3 somes? Advice, suggestions?

[bstone]

My advice, let your girl find the other woman to join in. It puts her in control of the situation and that is a good thing because she can't throw it in your face if it ruins your relationship. It can happen, trust me. People get wierd after things like this, it almost opens a new door that says, "hey, I can fuck whoever I want now."
Also, get some viagra and enjoy the ride! Both of them.

This may be the first and last time it ever happens!!

 

[Sassy69]

Have you checked out any local swing clubs? Do you have any of those around? (I"m reaching because I've only heard stories myself.)

 

[RealDeal]

Um, not that I know of, but I wouldn't be surprised. Actually, I heard of this one a couple years back, but think it got closed down. They only let in women or couples, no men alone (which is understandable). It was clothing-optional from what I heard. Guess it's too bad it closed down, but I'd toss a guess what we may have run out of there screaming from such hideous sights as those that probably frequented the place.

 

[RealDeal]

Bump dammit. I know there has to be some of you out there with direct experience...especially at least a lady or two.

 

[GearedChupaCabra]

Holy shit bro!!!!

my gf has the same fantasy...i mean we never went out looking for a girl but she would love to...and its all up to me...we`ve been together for 3 years and we couldnt be any happier...in fact we`re getting engaged next year anyway, even though a 3 some is a fetish of mine i would never do it with someone i`m planning to spend the rest of my life with, things would change between us....i could never look at her the same way, you`ll always have the picture of her going at it with some bitch, and what happens when she tells you shes going out with her girl friend, for a girls night out, i know i would be pulling my hairs and would not like the idea...if you really love her you`ll know what i`m talking about...now if this is a girl that you`re just with and not sure if you have a future together them fuck it go for it...just my 2 cent...

 

[TN MuscleBear]

Back to some practical advice...find the number for one of those automated telephone dating lines...a lot of times in the back pages of one of the "alternative" newspapers that lists clubs and the like...

Put a voice ad on there and see who responds. Then arrange to meet a few of the ladies who sound ok in a public place and see if there's any chemistry. Sounds odd, but this is the most direct way to find what you're looking for.

 

[natglutes]

RealDeal providing your relationship is solid and you have discussed pros and cons...........go for it........you will love it.
Its not that easy to find single fems for a 3somes, since there are tons of couples out there looking for the same thing. Try posting your add ..........you'd be suprised how many people are into this........try swinging clubs where they have special nights for couples and single ladies only.........or go to Hedonism II.
I know that a lot of people will not agree with this lifestyle, but love and sex are 2 different issues .....
Im bi and proud love my orgy's

 

[tripleV]

i totally understand this also. i am married and "think" of the same things ALL the time.
So Nat, you have experience with this. No problems if your relationship is solid? How long have you been doing this sort of thing, and is it with your current relationship? BTW did you go to Hedonism II?
Thanks...

 

[natglutes]

tripleV yes Im presently in the lifestyle.......with my current hubby. I dont think I could of done that if I didnt trust my partner. Ive been doing this for over 6years.....with the same guy that Im married to.
No I didnt go to HedonismII but heard from a friend that anything goes ..........l

 

[RealDeal]

Thanks for the replies, especially you Nat. I knew you had some experience so I appreciate it.

ChupaCabra - actually, it's very likely we'll get engaged in the next 12 months. I actually don't feel the exact same way you do. Thinking of seeing my g/f and another woman go at it is certainly not unappealing to me, and afterwards, when she has a "girls night out" I won't be worrying. For one, none of her friends seems to share this interest, secondly, she refuses to be with one without me there, and lastly it's all about trust.

We've thoroughly discussed this, even more so in the past few days. She definately wants me involved, but says that I cannot have intercourse with or kiss this other woman. Anything else goes. That's OK by me since I'd never want her being nailed by some other dude, so I get where she's coming from. Not to mention this fantasy is hers, not mine...though I can't say I wouldn't enjoy being part of it.

Nat - thanks again for the advice. We've found a web site that's used for hooking up interested individuals and parties, so we've posted our profile and seeking out a 3rd person in our area. We don't want to "swing" with other couples, though the couples night and single womens night sound like possibilities. What is this Hedonism II? Sound like some sort of convention.