What would you do if you walked in a room while your husband was banging another chick

[ck2006]

Re: What would you do if you walked in a room while your husband was banging another

Alimony is the main reason that I dont entertain the idea of divorce right now. I have bailed my wife out of financial trouble 3 times... Ive carried her financially throughout our entire 10 year on-off-on-off period... supported her through her dropping out of college, going to beauty school, and job hopping from one place to another.

Shes such a huge ball of negativity lately that it makes me not even want to go home anymore... but I'll be damned if I go for a divorce and find out I have to pay ANYTHING to her on a monthly basis. I mean, when has a man done enough? When is enough enough?!

She is bi-polar, and very high-maintenance. Its gotten to the point that our relationship has worn me out on every level possible.

She's already made me eat through my entire savings supporting us while she was unemployed for pretty much half of this year.


I still hear women bitching about equality and being treated equally to men in all aspects. Then why the hell cant my wife get off her ass, suck it up and get a job and support herself? Why if, after 10 years of financially making sure someone is ok because you truly care about them and their well being... but after 10 years you just cant take the relationship anymore, why the fuck should we have to pay any money so that the female can pretty much sit on her ass and not do shit? Again... when is enough enough?

wow... I kinda vented right there didnt I? I feel some flames comin on

I actually do agree with you on some points, why should you suffer for your success and why do you have to pay the burden for her not being successful. I get you. I would hate to admit if I was getting paid allimony.

Child support is a little different because as a couple if the wife stays home to raise the kids then she is sacrificing her success for her children's and that is the responsibility of both parents, however alimony, no.

But I love giving that comment below cause I know it fires you men up!

 

[dutchman063]

see how sick and twisted women think.they go right for the wallit evry frigen time.

thats why dont even bother with marriage, you can everything you need without being married anyways

 

[delete]

Re: What would you do if you walked in a room while your husband was banging another

wow... I kinda vented right there didnt I? I feel some flames comin on

nope, no flames, only questions and some sympathy. What was it that you liked about her enough to get married in the first place? Are those reasons still around somewhere? Did she turn bi -polar after marriage or do you see the early warning signs now and will be able to look out for them in the future?

 

[TC2]

Any cunt that tries to fuck me with alimony would get a bullet.

 

[Cutiebaby]

If I ever caught needto in the act he would be down right sorry. I am not the type that would screw him over money wise. However he will take care of his own (child support).At this point in my marriage and having been through a lot of cheaters in my time, and yes been one myself, I dont think that I would tend to be that violent with the other girl.I am not saying i wouldnt rough her up some but really what is the point of physical violence?
I would however laugh until I clearly pissed my pants at the two.The wish them good luck with each other. Because to each his own. If he were to be sleeping with a woman in my bed what does that have to say about her? They would screw each other over by a terrible cycle of cheating, and they would both eventually be wearing my shoes any how.
After being together for 9+ years I dont think that I would want to stay.I think I am at the stage in my life where I know I deserve better reguardless of any mans excuses.
Not to say that I am high on my horse or what ever, but I know where needto would be with out me! And honestly he wouldnt be much of any thing. He would end up a grown man with 3 kids with an ex wife, running the streets drinking daily. Along with his drinking he would end up in a shit load of trouble. See, he wouldnt have a wife to "nag" at him about what is right and what is wrong.
Taking any alimony from him would not only make things bitter but it would let him think that I cannot go on with out his assistance.
No offense to people who collect alimony.

 

[deco]

ouch

 

[needtogetaas]

Re: What would you do if you walked in a room while your husband was banging another

Alimony is the main reason that I dont entertain the idea of divorce right now. I have bailed my wife out of financial trouble 3 times... Ive carried her financially throughout our entire 10 year on-off-on-off period... supported her through her dropping out of college, going to beauty school, and job hopping from one place to another.

Shes such a huge ball of negativity lately that it makes me not even want to go home anymore... but I'll be damned if I go for a divorce and find out I have to pay ANYTHING to her on a monthly basis. I mean, when has a man done enough? When is enough enough?!

She is bi-polar, and very high-maintenance. Its gotten to the point that our relationship has worn me out on every level possible.

She's already made me eat through my entire savings supporting us while she was unemployed for pretty much half of this year.


I still hear women bitching about equality and being treated equally to men in all aspects. Then why the hell cant my wife get off her ass, suck it up and get a job and support herself? Why if, after 10 years of financially making sure someone is ok because you truly care about them and their well being... but after 10 years you just cant take the relationship anymore, why the fuck should we have to pay any money so that the female can pretty much sit on her ass and not do shit? Again... when is enough enough?

wow... I kinda vented right there didnt I? I feel some flames comin on

wow bro.we should be friends.

 

[Cutiebaby]

Re: What would you do if you walked in a room while your husband was banging another

wow bro.we should be friends.

That statement has little to desire

 

[Wulfgar]

Id smack his bitch ass up

 

[immortalis]

Re: What would you do if you walked in a room while your husband was banging another

nope, no flames, only questions and some sympathy. What was it that you liked about her enough to get married in the first place? Are those reasons still around somewhere? Did she turn bi -polar after marriage or do you see the early warning signs now and will be able to look out for them in the future?

My main problem is... i dont quit... ever. I dont know when to give up. I go so hard at everything in life, including relationships. I have an inner desire to "fix" things I guess, and I work non-stop until I get them fixed or I die trying. So I guess that mentality is what has kept me going in my relationship/marraige with my wife. There have been so many ups and downs, but I always try to look for the best and keep working to make things better... when in all honesty, looking back on it I should have cashed my chips in and walked away a long time ago.

I knew she was bi-polar. I knew about a lot of her personal issues which makes her the type of person she is now. There are so many intangible factors in my marraige that if I were to sit here and try to type them all out, i would be typing for days.

In my marraige, I am more like a father figure than a husband. She relies on me so much for damn near every aspect of life. Shes very co-dependent. In our past, i got caught up in the notion that she would comitt suicide if I left her... trust me, she's capable of it. I will get flamed for that one, but regardless I just couldnt really sleep well at night with that on my shoulders. So I've always tried to stick with her and work through things with her to get her to a more stable place in her life. Throughout that entire process, one of the things that kept being brought up was the fact that she never saw us getting married and she felt that I was just leading her on and playing games with her... which couldnt be farther from the truth.

As we continue'd with our relationship, and I continued to try to iron out every problem that we had so that we could move forward, it seemed as of last year that we both were finally in a place where I felt that marraige was a viable option... and somewhere inside me I hoped that once we were married, she would feel secure enough in herself that we would both be able to continue moving foward with our lives together and actually be happy instead of always going back and forth from happy to miserable as hell.

At first, things were wonderfull and I must admit that I LOVE being someones husband. After being with the same woman off and on, and living together 3 seperate times, we both really didnt think it would be any different once we were married. Well I can say that it definitely felt different, but in a good way. I like being a husband... however, in the big picture I just dont see that there is anything that I can do to truly make her happy. The factors that bring her down, and cause her to make me unhappy are all things that I can not control or influence. So now, after a decade of trying I have basically realized that there is no light at the end of the tunell.

As much as I care for her and respect her, i feel that we will truly never be as happy as a married couple should be. However now, I wont file for divorce... for a lot of the same reasons that i never got out of the relationship previously but also because I will refuse to pay alimony after all the stuff I have already been through. It's just a rediculas expectation for someone in my position to have to meet, given the fact that I have done 500 million times more than most any other man would have if they were in my position. I garantee you that 98% of all men would have been out of this thing a long time ago... like I said, i dont know when to "quit". In this aspect im definitely not proud of the fact that I didnt give up on this... because any man in his right mind would look at my situation and call me a fucking idiot for sticking around even half as long as I have.

Oh well... we just moved into a new apartment this weekend so we have a year lease lookin us in the face. Lets see what this next year holds for me...




(i hope this post makes sense and doesnt jump around too much. Im busy as hell at work right now, and i wrote this up in between taking about 20 phone calls heh)