am i fucked?

[markshark]

The way I see it, if you can't be real with a girl, there's no point in the first place. But I'm obviously no Casanova.

it just seems to me females today dont want guys bein real with them. they want them to act like cocky hardasses and speak mtv lingo and listen to usher and then fuck the shit out of them. i think if im gonna be real with her shell think "god this guy actually has emotions. what a fag. time to fuck somebody better looking." this is why i will never get married. i would never trust a wife.

 

[novamanms]

I agree. But it entirely depends on your priorities. For me, I would rather be true to myself and hopefully luck on running into a girl that digs me for me. For some people, the that's not their first priority.

 

[markshark]

I agree. But it entirely depends on your priorities. For me, I would rather be true to myself and hopefully luck on running into a girl that digs me for me. For some people, the that's not their first priority.

i agree

 

[mrplunkey]

Fuck that...

First: when she started talking about the guy and his eyes, you should have said something like "yeah, even though he sometimes has these huge coldsores on his mouth, his eyes can almost draw you away from them. I wonder if his oral herpes runs in sync with his genetal version, or if they sort of come and go independently of each other."

Second: Never send your girl another guys number.

Third: If you've decided you'll lose the girl, you've probably lost her already. It's 99% mental.

 

[BRD]

Man you should never of given her another guys number , but i guess you know that now , and yeah just because she found another guy attractive to look at doesnt mean she prefers him over you.
Just explain the situation to her now and go from there , good luck.

 

[Railgun]

Try to have more self confidence bro. Don't assume she'll want something "better" down the line. Sounds like she's already very interested in you (otherwise I don't think she would have gotten mad at the text) and if you are convinced she will move on then you have already created a self-fulfilling prophecy and will start doing things that will push her away (like the phone number). You should create a positive, upbeat atmosphere when you spend time with her and she will be too busy having fun to even remember the other dude.

 

[Oldpro]

Maybe you are not fucked but just being taught a lesson. The truth is the truth their are some good looking people in this world. If he is beautuful say it, if he is an ass say it, but best is to move on. Who the fuck says beautiful is better.

Man I have had my moments, my wife is 25 and I am 45 and I swear I will never understand what I did to be so lucky. She blows me away in looks, money everything but she loves me and I do not question I just love her back with everything I've got and prove I am worth it and show I respect it.

That is why my wife comes home every night and she could go anywhere and be with anyone in the world she wants. But she chooses me, that my friend is love!

Don't let her slip by she could be the one. There is some great advice on this thread so listen to them! And stop questioning, hang tough, hold that mug high as I do, and be proud, maybe she see's the real you and that is what she dig's.

 

[chicknlegs]

Seriously dude, you say you don't want to lose her, but you texted her another guys number? C'mon.
The main issue here is now she will think you have low self-esteem.
I'd make an effort to take control now before you are never able to get it back... ring her and tell her you are taking her out somewhere - don't ask - show backbone.

 

[markshark]

Seriously dude, you say you don't want to lose her, but you texted her another guys number? C'mon.
The main issue here is now she will think you have low self-esteem.
I'd make an effort to take control now before you are never able to get it back... ring her and tell her you are taking her out somewhere - don't ask - show backbone.

problem is im 3 hours away from her up at school. i pretty much quit callin her even though it hurts like hell not too. she still calls me pretty much everyday but i feel like i fucked up already that she now knows im a little pussy so that alreayd drove her away. i figure the only way i have a chance now is to ignore her and when i do pick up the phone always act busy or go out to a bar or club where its really loud when i pick up so she gets nervuous and wonders what im doin there. i dont know. i suck with girls. i just hate that i have the looks but not the confidence. im sure there are lots of people in the same boat as me. oh well i just started my tren and winny so at least something will uplift me for a few weeks.

 

[velvett]

i dunno shes really hot and thats a problem. ive been able to deal with really hot girls with random hookups and shit but not in a relationship. im jsut afraid shell be looking for something better.

If you don't see the worth in yourself others will not either.

You should find a way to work on that.


That's a big reason young women (and I'm afraid some not so young) fall for that cocky asshole - beside he's confident - even if it's fake he gives off that vide of worthiness and poeple fall for that. (this works in the reverse too - ie; "bitchy self-centered chick")

Takes a big person to see pass what is on the surface but beyond that, beyond personal relationships, to know your value as person, who you are and what you can contribute to this world is the best thing you can figure out about you.

Once you do that - the world is your oyster.