Any swingers here??!!

[Heffe]

Com'on, there has to be a few on a board like this.

 

[smokinghawk]

Formerly, yes...My wife and I kinda fell out of it after we had a son. Now it's just the stuff of spoken fantasties for us.

 

[sermon_of_mockery]

My girl and I have been known to fiddle with the swinging crowd.We usually hit the elite parties held in l.a. But we have'nt attended for a few months now.There will always be a jealousy factor involved.Fun for us to try out,but it can hit a nerve once in a while.

 

[smokinghawk]

Never had the jealousy factor at all...and we were a "soft swing" couple (she played; I remained monogamous). In fact, I adored the arrangement and often wish we were back in the "good ol' days."

 

[TheStromba]

I wondered what the term "softswing" meant. The jealousy factor of my girl gettin some and me not would drive me nuts !

 

[rockn2dmax]

The jealousy factor of my girl gettin some and me not would drive me nuts !

Strange, would you be more jealous that you weren't getting any, or that your girl was doing someone else???
I think for me it's the later. Me and my girl are trying to get into the whole scene, we're talking to a couple of couples now...

 

[trouble_60]

My wife and I tried it. She had a hard time seeing me with another woman. We ended up ending the relashionship with the other couple because of it. For her there was to much attrachion between me and the other girl and she was only mildly attrackted to the other man. but she did get to do the girl and had a great time with that. Currently it no longer a part of our lives. It was great durring but had to many issues for the wife. She talkes like she would be willing to try again but I doubt it.

 

[Heffe]

It is fun but you definitely need a secure relationship and 100% trust. With these two things it can improve your relationship, without and swinging could end it.

 

[smokinghawk]

That was her fear--that I'd lose my trust and love after seeing her go through with it, or that I'd start pressuring her for "MY turn now!" when she doesn't want me to sleep with another woman.

Those fears are fine, and with hours of discussion (talk, not pleading and pressuring) we had the experiences, and they were amazing.

 

[needsize]

That was her fear--that I'd lose my trust and love after seeing her go through with it, or that I'd start pressuring her for "MY turn now!" when she doesn't want me to sleep with another woman.

Those fears are fine, and with hours of discussion (talk, not pleading and pressuring) we had the experiences, and they were amazing.

That's exactly where I'm at, she's afraid that once I let her play, then I'm going to want to do things that she's not okay with. She's the boss though.