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What do you consider marrying young?
- Thread starter jiggagold
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not too old or too young after 18, mom met dad at 15 and they eloped at 16(he was 24) and they had 30 happy years
Don't fuckin do it bro.
I got married at 24. Had been with herfor like 5 years off and on, mostly on, but wish I would've waited a couple more years. We were livin together for and year and a half before we got married so it didn't really change much. Still fuckin wait though.
But marriage is good so far lmao
I'd keep the guideline but see how it goes..how things evolve. You might change your mind down the road
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lartinos
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Do it when you have all your reaponsibilities under control first.
Age is secondary..
Age is secondary..
did you get a prenup plunk?
chewyxrage
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I got married this Sept at 27. We lived together for 2 years prior, dated 2 years prior to that, so I pretty much knew all the possible bullshit that could/would come up. Nothing wrong with waiting. I don't consider 27 young, though. What's her deal, why is she all pissy at waiting?
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EarthRider
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it depends on individual maturity
i think women like commitment and security
i think women like commitment and security
^^^this
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lartinos
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I agree, and for me I think ahead and know I need a younger girl. (she's 9 and half years younger than me.
Younger girls can be a fucking headache and usually not worth it though.
mrplunkey
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Yes. A very simple one, too.
Deets, rob
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lartinos
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She needs to get that attitude of "I must do this by this age" out of her head. Kim Kardashian is a complete moron, but that is what she blamed her last wedding on.
bren565
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She is what is known as a "time liner"
She has to have xyz by age such and such. In this case the things she has to have by a certain age (marriage/kids) cant be forced by a certain age and have to happen naturally on their own timeline.
So are you just an empty tux for her to marry by her deadline? Youll never know because she has put it out there that her goal is to simply be married with kids by 25. She may not actually want to marry you.
I hate bishes like this and always avoided them and never regretted dumping their ass
Completely agree with with SD ^^^ hate chicks with a stupid "master plan" I love seing them with that 25 year time line and they're 23-24 and dont even have a boyfriend, they are SO insane
Plunk, didn't she get pissy at the idea of a prenup, most women get pissed.... but I guess it depends on the terms.
Plunk, didn't she get pissy at the idea of a prenup, most women get pissed.... but I guess it depends on the terms.
blueta2
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If you look up the recipe for divorce, this is it!
Way too young! Life is not the same as it was 30 yrs ago and prior.
People respected marriage, today a divorce is as common a the cold!
People change so much in their 30's, I say later 30's + is a time to consider it.
Get to know yourself first
My parents are the only people I know who are still married out of mostly everyone I know.
Gotta agree with this. Very easy for a guy in his mid-20's to bend a 16 yr old girl to his liking.
true, there are so many MILF's you can bang in your 30's, no reason to get married until 40.
mrplunkey
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The problem with divorces is when it comes to "equitable" (or even worse, "equal") distribution of marital assets. The laws are quick to make things marital assets (i.e. salaries, properties, investment accounts).
My premarital agreement is simple in that it spells-out that assets are to be kept separate. So I have a checking account as does she. I own property as does she -- but it's all separate. There is a procedure for transitioning property between us and we have certain holdings that are explicitly marital (i.e. the joint checking account we opened to pay day-to-day expenses). But in the absence of an explicit transaction that turns a piece of separately-owned property into a marital asset, it will remain separate under all circumstances (divorce, death, etc. etc.).
It's a fairly short agreement, but it has been upheld in Tennessee many times.
i.e. plunkey gets castle and 5-axis processor and wife gets squat lol
I also don't really have an age by which I need to get married, but I can say I prob wouldn't marry someone I hadn't been with for a while, like 5 years or so so I know we can handle a good number of things thrown at us as a couple.
I also know I'm not waiting til marriage to figure out if we can live together well, that's for sure. And also definitely not until/unless we're both financially secure. Too much stress to add marriage on top of money troubles.
I also know I'm not waiting til marriage to figure out if we can live together well, that's for sure. And also definitely not until/unless we're both financially secure. Too much stress to add marriage on top of money troubles.
mrplunkey
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Well yes and no... If she does generate any income, it's all hers. Her family inheritance is/would be all hers too. Plus any assets that are transferred to her (i.e. cars, jewelry) become 100% hers as well.
There are more complicated premarital agreements out there, but they become messy because they amount to one party essentially being paid to stay married to the other (i.e. "vesting" of assets over time) -- to hell with that.
The beauty of a separate property agreement is that you know for 100% sure that they are marrying you because they want to be married to you. It insures there's no financial benefit in jumping from boyfriend/girlfriend to husband/wife.
P.S. And I would get to keep the 5-axis mill!!!
Translation; I'd rather just send miplank noodz
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mrplunkey
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There are a mountain of reasons not to get married. You are demonstrating outstanding judgement.
The only time it gets tricky is when you want to raise a family. Some people will want to share last names, legal custody of children, etc. etc.
I personally think a boyfriend/girlfriend combination would raise a child just as effectively as a married couple. I don't believe in the "magic" of marriage in the least. What you'll have to balance is societal expectations around how families are "supposed" (which I think is bullshit too) to be structured.
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EarthRider
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congrats on engagement afrrdz
Not even close.
Congrats on being a faggot, girthrider
SnipersGirl
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Q. What do you consider marrying young?
A. STUPID.
A. STUPID.
There are certain advantages to living where i live (lib capital of texas)
ChristianDom96
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I saw my mom and dad fighting and arguing at a young age when they were married and then later got a divorce. I don't wanna get married and later on probly going through all that BS and getting a divorce
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EarthRider
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fuck off
they eloed about 8 days after meeting each other, funny thing is they took off in my mom's car! they met in CA and my grandma insisted he was a pothead hippie who just wanted to marry mom for a green card,grandma was such a bitch with him that they took off and ended up in CT! Imany times told dad he should have done to prison for kidnaping as well, he said it wasnt fair since he was broke and it was her car xD
Stop propositioning me, fag.
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EarthRider
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eat shit and die
Not interested in your diet either.
It sounds romantic to me, spontanious-love---I talk to a lot of older people, a lot of them have similar stories like your parents... I love them older generations---they did not psycho analyze things, they just went with their heart... The rest is history!! Well, I guess grandma was wrong..
calveless wonder
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the number in my mind has always been 32-35 as a good age to get married.
there's no reason to rush it.
it's funny because i see eveeryone i grew up with is rushing to get engaged, marry and have kids like it's a contest. lol @ them
there's no reason to rush it.
it's funny because i see eveeryone i grew up with is rushing to get engaged, marry and have kids like it's a contest. lol @ them
Austin?
Ughhhh. Fucking same. Everybody I know is getting married/having babies, I swear. My best guy friend did in August, my best girl friend did last weekend, my childhood best friend has 2 kids, and a good guy friend just hit me up a couple days ago to ask my opinion on a ring for his girl.
I don't get it at all. I'm 23 and my friends are generally around my age, I just don't get the rush. If you truly think you're spending the rest of your life with someone, who cares if you get married tomorrow or in 10 years when you're older and settled.
why do you care what they do?
Sure am mad. Bridesmaid dresses are expensive, yo.
I'm not really mad, I just think it's ridiculous to get married this young.
Yeah, man. It's effing expensive.
$200 bridesmaid dress
+ the right color shoes if I don't already own any
+ Bridal shower gift
+ Bachelorette party gift
+ Wedding gift
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= It's too fucking expensive to be in a wedding. I'd rather just attend.
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Spartacus
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whether or not they are going to get fat
ever
like long after you're done fucking her you don't want your friends thinking
you married that fat bitch
so when you lie and say sex is "better than ever"
it doesn't look like a total lie
ever
like long after you're done fucking her you don't want your friends thinking
you married that fat bitch
so when you lie and say sex is "better than ever"
it doesn't look like a total lie
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Spartacus
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so yes the young tend to be slimmer
but I've seen some mid-thirties divorcees get super thin in 6 months
give or take
but I've seen some mid-thirties divorcees get super thin in 6 months
give or take
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Spartacus
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like a fuckin' spider
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Spartacus
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Spartacus
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correct
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EarthRider
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i have a wife and two girls and I am only 29. I
got married cause I loved her. I couldn't imagine being with anyone else, so I did it. I don't think I won a contest though.
And, well, I have two kids. Now not because I was trying to win a contest, but because I didn't want to look for a condomn
So, the moral of the story, wrap that shit up
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Spartacus
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I don't want to talk to you anymore you empty headed animal
No the moral of the story is still not getting married rob
youpissmeoff
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I have a totally different opinion than most here, but I think getting married young is the key to staying married.
You need to get married before you get set i your ways. Develop habits and hobbies together.
You waint until you are 40 and you are fucked. Your best friends can hardly stand to be around you much less your girl.
This has a certain logic as well, when you're older and settle in you have your habits and a lot of people take the "take it or leave it" approach, if they dont find someone 100% perfect who also finds them 100% perfect they'll pass... which is ok if you wanna stay single for good, but when you do want a family it's harder....
@Feedz, fuck that I didnt know you had to buy your own damn dress.... every time someone in my family or friends get married they pony up the dresses...
congrats on repeating exactly what Bill just said
mrplunkey
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I've never thought about it like this, but it's hard to argue with that logic.
But the counterargument there is with free travel, an ever-shrinking world and Internet options, it might be easier to find that perfect, set-in-their-ways chicka.
I think who buys the bridesmaids dresses just depends on whether the bride and groom can afford it or what the tradition is in that family, because I know some people who've had the bride pay for theirs.
This one last weekend I had to buy the dress which I think was actually like $189, then $48 for alterations on the dress, then she wanted us all to wear gold heels so I went and bought those for however much...and had to buy all those gifts on top of that. She's lucky she's my best friend, that's all I have to say.
mrplunkey
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Doesn't the couple to be married pay for crap like that?
Bridesmaids pay for their own dresses, etc?
mrplunkey
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I was a bridesmaid over 6 times in under two years...the last time I was a bridesmaid I promised myself I was never going to say yes to anyone ever again. Only two of those girls paid for my dress. LOL
do you even get to pick the dress or it's what they want? was it the friend with the weird discipline thing?
justamissfit
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I'm not saying everyone should be out looking for their soulmate, but if you into life thinking "I just want to get laid," you are really closing yourself out from a lot of options. My philosophy is just take what life throws at you, and see where it ends up, don't exclude any possibilities for yourself.
It's not hard to argue with that logic.
The problem is, you're young, you're in love, you share all these hobbies, interests whatever...
Then you grow the fuck up and change and don't like to do the same shit anymore. I don't like to do the shit I did at 20 anymore now that I'm 23, and I may very well may not like to do whatever I do now when I'm 30 or 40. There's too much changing going on for many people in their 20's to get married IMO.
In my experience, most of the time it works out to where the bride picks the dress or at the very very least, gives you guidelines, then you pick it and they approve it, then the bridesmaid pays for it.
This specific time it was the girl with the weird discipline thing, but it's been that way the other times I've been a bridesmaid as well.
mrplunkey
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I completely agree. Great post.
For guys, the harsh reality may be the we don't really mature until late 30's or early 40's.
calveless wonder
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youpissmeoff
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You will never get married under these conditions. Within 5 yrs, something will come up that will piss one of you off and if you don't have the marriage commitment holding you together, one is going to bolt.
LOL That's some of the worst logic I've ever heard. That's the entire reason people divorce...because they think a ring is going to hold them together. Here's a secret: if you can't stay together and get through whatever life tosses your way while you're dating, you won't magically be able to get through it just because you spend a night in a pretty dress and write your names down on a piece of paper. Marriage isn't magic.
If as a couple, you're prone to deal with problems by leaving each other, you're going to do it married or not. And the entire problem with modern day marriage, in my opinion, is people like you who do it because they think it'll just solve all their problems.
youpissmeoff
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Oh I assure you there are many times when you would say - Fuck It - I am out if you were not married have kids etc. With marriage and family, that is not an option. Then a few months later, what seemed to be a huge deal breaker is hardly something you think about.
It actually is an option, that's why the divorce rate is so high. And people do it. People leave their wives/husbands/kids all the time, and I guarantee you it's the same type of people who would've run had the couple stayed an unmarried couple for a longer amount of time.
Some people deal with problems, some people run away from them. That's the way it is, and marriage doesn't change that. So of course I'm going to date someone long enough that I know we can always work through our problems without running away before marrying them.
I'd rather find out he's a "run away from our problems" kind of guy while we're dating rather than when we're married with kids.
youpissmeoff
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When you are married with kids, running is the last option. When you are just in a relationship, it is the first option. Big difference.
I'd tend to agree with this...When I get pissed at the wife I just punch her in the throat
Running isn't my first option in relationships, and that's why dating a while before marriage is important, because I need to know its not the other person's first option either. If running is your first option when dating, then even with a wife and kids, it'll eventually be the option you choose to deal with things gone wrong in marriage as well.
Even as a last option, that just doesn't work for me as a way to deal with marital problems.
Sometimes shit happens, but at least of you're together for a while first, you'll be less surprised by them.
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SnipersGirl
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blueta2
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Would not like to meet a man like you who would run just because there is no marriage and kids.
Love is Love, whether you have kids and married or not. You just don't throw away a relationship because it's easier.
This is a recipe to be alone forever!
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EarthRider
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I agree and know what justyoupissmeoff is saying.
marriage and dating is great and easy to be honest before kids. If you can't work shit out without kids, fuck don't even try marriage. Once kids come around, everything changes and gets much more challenging. Your relationship with each other tends to take a backseat to all the needs of raising kids.
Plus I think guys feel like they need to work at it more once they make a commitment with marriage.
My wife and I have a great marriage. Kids coming into the picture has challenged that, but we continue to work through it. It is drawing us closer together, and not farther apart.
marriage and dating is great and easy to be honest before kids. If you can't work shit out without kids, fuck don't even try marriage. Once kids come around, everything changes and gets much more challenging. Your relationship with each other tends to take a backseat to all the needs of raising kids.
Plus I think guys feel like they need to work at it more once they make a commitment with marriage.
My wife and I have a great marriage. Kids coming into the picture has challenged that, but we continue to work through it. It is drawing us closer together, and not farther apart.
youpissmeoff
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People fall in and out of love all the time - even with the same person. If you don't have that bond of marriage or kids, you move on during those down cycles.
That is my opinion. What do I know, I am going on 26 yrs of marriage. Anyone here been married longer?
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