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AMATEUR PSYCHOLOGISTS....analyze this DATING story
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Scotsman
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Could be one of two things.
1. She thinks you are the kind of guy she is supposed to be with. The kind that will make her mom happy and all that shit.
2. She thinks of you in the father figure way and is seeking the approval from you that her dad never gave her.
In either case run as fast as you can for as long as you can. I have been in both situations and they ended in absolute disaster.
Cheers,
Scotsman
1. She thinks you are the kind of guy she is supposed to be with. The kind that will make her mom happy and all that shit.
2. She thinks of you in the father figure way and is seeking the approval from you that her dad never gave her.
In either case run as fast as you can for as long as you can. I have been in both situations and they ended in absolute disaster.
Cheers,
Scotsman
Lestat said:
I think he was honest, you can be nice and polite when you blow someone off while never really giving them a true answer as to why you are not interested (you should be familiar with this) or you can you use the blunt approach.
The fact that she emailed him for a "fresh start" tells me he wasn't blunt enough. She does sound immature as a 30 year old hangin with 21 year olds, seems to be that she's having an age crisis (happens to the best of us).
It would be madness for either of them to even consider dating the other again, unless they want to torture one another.
wutangnomo
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I read this post again and the more I read it the more I wonder... what the hell is wrong with YOU Matt? Who are you to question this woman? She should be the one questionning you. Seriously now, you make absolutely no sense bro and are coming off as a hypocrite. You have no right to judge this woman.
First of all Matt, you CLEARLY knew EXACTLY what you were getting BEFORE you went on your first date, so please don't tell me you didn't. Your friend told you EXACTLY the type of girl she is ("likes to go out, have fun, parties, etc") before you met her. You even acknowledge this because you mention:
So tell me this Matt, what exactly was the TRUE purpose of going out on a first date with her? You mention that you spent a whopping $120 on the date, but also that you gave her the PRIVILEDGE of spending a whole 2.5 hours with your heiness. I'm guessing that because you spent a nice amount of money on her and that you obliged her with 2.5 hours out of your precious day that you were hoping to FUCK HER, after all, you thought she could be "fun/a friend/a fuck buddy" right? Going into this date that was what your preconceived idea and limit of this woman was... nothing more. I'm guessing that because she declined your offer for drinks that was like a slap in the face... and NOBODY ever says no to your royal heiness right? Why bother asking her out for drinks after dinner if it did not go well? What would be the purpose of that? If your date did not go well and you wanted nothing more from this woman, you would have parted ways after dinner and not offered to do a little extra something afterwards (drinks). Hmmmmm???
A week passes and you know full well she is not marriage material. You even knew this BEFORE you ever went out on a date with her to begin with, so there is no excuse for that. YOU ask her out again hoping to accomplish what? You aren't stupid Matt so you couldn't have possibly thought she could go from meaningless party chick to marriage material in the course of a week. What exactly were you hoping to achieve on a second date which YOU asked her on? When she accepted your second date offer BADA BING power went back into YOUR hands. What makes me laugh is that you say:
Matt you knew the two of you were not compatible BEFORE your first date when your friend was telling you about her. Don't tell me you just suddenly came to that realization after you proposed a second date. You were hoping to reject her the way she rejected you on that first date. The rest of the IM is you belittling her and making her feel bad, probably in spite for her slap in the face rejection of your offer on the first date.
You get power back into your hands, turn the tables and reject her while playing hard to get. You even tell her that you won't contact her again knowing full well that'll only make her want you. After all, everyone wants a challenge and you know it. LOL! You sly dog you.
*Raises a glass*
First of all Matt, you CLEARLY knew EXACTLY what you were getting BEFORE you went on your first date, so please don't tell me you didn't. Your friend told you EXACTLY the type of girl she is ("likes to go out, have fun, parties, etc") before you met her. You even acknowledge this because you mention:
MattTheSkywalker said:
So tell me this Matt, what exactly was the TRUE purpose of going out on a first date with her? You mention that you spent a whopping $120 on the date, but also that you gave her the PRIVILEDGE of spending a whole 2.5 hours with your heiness. I'm guessing that because you spent a nice amount of money on her and that you obliged her with 2.5 hours out of your precious day that you were hoping to FUCK HER, after all, you thought she could be "fun/a friend/a fuck buddy" right? Going into this date that was what your preconceived idea and limit of this woman was... nothing more. I'm guessing that because she declined your offer for drinks that was like a slap in the face... and NOBODY ever says no to your royal heiness right? Why bother asking her out for drinks after dinner if it did not go well? What would be the purpose of that? If your date did not go well and you wanted nothing more from this woman, you would have parted ways after dinner and not offered to do a little extra something afterwards (drinks). Hmmmmm???
A week passes and you know full well she is not marriage material. You even knew this BEFORE you ever went out on a date with her to begin with, so there is no excuse for that. YOU ask her out again hoping to accomplish what? You aren't stupid Matt so you couldn't have possibly thought she could go from meaningless party chick to marriage material in the course of a week. What exactly were you hoping to achieve on a second date which YOU asked her on? When she accepted your second date offer BADA BING power went back into YOUR hands. What makes me laugh is that you say:
MattTheSkywalker said:
Matt you knew the two of you were not compatible BEFORE your first date when your friend was telling you about her. Don't tell me you just suddenly came to that realization after you proposed a second date. You were hoping to reject her the way she rejected you on that first date. The rest of the IM is you belittling her and making her feel bad, probably in spite for her slap in the face rejection of your offer on the first date.
You get power back into your hands, turn the tables and reject her while playing hard to get. You even tell her that you won't contact her again knowing full well that'll only make her want you. After all, everyone wants a challenge and you know it. LOL! You sly dog you.
*Raises a glass*
