Wife hangin with gay guys, should I be worried?

[Golddoor]

My wife works with a couple of gay guys and she is always commenting about "how fun they are to hang out with at work" and about “how fun it is to talk to them and be around them". She is always bringing them up in conversations when we are out and it is starting to annoy me, as well as got me a little worried about it. I’m totally against homosexuality and can’t imagine why she would think that they are fun to be around. Not totally sure but I think that she has even been out after work drinking with them, even though she claims she hasn’t been. I even checked her voice mail once and one of them left her a message and he said "Your so pretty, will you call me ASAP". Should I be worried about this situation?

 

[Tatyana]

No.

Gay boyfriends are great.

You can go shopping with them and they have the right balance of honesty with 'does my bum look big in this' and 'sweetie, you look gorgeous'.

They also can usually dance (with the exception of my gay BF sod's law)

Also when you are out with a gay BF, if they are not tooooooo camp or people don't hear them speaking, other men will either think

1. She is with some guy so unavailable

OR

2. They are homophobic like you and will stay away

 

[Golddoor]

No.

Gay boyfriends are great.

You can go shopping with them and they have the right balance of honesty with 'does my bum look big in this' and 'sweetie, you look gorgeous'.

They also can usually dance (with the exception of my gay BF sod's law)

Also when you are out with a gay BF, if they are not tooooooo camp or people don't hear them speaking, other men will either think

1. She is with some guy so unavailable

OR

2. They are homophobic like you and will stay away

Ok but lets reverse this role and say I was hanging out with some gay chicks? And saying and doing the things she is. Do you think she would go for it? HELLLLLL NO! I would be accused of cheating so fast my head would spin!!

 

[Tatyana]

I think there may be something else happening in your relationship, or with your wife that you need to address, rather than her hanging out with gay men.

It sounds like she is not that secure in herself, and she is getting that 'feel good' about herself from her gay mates.

Your response is interesting hun. I think it may be a good idea to have a chat with your wife rather than do that 'what's good for the goose is good for the gander routine', or 'if you do, so can I'.

 

[jerseyrugger76]

My wife works with a couple of gay guys and she is always commenting about "how fun they are to hang out with at work" and about “how fun it is to talk to them and be around them". She is always bringing them up in conversations when we are out and it is starting to annoy me, as well as got me a little worried about it. I’m totally against homosexuality and can’t imagine why she would think that they are fun to be around. Not totally sure but I think that she has even been out after work drinking with them, even though she claims she hasn’t been. I even checked her voice mail once and one of them left her a message and he said "Your so pretty, will you call me ASAP". Should I be worried about this situation?

I'll let your "I'm totally against homosexuality" thing slide and put it to ya this way. Would ya rather her be hanging out with a bunch of straight and potentially available dudes? I didn't think so.

With gay male friends you AND your wife get the best of everything. She gets friends who understand what dealing with men in a romantic capacity is like. Plus, you can feel better knowing that, if she's out, she's SAFE because she is in the company of men.

 

[Golddoor]

I'll let your "I'm totally against homosexuality" thing slide and put it to ya this way. Would ya rather her be hanging out with a bunch of straight and potentially available dudes? I didn't think so.

With gay male friends you AND your wife get the best of everything. She gets friends who understand what dealing with men in a romantic capacity is like. Plus, you can feel better knowing that, if she's out, she's SAFE because she is in the company of men.

You will let it slide? You must be Gay? Personaly I dont want her hanging out with any Dudes. Gay or straight!!

 

[Golddoor]

I think there may be something else happening in your relationship, or with your wife that you need to address, rather than her hanging out with gay men.

It sounds like she is not that secure in herself, and she is getting that 'feel good' about herself from her gay mates.

Your response is interesting hun. I think it may be a good idea to have a chat with your wife rather than do that 'what's good for the goose is good for the gander routine', or 'if you do, so can I'.

You are right about her insecurities. But what are we supposed to "chat" about that we already havent? We have been married now for almost 14 years now.

 

[DJ_UFO]

There's nothing wrong if she's hangin out with gay friends. The scary part of the story is...are you sure they are gay?

 

[Golddoor]

There's nothing wrong if she's hangin out with gay friends. The scary part of the story is...are you sure they are gay?

No they are gay. From their voice on the phone they sound flaming. No doubt. But Bisexual? HMMMM You never know. That why Im worried!!

 

[reno240]

Who cares? Seriously - maybe their gay, maybe their straight - the bigger issue here is that you have been married for 14 years and you don't trust your wife. I mean shit - you're spying on her and listening to her voice mails. What if your worst fears are realized and these "flaming" sounding guys are really straight? Does that automatically mean that your wife railed them?