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WTF can I not want kids!?!?!

nangiggles

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Today we went to see the urologist who is a hare away to give hubby the injections, however he is very concerned about our reproductive health since we are young and may want a family, both my husband and I told him neither wanted kids, he was pretty taken aback, he then proceeded to interrogate us on already having kids or having kids from a previous marriage, etc. Again we both confirmed no kids anywhere and for a damn good reason, we dont like them we dont want any, I told him it's one of the main reasons we work well together, because from the begging neither wanted kids.
The Dr said he just felt we were too young (he's 30 I'm 27) and might change our minds so he wants us to go to a fertility expert to see if they can give my husband a treatment to force his body to produce testosterone and that way not compromise his fertility

Dr said that after the consult if we still havent changed our minds then he'll start shots every 3 weeks, fuck this is annoying
Back in CR when I was in my early 20's I looked into getting my tubes tied and I had to take like a fucking 5 day course on parenting, WTF is up with this shit why cant they just respect that we dont want any damn children, some of us are just not cut out for it, we understand it, we accept it and we like it that way. :mad::mad::mad:
 
Tell him you're so against having kids you only give hubby 3-condom backdoor love just to be sure.
 
So I googled this Dr and found he works in a female fertility center, I look over the services and there is NOTHING male, I call in and ask if they treat male infertility and they tell me NO only sperm count, so I tell them our endo and uro diag hubby with low T and we are looking for alternate treatments to TRT and she said they dont treat men. :confused:
 
What a fucking disaster
 
tell dr that ef suspects your hubby is gey and we don't believe test will fix his sex drive for females ass
 
Outside of the fact that this dr is a loon, its fairly common for people who say they dont want kids, to change their minds down the road or to find themselves with kids. Not saying thats you, but it does happen
 
smurf2 said:
Outside of the fact that this dr is a loon, its fairly common for people who say they dont want kids, to change their minds down the road or to find themselves with kids. Not saying thats you, but it does happen
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yep. And in today's litigious society, a doc might find himself being sued if he didn't try to make damn sure a couple truly didn't want kids before doing a procedure or prescribing a course of treatment that might lead to infertility in someone.
 
mistaballoonhands said:
Someone with no kids? I wouldnt tubal her til after 35 without a good reason (risk of passing something horrible to a kid, etc)
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that's the norm around here too.
 
wootoom said:
No se carajo! He estado estudiando espanol para diez meses!
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*por diez meses
:D
mistaballoonhands said:
Someone with no kids? I wouldnt tubal her til after 35 without a good reason (risk of passing something horrible to a kid, etc)
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Fuck man, have you ever thought how unfair that is? what if they slip up with their birth control or it fails and have an unwanted pregnancy just because someone assumed they might change their minds, so not fair :(
 
nangiggles said:
*por diez meses
:D

Fuck man, have you ever thought how unfair that is? what if they slip up with their birth control or it fails and have an unwanted pregnancy just because someone assumed they might change their minds, so not fair :(
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damnit!!! im learning when to use por and para..thanks Nan :)
 
nangiggles said:
*por diez meses
:D

Fuck man, have you ever thought how unfair that is? what if they slip up with their birth control or it fails and have an unwanted pregnancy just because someone assumed they might change their minds, so not fair :(
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Sure. It can be incredibly unfair. But I can't risk the litigation.

"Big mean bullie doctor talked me into getting my tubes tied when I was 24 because I was a minority struggling financially. He took advantage of my naivety, and now I will never know what it's like to experience motherhood, to have a family of my own to cherish. I'll never be complete... I didn't realize what I was doing, and he should have realized that... Blah Blah Blah."

I'm not saying that is you at all, don't get me wrong. But there's no way in hell I'm even going to risk dealing with that bullshit.
 
wootoom said:
damnit!!! im learning when to use por and para..thanks Nan :)
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you're doing great bro I'm just being a bitch :D

mistaballoonhands said:
Sure. It can be incredibly unfair. But I can't risk the litigation.

"Big mean bullie doctor talked me into getting my tubes tied when I was 24 because I was a minority struggling financially. He took advantage of my naivety, and now I will never know what it's like to experience motherhood, to have a family of my own to cherish. I'll never be complete... I didn't realize what I was doing, and he should have realized that... Blah Blah Blah."

I'm not saying that is you at all, don't get me wrong. But there's no way in hell I'm even going to risk dealing with that bullshit.
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I can totally understand why it is that way, it just pisses me off, arent some of those procedures of tube tie and vasectomy reversible anyway, how can they sue if it's reversible?
 
nangiggles said:
you're doing great bro I'm just being a bitch :D


I can totally understand why it is that way, it just pisses me off, arent some of those procedures of tube tie and vasectomy reversible anyway, how can they sue if it's reversible?
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Gracias Nan! Apriendo espanol es muy muy gratificante!!! mi novia habla holandes y yo hablo espanol ahorra! me encanta espanol!
 
because tubal reversal doesn't usually work...and vas reversal can also not work


that said...the dr told the other half to try not to take the vasectomy for granted cuz he sees guys all the time on their second vasectomy ...I have no idea if thats true or if the dude was just tryin to scare him into wearing a condom
 
wootoom said:
Gracias Nan! Aprender espanol es muy muy gratificante!!! mi novia habla holandes y yo hablo espanol ahora! me encanta el espanol!
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fixed :)

Do you want me to let you know if I see mistakes so you can learn? or is it just annoying? ;)
 
greg got questioned a lil when he went for the snip...he jut told em how many kids he had...appointment made!

dr said he had vas deferans like pipe cleaners...which doesnt surprise me given the 20 or so kids
 
Was this always your opinion? I can understand someone taking issue with being mislead about their SO's desire for children but a sudden change of mind;What was the premise?
 
javaguru said:
Was this always your opinion? I can understand someone taking issue with being mislead about their SO's desire for children but a sudden change of mind;What was the premise?
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I've always felt this way and so has he, in 7 years together neither of us ever even maybe for a minute wanted a baby, the very few times we've had close calls (I've always used 100% hormonal birth control non stop and many times non hormonal on top of it as well) we've been pretty bummed out about the whole thing, not even sure if we'd wanna keep a baby if it happened, that's how much we dont want a baby.

My sister is the exact same way, 33 no babies and none in the horizon, we werent raised to like kids, we were actually raised to not touch them or be around them, almost freaking fear them, hence why we dont want children.

brownbrown said:
oh : Usted realmente tener relaciones sexuales?
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*tiene
So close :D
 
stop being so selfish, one day your hubby will resent you and come out of the closet cause you gave him no sons.
 
I'll never understand society's pressure to have kids.
I have a good friend that never wanted kids and never had any. I respect that.
Being a parent is not easy. You have to really want it and love it! Proly part of the reason there are so many shitty parents raising shitty kids out there.
Then you have the people that have kids to "help" their relationships.
 
nangiggles said:
I've always felt this way and so has he, in 7 years together neither of us ever even maybe for a minute wanted a baby, the very few times we've had close calls (I've always used 100% hormonal birth control non stop and many times non hormonal on top of it as well) we've been pretty bummed out about the whole thing, not even sure if we'd wanna keep a baby if it happened, that's how much we dont want a baby.

My sister is the exact same way, 33 no babies and none in the horizon, we werent raised to like kids, we were actually raised to not touch them or be around them, almost freaking fear them, hence why we dont want children.


*tiene
So close :D
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I can see not wanting to complicate your life by adding kids, but to be raised not to touch them or be around them/ fear them? Thats strange. Afterall, you and your sis were once babies, so what does your mom have against kids?
 
smurf2 said:
I can see not wanting to complicate your life by adding kids, but to be raised not to touch them or be around them/ fear them? Thats strange. Afterall, you and your sis were once babies, so what does your mom have against kids?
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ironically my mom LOVES babies and is pretty damn pissy she's probably never being a grandma.

My parents were maniacal over protectors, to the point that as newborns only the grandmothers were allowed to carry us, no one else. Growing up our parents would never let us even come close to babies, not even in the family, you would always here things like "you might make the baby sick, babies are delicate, dont touch the baby, be careful with the baby, babies dont carry babies", etc.

I'm now a grown ass woman and I know that if I touch or hold a baby nothing will happen if I'm careful, but I still have that horrible "run for your life" sensation when a baby is around me, I will also do everything in my power not to touch them, I've only held 2 babies in my entire life, one at age 14 because my father made me do it while the baby's mom went to the bathroom and another at around 20 when my best friend was getting out of the car and needed me to hold her to do so.
 
Nan, I had no babies in my family at all. I rarely held a baby, probably about as much as you did lol and was a little frightened of them and had no idea WTF to do with Abby when I first held her. I never babysat. I had no Mommy instinct. All I knew was that I wanted a daughter or a son, not a baby. I knew up front that I would have to tough out the pregnancy/baby years to get to the part I wanted to experience which was adult children when I was older. So, you're not alone.
 
I despised pregnancy

new baby are super easy tho....its throw themselves down on the ground toddlers...then teenagers that can be trying
 
shirlene29 said:
I despised pregnancy

new baby are super easy tho....its throw themselves down on the ground toddlers...then teenagers that can be trying
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Opposite for me

Love being pregnant
Newbien Babies are fucking hard work (i had 2 colicky ones)
Sleep deprivation is going to kill me
 
<--48 in a few months, no kids......yay for buttsecksay!
 
cindylou said:
Nan, I had no babies in my family at all. I rarely held a baby, probably about as much as you did lol and was a little frightened of them and had no idea WTF to do with Abby when I first held her. I never babysat. I had no Mommy instinct. All I knew was that I wanted a daughter or a son, not a baby. I knew up front that I would have to tough out the pregnancy/baby years to get to the part I wanted to experience which was adult children when I was older. So, you're not alone.
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I did baby sit a 6mo old and a 3yr old every weekend for about 3 months when I was 18, it's not that I feel I'd be a bad mom, I'm pretty sure I'd be a great mom, I just dont want to be one, dont want something growing in me, dont want to change diapers, have restrictions on going out and vacations, teaching someone everything from eating to potty training, to mending a broken heart and picking a college, the whole parenting process is just not appealing to me, sounds very rewarding for most but it's just not for me, I know this sounds awful but to me it all seems like an unnecessary inconvenience, I truly believe all who have children love them, I just cant miss what I never had I guess, I dont have that desire in me.
 
You can always adopt and save your vagina from being blown out like a Mexican butthole after a Cinco De Mayo all-you-can eat taco party.
 
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