I'm with BBF on this one. I like it when the kitty is sopping wet. Ever have a girl that would not go down on you after you were inside her? It's the same thing in a way. I LOVE snoballing! Sometimes when I'm really turned on, I don't last too long in round one, so what else is there to do but lick the kitty for a while.
If you do decide to try this, and you're not too sure you may be comfortable with it, try to cum inside her on the second or third round and then go down on her after that. It's that first round that has the most cum, the next few are usually much less, you might not even notice it.
As for her holding it in her mouth and kissing me, that happened to me once by surprise, and it caught me off guard. I didn't necessarily dislike it, but I'd rather have known it was going to happen before it did. If it's something that turns your partner on...why WOULDN'T you do it?????