Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second date?

[heatherrae]

I saw this article today on the net: http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/Investing/HomeMortgageSavings/WhoPays.aspx#pageTopAchor

Personally, if a guy does not pay on the first date, he is history with me. I've actually never had that happen, but I had close to it once.

I went out on a first date with a guy. He asked me to "dinner and drinks" so I wore a nice dress. He shows up in jeans and a sloppy looking shirt. STRIKE ONE.

So, he asks what is around where I live. I took him to the square where there was a nice Italian restaraunt, indian restaraunt, etc. He points to Johnny Rockets (a 50's burger diner) and asks about it. I tell him and he says he would love a burger. So, I'm a good sport, even though I look like a fool in this burger diner wearing a $500 BCBG dress and nice heels. STRIKE TWO.

When the check comes, he said "I'll get it this time, and you can get it next time." STRIKE THREE. YOU'RE OUT!

If a guy wants to go dutch, I take it as a personal insult, like I'm not worthy in his eyes of being treated like gf material. Srew that.

 

[cindylou]

yeah. Its never happened before but if it did ; I would see it as a sign of a LOSER.

Sorry guys.

 

[yonkers weights]

That guy was a tool! I always pay. It is the way I was raised...

 

[heatherrae]

That guy was a tool! I always pay. It is the way I was raised...

that is good. I'm liberal, but if a guy can't pay for a first date, I think he is insulting me or is a big loser.

 

[Faizakafez]

lmao

bcbg dress at a burger joint

classy!

 

[BNG]

What I find amazing is that you didn't have any clue he was like this ahead of time.

 

[yonkers weights]

Even when I was in high school and college and did not have a lot of money, I would still pay. It is just a respect thing. I would never let a women pay. I still don't let my wife pay! Growing up my father always paid, and that's how I am too. It is a Pride and Respect thing I guess.

that is good. I'm liberal, but if a guy can't pay for a first date, I think he is insulting me or is a big loser.

 

[blueta2]

ummm, no! I would not want a man to expect to pay. I don't want the guy to think I owe him from the first date, I would pay my share until I knew this would be a guy I would want to date again.
Mind you, Cmarc paid for my drinks when we first went out. But that could be b/c he wanted to get me drunk ;-)

 

[heatherrae]

What I find amazing is that you didn't have any clue he was like this ahead of time.

How would you have a clue before a first date? The point of a first date is getting to know someone.

 

[yonkers weights]

I like when the girl offers but I would not let her pay. Again it is not a power thing or an owe me thing, it is a Respect and Pride thing for me.