Confused with my relationship....NEED ADVICE!!

[Shoot Me Up]

Ok guys and girls here is how it is, I met this girl a couple of weeks ago who is absolutely HOT sick body, size double 0 and very sweet girl but OBSESSED WITH ME. I have always had this problem with needing attention and boy do i get it now!, she is all over me and does anything, gives me head whenever i want, in my car, have sex 6 times in one day, sex in her parents house, on the beach, you name it we did it. The wierd thing that I need help with is that now that this girl is totally into me, I miss the challenge that I had in my last relationship. I mean this girl is sweet and everything but does not compare at all to my X. Even though I felt sexually deprived in quantity in my last relatinship and would never really get head, it was soo much more special and meaningfull. My real head is a freakin train wreck right now and need some good genuine advice. I mean there is no way I could ever go back with my X right now because I cant keep playing around with her feelings but I still see myself marrying her in the future. has anyone been in my situation?

 

[machaveli]

everyone likes a little challange. thats the name of the game. take that away and we have nothing. It seems your still hung up on your x which is fine -- you'll probably grow fonder of her as time passes, in the meantime have fun and get freaky with the girl you have now and things will work themselves out. remember, never have regrets.

 

[Shoot Me Up]

Thanks a lot Machaveli, appreciate your advice, its wierd though because she has been writing me letters saying that I am an angel sent down for heaven and she is like falling for me HARD and I am not on the same level because I feel like My X deserves more then her......how fuckin wierd is that!! and this girl does anything for me too!!!!

 

[out of control]

I know what your feeling bro been there and played that. My ex and I split and I went and fucked everything that moved ( within my standards ) But she came crawling back but I decided that things would be fine but would eventually play themselves out again. So now I'm happy with my new girl, she was innocent when I met her but I'm changing that

 

[slobberknocker]

Whatever you do, be fair to this woman. It sounds like you're just in it for sex, and you don't really want a relationship with her. I'm not judging you, because that's your decision. BUT, I think you owe it to this person to make sure that SHE understands what you want out of this, so that she doesn't get hurt.



Does she seem to want a relationship with you, or is she just having fun too?

 

[buckydingdong]

dude, what the hell are you disappointed with? This chick jumps your bones, fucks you, gives you head apparently where/whenever... make sure she isn't doing it just to reel you in, I hate when that drops off after you date for a while. If she is freaky like that... hell yeah. if she also is into you and is cool, like you get along and have some common interests, i dont know what you are complaining about. There is a reason you and your ex broke up i'm sure. If you go back, you'll have the same problems. Give this girl the benefit of a doubt, sounds like a winner to me.

 

[Deepsquat]

I hate to say this...and it is not meant as a rip ....but you sound like a girl!

The last "Girlfriend" that I had before meeting my wife.....fell for me fast and hard.....was and is one of the best looking women I have seen in my life. I was estatic! God ! Imagine every wet dream you ever had about a supermodel...she was it ....hell. when I was seeing her, the dude from Magiever ...Dennis something > tried to steel her away from me.....wanted to put her up in an apartment in hollywood so she could be his fuck buddy...( they were working on a movie ...Pandoras Box) But I won that one.
Anyway ...I decided to give her my heart and soul... she came from an abusive family life ( Mom used to beat her) and from an abusive marraige( husband used to beat her) ...But me...I was the kindest nicest most loving man she had ever met...and she kicked me to the curb after 4 months...she couldn't accept the fact the she was worthy of such attention ( I gave her plenty of space....but she knew I was madly in love with her...and I showed it by little things that no one had ever done for her..little gifts...oral sex just plain affection)
What I am getting at is she she couldn't handle the fact that her dream of a great life was coming true..so she decided to destroy it before I could...And this is what it sounds like you may be doing ...you have idolized your ex...but she is an ex for a reason right ...either you dumped her or she dumped you ...either way it wasn't working ...give this horny ass chick a chance and see what happens...hell sounds like she is a keeper to me!

 

[PowerPrincess]

Typical Male Answers!!!! The reason why the EX is the EX is because the MALE EX flipped out on STEROIDS, ROID-RAGE!!!!! End of story.

 

[Generic MALE]

i wonder if you may have a 'fear of success" - or you feel underserving to have it good in life. You know, the type of guy who builds a successful business, relationship, body etc and then finds a way to sabatoge(sp?) or ruin it. He can't handle having it good - only feels "alive" when life is hard - so he makes his life more difficult than it needs to be - develops addictions that tear him down, ruin his business relationships, gets rid of girls that treat him well in order to be the boyfriend who is getting nothing and is being treated poorly.

This sounds pretty damn good - hot looking girl that almost worships you.....and the problem is what...? And you want to go back to a girl that left you in second or third place with the consolation prize.

Maybe I have it figured wrong but i would stay in this, try to develop it into something of real value that you can share.... and if it does not end up a relationship that is satisfying in the long run look elsewhere...but not backwards to one that did not work or was not satisfying.

 

[Generic MALE]

I just noticed deepsquat said about the same thing only better than me, sorry to be redundant

 

[dzuljas]

Typical Male Answers!!!! The reason why the EX is the EX is because the MALE EX flipped out on STEROIDS, ROID-RAGE!!!!! End of story.

that's a really shitty reason, there is no such thing as roid-rage, silly women........

 

[PowerPrincess]

that's a really shitty reason, there is no such thing as roid-rage, silly women........

Really....well I experienced it first hand from Pumpiron95 - so really before you all start giving advice on a half-truth, think that's there's another part of the puzzle missing.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Powerprincess, wow, chill out. No one is going to listen to you if you give outburst like that. Guys tend to blow off women who react like that as just being silly and emotional, and won't take you seriously. Calm down, and explain your side with detail, without getting angry and you'll get alot farther.

Shoot me up, sounds like a head trip. Anyway, for this one I don't have any great insightful advice. You've got a good thing going, don't blow it. Maybe she'll grow on you. If you tell her you don't love her, and she is actually interested in anything more than a sex with you, she'll definately be hurt, and will probably tell you to "hit the road...asshole". You need to find out what her feelings really are, and decide what you really want. If you can't just fuck her without feeling bad about it, you know you don't want a relationship with her, and it turns out she really does love you, you might want to cut her loose. That's about the best I can do on this one.

 

[jubei]

Sounds like you are still into the X and aren't interested in anyone else at the moment. "Roid rage" is bullshit. Why don't you call it lack of emotional stability or lack of self controll. That would be more accurate.

 

[solidspine]

Sounds like a typical chick, she should calm down in a few months, just be nice to her, but if you really love your X, drop the new babe and work things out