when is it ok to snoop on your husband. This one is a doozy!

[cindylou]

I snoop so much the FBI should hire me. So much that my husband knows that I do. I have the passwords to his facebook, myspace, and email...and I regularly check his phone. When we were dating...there was a lot more interesting stuff. Now, it's just getting boring. Likewise, he has access to all of my accounts as well. I don't think it's about privacy...what should be that private that your spouse isn't allowed to look at it??? If a guy cheats on you...he has forfeited all rights to trust. Without trust...do you really have a relationship at all?

lol I couldnt be bothered to snoop on my husband. Its almost like I dont care if he cheats

 

[nangiggles]

lol I couldnt be bothered to snoop on my husband. Its almost like I dont care if he cheats

This is how I feel now, I guess both I and the relationship aremore mature now, if he cheats he knows what happens, I probably wouldnt care if he cheated as long as I dont find out or suspect it...

 

[cindylou]

This is how I feel now, I guess both I and the relationship aremore mature now, if he cheats he knows what happens, I probably wouldnt care if he cheated as long as I dont find out or suspect it...

Exactly. If I find out then I have to leave.

If I ddint have kids, I'd probably stay even if he cheated

Since I have kids, it would be a horrible example for them.

 

[Chi-gurl]

Hmmm...
I would think that having kids would be more of a reason to stay in case of cheating. There is nothing tying me to a relationship without kids....but I would think less about myself, and more about my kids. I guess things get more complicated with kids.

 

[cindylou]

Hmmm...
I would think that having kids would be more of a reason to stay in case of cheating. There is nothing tying me to a relationship without kids....but I would think less about myself, and more about my kids. I guess things get more complicated with kids.

I thought so too, but its a horrible example to put up w/ cheating (I have a daughter) if my daughter ever found out... think about how it would change her view of men and what she should and shouldnt put up with, and choose for her husband when she gets older. jmo , but I've already warned my husband that I will absolutely divorce him if he has sex w/ another woman. I mean it. I wont even think about it, it would already be done. I have to stick to my word I think

 

[nangiggles]

If I find out it's over, if he can do it without me knowing.... then... I wont know...

 

[cindylou]

If I find out it's over, if he can do it without me knowing.... then... I wont know...

ha! So true Its easier that way. Less stress.

 

[Cutiebaby]

Once you lie to me or cheat on me than it becomes YOUR PROBLEM....You are the reason why there is no trust, Deal with it!

If I want to snoop, I WILL! And if you don't like it or feel as though I am breaking into your privacy keep in mind that you wouldn't have passwords on things if you had nothing to hide and I wouldn't have to snoop or double check if you had not LIED.

 

[nangiggles]

true too Angel... the reason I started looking was because of a small lie that snowballed, I never would have started looking out of the blue...

 

[Chi-gurl]

Angel that's a great point...and justifies all the snooping I guess. What the hell do you need privacy for anyway in a marriage??? There shouldn't be any.