why muscle?

[strongchick]

My co-worker just literally dragged me out in the streets to party.

I ate fried octopus....I haven't had fried food in 9 months. Will I have to pay?

We went to the clubs. Not that they are the hallmark of anything, really. Just not a place that is kind to a 33 year old has-been. Ha!

They didn't even know I'm over the hill. The skinny girls didn't know what hit them. Muscle chicks like me have a real advantage....we are strange...different. We are beautiful. I got phone numbers thrown at me....please call me they said....girls and guys. After a four year relationship ended...I so needed that.

I thank God I'm beautiful...not beautiful in a vain kind of way....beautiful in a "i've worked hard and earned it" way. I'm beautiful because I love me enough not to let myself wither. I love me enough to be me.

Thank you all so much. To those of you just starting....your abilities and beauty will be exposed eventually, and you will be rewarded. Not just the superficial bar crap....but the real deal...health, self-confidence, and just plain being comfortable with yourself. I hate to admit that I need people...but I do. The muscles bring them to me in a way I just don't know how.

Thank you....thank you God...and thank you to all the muscle athletes that laid the path.

This weight lifting and muscle thing has brought me out of a real life threatening depression. I have no idea how to say in a worldly way how grateful I am without sounding really corny.

But spiritually....the gym...the sweat...the exertion...has allowed me to speak directly to the deity that I know is listening.

That's why muscle.

Give me an affirmative, if you feel the same.


Thank you.

P.S. Don't read this thread without responding...don't let me twist in the wind. I know you feel the same.

 

[new@gettinbig]

YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!! I agree with you completely! You worked hard for that bod, so enjoy it.....its funny, I get comments all the time on my physique and a woman the other day at school asked me why I do this to my body, and that girls are not supposed to have muscle! I found that funny.......u either get compliments or evil stares. Most just don't understand, nor have the discipline with in them to do what we do. Girl enjoy a night out and eat what you want once in a while, you deserve it. What you do does not go unnoticed!!! Keep at it and enjoy it

 

[Temple]

AMEN!
I find that the longer I do this the bigger kick I get out of those who do not understand and the more I appreciate those who do. Most folks spend their lives avoiding pain - we spend ours seeking it and it changes not just our bodies but our whole perception of the world. I do not believe that it is just our bodies that attracts so many and repulses a few but rather what it does to our souls that sets us apart.

 

[Sassy69]

Hallelueah SISTA!

Well said Temple! Though I've never considered any of this actual "pain" - I think of it more in terms of my body telling me I'm still alive! The true sense of personal power I get from all this is amazing! I think you have to have that to go up on stage and make a good showing of yourself while standing in front of a couple hundred (well locally anyway) people, your friends, family and strangers in nothing more than Pro-tan and a swim suit. It makes you hold your head high (due to a strong back and abs, resulting in excellent posture!), smile wide when you KNOW people are noticing the fruits of your hard work and exude piles of self confidence because you know you have achieved something that only comes from hard work and dedication (i.e. no wusses allowed!).

(At least these are my goals .... )

ROCK ON SISTA!

 

[smallmovesal]

good for you! one day i won't be a skinny girl, i'll be a muscley skinny girl. gradually i'm getting somewhere.

 

[Steak Helmet]

DO you have any....

PICS of your fine self???

I was just wondering...I love a woman that can be strong and beautiful.

 

[Daeo]

Very poetic. You almost made me cry...

 

[blueyedkowgrl]

if i've said it once i'll be happy to say to say it again, strong women are beautiful!! we all need to step back and let the rest of the world catch up what we think and know is beautiful. we have worked hard for our bodies but we need to remember that we are beautiful inside and out! as new said YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Fennec]

Rock on, Sistah Strongchick!

The other day I was in a grocery store and picked up the "Sports Illustrated" swimsuit issue and I almost fell over laughing! My perception has changed SO MUCH since I got into this, and now the Sports Illustrated models I used to want to look like look terribly weak and completely out of shape. I had to call my husband over, and show it to him, and he freaked out on the pictures, too. We both have a completely different ideal for feminine beauty now than we did 3-4 years ago and I'm SO GLAD!!!!!

Fennec

 

[contessa]

We're not worthy - You go girl!!

Bump this one up for another round.

I am a beginner and do get frustrated. I'm a skinny fat chick (bf 29%) trying to get down to under 15%. Posts like this keep us going and at the end of the day reminds us "why the muscle!"

 

[hooper2]

Yea, doesn't it just make you feel great!!! Keeps me motivated!!!! I used to be a skinny fat chick who did cardio 24/7....thank goodness I (along with help) wised up and started hitting the weights hard!!! What a change it has made to my life!!!!

 

[Body of Art]

Very well said.
I applaud you for speaking your mind and encourage others to do the same.

I admire women who are so dedicated to their health. Its motivates me to follow my dream.
If I see a woman with an incredible physique, i have no problem letting her know.

I am a skinny fat chick (30%bf) and will one day be at 15%.
This board has helped me out a lot. THANKS

 

[Bikini Mod]

*thunderous applause*

Today I had the day off from the kiddies. Gym, tanning salon, SHOWER (I don't get a wholotta these LOL), manicure, pedicure, and BLACK BELT SHOPPING at a teen store - HAHAHAHAHAHahhahahahahahaa.

It was sooooooooo funny to see the young teen girls with ROLLS gawking. I had on my little cheapy sundress, just short enough to show the legs, but not HO SHORT (thems for clubbin' hehe) and heeled mules, not so high I couldn't walk but high enough to accentuate m'calves.......Yes, I FELT REAAAAAAAAAL GOOD!

What's my current bf% - Hell if I know! Just know that I got the sixpack and my butt AM READY FOR THEM THONG BIKINIS!

 

[Temple]

B-Mom- don't ya just LOVE days like that!!!!! Hearing about your ass and your 6 pack is just a little much to take right now - I'm on the IG mass building plan, think you are familiar with that one and I feel like she/man at the moment. Started the cardio to get some of the ROLLS and I do mean ROLLS off last week so maybe by the end of summer I will see a little sundress too.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Temple Girl - it is all good! I went through a large part of last summer jacked and fat and happy. True I wasn't wearing a thong, but DEFINITELY A BIKINI. Ya got the mass then you will be able to shed the fat! IG WILL NOT STEER YOU WRONG!!! I have him and FC to thank for the physique I am currently sportin' - LOL!

YOU GO

 

[MR. BMJ]

Hey B-MOM, are you gonna post a picture of yourself with that thong? Hehehe.

MR. BMJ

 

[fitgal]

Not to look passed ya' bmom, but on the main topic....I love knowing that when people look at me, its not 'skinny girl' they see - I love having visible muscle so people can see that you've worked to get where you are

 

[FitFossil]

Amen Strongchick!

Bodybuilding has given me my life back. I wasted 20 years with an eating disorder and chronic depression. All those years of therapy and medication did not do what bodybuilding did - make me happy in my own skin. It gave me so much more too, confidence, health, and strength - both physical and mental.

It's a little weird for me now, being noticed because of muscle. Sometimes I still think of myself as that small sickly child, the last one picked for teams in phys ed class. That hurt - I spent so much of my life just trying to disappear. I guess that's why I became anorexic.

So, now when I do get noticed, I sometimes feel guilty, like an imposter. Then I remind myself to buck up and enjoy it for all it's worth, since I've worked hard, paid the price and dang-blasted, I've EARNED it - sweet salve for those wounds of the past. It's neat being different in a way that some people admire and some people find threatening. So liberating!