Would You Want to Know if Your Spouse Cheated on You?

[curling]

After reading the thead about the dude that got cheated on by his wife got me to thinking. Would I want to know? And to be honest if she just screwed up one time out of town or something like a fling I think I would not want to know. I mean what you don't know don't hurt ya right?

Now if she was running all over town having affairs then that would be a different story.

So what about ya'll? The question is if your spouse had a fling out of town would you rather not know or would you want to know?

 

[Digger Dan]

How about this...

One night stand vs. Relationship?

Cheating in the body or in the heart? Which is worse?

Cheating, to me, is completely unforgivable. PERIOD. Show some self control and take responsibility for your actions.

 

[curling]

What the heck are you talking about? The question is would you want to know if your spouse messed around on a fling out of town or would you rather not know?

 

[Bikini Mod]

No, if it was one of those "He fucked up and realized it" things - No, I would not want to know. HOWEVER, I would not want Glenn Close showing up in my kitchen either! LOL

 

[biteme]

yes.

 

[fogg88]

damned if you know, damned if you don't.

 

[Digger Dan]

What the heck are you talking about? The question is would you want to know if your spouse messed around on a fling out of town or would you rather not know?

I don't know what I was saying.

I'd want to know.

 

[DrBones]

I'd be pretty pissed if the bitch cheated and brought home an STD.... Not only would i serve that bitch papers... I'd throw her in a ravine...

I could forgive her... possibly...... but she would hear it from me and it would take a LONG time to regain ANY trust.... chances are the lack of trust would make the marriage crumble anyyways..

 

[atlantabiolab]

After reading the thead about the dude that got cheated on by his wife got me to thinking. Would I want to know? And to be honest if she just screwed up one time out of town or something like a fling I think I would not want to know. I mean what you don't know don't hurt ya right?

Now if she was running all over town having affairs then that would be a different story.

So what about ya'll? The question is if your spouse had a fling out of town would you rather not know or would you want to know?

Being the rhetorical self that I am, "Would you want to know about the slow leak behind the wall, or not?"

 

[theoak01]

I never thought I would cheat and did once,I felt like ass wont ever do it again.

but if a girl cheated on me I wouldnt want to know,I would figure it out because I read people well but woudnt want to be told because I have a anger problem with these things.so no I dont want to know,but she best just leave and not cheat

 

[Warik]

Yes I would want to know so that I could kick her the hell out of my house... though I would prefer that she inform me either before we have kids or after they are over 18 years old.

Of course, I'd prefer that she simply not cheat at all. =)

 

[JohnyJuice]

Re: Re: Would You Want to Know if Your Spouse Cheated on You?

Being the rhetorical self that I am, "Would you want to know about the slow leak behind the wall, or not?"

LOL. And what do you do with a leaking hose or hoe? Replace it.

 

[Ceebs]

I'd want to know. A one night stand is a lot shorter than the lie that would live in its wake if he didn't tell me.

 

[Mad4Iron]

I knew,all the signs were there.I just didn't give a fuck anymore as I had enough of her bullshit.

When I knew for sure I booted her and kept myself from killing the asshole as he did me a favor in hindsight.Thank God I didn't marry her or have kids,then it would have been different as I would have done anything in my power to get my kid or kids from her(She had major bi polar and manic problems).

Would I want to know in the future? I really don't know as it would hurt too much if I was with someone I really cared for.I'm sure I would know though.

Mad

 

[wyld1g]

WOW...Ceebs...I like it!!!

 

[CAESAR7]

I'd want to know and then I would kick her the fuck out! I don't give a fuck how it happend...

 

[JohnyJuice]

I'd want to know and then I would kick her the fuck out! I don't give a fuck how it happend...

If i found out my woman was cheating, i would immediatly set out on a mission of grande and divine importance. Operation "Supreme Sodomizer". It would then be my duty to wax the following people in the following order....
1. her freinds : they probably wouldnt tell. Just gotta pick the ones who are slutty enough to do it.
2. Girls she doesnt like: these may tell just to piss her off. If she does find out at this point, you have already nailed her friendsand at least one girl she doesnt like, so it isnt a complete loss.
3. Her sister if she has one.

Upon completion, i would then boot her slutty ass.

 

[40butpumpin]

The real question then is do you mind being lied to? The answer for me is YES. If I'm with a woman that lies to me than she's no woman of mine. I would rather die completely alone than be with a woman that is lying to me. For me it's either real or it just isn't happening.

 

[casualbb]

You'd have to know, so you can leave him/her. For someone to cheat means that his/her interest in you as a partner is past the point of no return. Your relationship will never be good again, because there will never be trust. Even if you stay together, you'll prevent yourself from truly loving the cheater out of a fear you'll be hurt again. Better just to kill it.

-casualbb

 

[PHATchik]

Trust is a huge issue with me. I would want to know whether it hurt me or not. Not knowing is not necessarily better.

 

[Mandinka2]

I knew,all the signs were there.I just didn't give a fuck anymore as I had enough of her bullshit.

When I knew for sure I booted her and kept myself from killing the asshole as he did me a favor in hindsight.Thank God I didn't marry her or have kids,then it would have been different as I would have done anything in my power to get my kid or kids from her(She had major bi polar and manic problems).

Would I want to know in the future? I really don't know as it would hurt too much if I was with someone I really cared for.I'm sure I would know though.

Mad

Same for me Bro , all of it , but if ya really love the person it's very hard to let go.

 

[vixenbabe]

Would I want to know? I'd know...He's the type that can NOT lie. I know him too well. I'd feel something was amiss with him.

Would he know if I did something like that? Yep, I'd not be able to look him in the eye ever again.

Break the turst and respect...What do you have left?

 

[WODIN]

I would want to know. Its a sad situation all around.

 

[vinylgroover]

If she was good enough to get away with it, and i was stupid enough not to see any of the signs, then i guess it wouldn't bother me if i didn't know.

The question you asked basically assumes that you live your life on the assumption that your partner is or has cheated and you're waiting to be told the truth.

If you never suspect anything, then how can it hurt you?

 

[atlantabiolab]

Re: Re: Re: Would You Want to Know if Your Spouse Cheated on You?

LOL. And what do you do with a leaking hose or hoe? Replace it.

A better analogy, being that my first dealth with something that has little value, "If a family heirloom, say a diamond ring, had damaged settings, which threatened the loss of the diamond, would you want to know?"

The answer is yes, because you could then take actions to fix that which has personal value. One would be an idiot to not want to be able to save something that he loves.

 

[Baoh]

Of course I'd want to know.

I am consistently amused by those who say they'd rather not know.

 

[chesty]

I would. It is hard enough to trust someone these days without having to worry about your mate. If you can't trust them, harmful jeolousy creeps in, that becomes destructive.

Whether your in the same house or 10 states away, if you don't have trust you have nothing.

Love is based on trust. Start out with trust and honesty and you have a fighting chance. Betray that and it is over. Whether or not you are told, you will know and they will know. If you can't be honest and stay with one person then you shouldn't be with them.

I think there is someone out there that is for me (soul mate if you will) when I find them, my soul/spirit will be tamed and I will no longer feel restless inside. Till then, the test is this:

If you love someone be willing to set them free. If they truly love you they will return. If they do not hunt the bitch down and kill her.