I think confusion abounds.
I don't know what aap was talking about.
Me personally, I think BM is a disgusting person with a TON of self hatred. However, she is skilled at playing the damsel in distress card and she is protected from high above, so it is what it is.
Anybody who attempts to make some sad excuse story for her is just naive, IMO.
But hey , wtf do I know. That's what "ignore" is for.