wish I could do a better job of describing this LOVE.

 

[robsatx]

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[Puddles]

Robstax...sounds like you've fallen in love with your wife all over again...only this time it's really deep in your soul. The two of you are one. I'm so happy when I hear other couples feeling like this. This is what life is all about. Enjoy!!!

 

[Ceebs]

How timely - I was just going to bump this in honor of next Friday.

 

[guards]

Romance, for me, is the glint in the person you care about's eye when they look at you.


It's only fucking if that glint isn't present

NOW i feel like a femme

 

[Pamela]

robsatx,

I feel your love for you wife..

You have found something that few people find.

What you have describe is what most people are looking
for and this is what life is really about..


Happy Valentines Day to you Both..


Pamela

 

[robsatx]

P.S.

Forgot to tell you guys. Thank you for the "clean" ideas that you have given me for my wife and I. I have big plans for the Valentines day weekend.

Have a great one . . .

 

[Surgical]

My girl is in Italy right now for school for the semester. I love sending her cards, DVD's to watch. Just anything that makes her day a little better. Just today she received the Valentine's Day box I sent to her, filled with Myoplex, some chocolate to cheat with a DVD, and 2 Vanentine's cards. It made my day to imagine the smile on her face when she got it because she was not expecting it at all. Just the little things, the notes and little things you say mean the most. We often go back to the French restaurant where I fell in love with her. I'm going to visit her in 27 days, can't wait!!!