when 90% of the people you meet- men and women, come to you discretely over time and tell you how much they wish they were single, it sheds a whole new light on things...i will say this: most of the 90% have gotten married for the wrong reasons at the time they did it (very begining)...there are times i long for someone special, because now i know so much more...the mistakes made in the past would not be repeated-Not to say new mistakes would not be made-but i have a much more clear understanding of what its all about, why- and to find someone at the same place and time, is going to be rough...however, iam content with my solitude, it is extremely liberating in many many ways...