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VeggieLifterChick
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True, I really should just quit showing him pics out of that magazine! Gladiola, your sample conversation there is so familiar! Except luckily he doesn't go for the emaciated thing. He likes the thin but "soft" look, like Christina Ricci. The most muscular woman he can think of that looks hot is Demi Moore. 
I think you have a point there, Wyst. I think it probably sounds intimidating to a lot of men to hear that their gf wants to gain 20 pounds of muscle (or whatever amount). I think when they see it though, its another story entirely.
After our argument last night I emailed him explaining my specific goals, in order to make the whole muscle thing seem less intimidating to him. He wrote back today, and he seems a lot more reasonable than last night. I'm feeling a lot better about this. This is an excerpt from his email:
Masculinity doesn’t appeal to me sexually, or in terms of beauty. You know this. The fact that the women you choose as examples of the level of fitness you want to achieve have such outstanding masculine characteristics sets me aback, because I inherently do not want you to have those characteristics. Women can achieve excellent fitness and strength without looking like them. I understand that the extreme you hope to emulate have noticeable superiority to other women in the area of weightlifting, and thus it’s an example you want to follow. However I simply do not agree that typically male characteristics look good on a woman. Fitness and intensity in strength are appealing, but not to the extent that the result of such a regimen gives a non-appealing physique.
I seriously respect your goal of slimming down and gaining strength. You already look unbelievably beautiful, and your promise to look better excites me even more. Such is my goal as well. You say you love the way I look now, but I want to improve just as you do. And we discussed this earlier: I will have no complaints. Your list of target areas and goals sounds great. I'm sorry for telling you that i didn't care. I was just still a bit put-off from the conversation last night. Please accept my apology.
I think you have a point there, Wyst. I think it probably sounds intimidating to a lot of men to hear that their gf wants to gain 20 pounds of muscle (or whatever amount). I think when they see it though, its another story entirely.
After our argument last night I emailed him explaining my specific goals, in order to make the whole muscle thing seem less intimidating to him. He wrote back today, and he seems a lot more reasonable than last night. I'm feeling a lot better about this. This is an excerpt from his email:
Masculinity doesn’t appeal to me sexually, or in terms of beauty. You know this. The fact that the women you choose as examples of the level of fitness you want to achieve have such outstanding masculine characteristics sets me aback, because I inherently do not want you to have those characteristics. Women can achieve excellent fitness and strength without looking like them. I understand that the extreme you hope to emulate have noticeable superiority to other women in the area of weightlifting, and thus it’s an example you want to follow. However I simply do not agree that typically male characteristics look good on a woman. Fitness and intensity in strength are appealing, but not to the extent that the result of such a regimen gives a non-appealing physique.
I seriously respect your goal of slimming down and gaining strength. You already look unbelievably beautiful, and your promise to look better excites me even more. Such is my goal as well. You say you love the way I look now, but I want to improve just as you do. And we discussed this earlier: I will have no complaints. Your list of target areas and goals sounds great. I'm sorry for telling you that i didn't care. I was just still a bit put-off from the conversation last night. Please accept my apology.
