Well I havent been able to marry a doctor.
I got a good career, make my own schedule, house, great wife, never divorced, no kids from previous women. So Im happy and have time for my family.
Family means everything to me, I never got shit handed to me. I always made something of everything. On the other hand I need money to support my family...so yes, works HAS to come first. If it didn't, they would be living on the street...would that make sense? No
I may be mistaken, but weren't you already well-established financially before your fairly recent child?
If so, I'm curious. Did you feel any angst or urge about your finances when you found-out the latest kid was coming? The reason I ask is very specific: I see fathers-to-be stress-out over finances all the time. What always surprises me is to see a well-off father stress just as much (sometimes more) than a man who is less well-off. Did that wave of stress hit you, even briefly?
Good luck! The world could use a few SD Jr's IMO. And plan all you like, but to paraphrase Mike Tyson: Everybody's got a plan until I punch them in the face. Kids shake everything up.
I didn't think you were generalizing at all. It still shocks me when I see a kid completely blow it. For example, I can understand a kid from a very wealthy family wanting to pursue something less material (i.e. a priest, teacher or Peace Core worker). The ones I can't understand are the ones who simply do nothing or worse, do criminal and/or sociopathic acts.