What are your thoughts on BDSM relationships

[Rachel...lol]

This may need to be moved to EBTS - not sure if open discussion is allowed here. Anybody have any strong views regarding these types of relationships and the different types of sexual dynamics they create?

This is really meant to be a serious thread amongst those that have no filter... and not just a bunch of hornballs from the porn forum - ummmm double negatory... but you know what I'm saying?

And remember, BDSM can have so man different connotations that it's not referring just strictly to the act of sex - rather the roles and different ways relationships are fulfilled using ageplay, and other kinds people have (beit financial, transgender - shit, whatever) and expressing a little 'outside the box'. Damn I sound a bit like a scholar.

School me kids - let's talk sex.

 

[SpyWizard]

there are so many different levels of the lifestyle.. BDSM covers sooooo many..

The basic thought being the submissive is actually the one in control, however it's been my experience that it is more of a shared domination, with the power shifting throughout the session..

Example.. there is nothing more exciting to be a little scared and then to become the dominate on during the sex act..
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another extreme involves scat and the forced play with that..

another is role playing that can take on so many different things, both physically and psychologically..

ummmm.. what was your question??

as a main part or sustainable in a marriage?? i'm not so sure about that.. it's like an open relationship, it never works out well..

 

[nangiggles]

Fun and games when applied to sex life, if a dependent personality and a bossy person meet up it's a match made in heaven... so many levels, so many personalities it goes well and bad with....

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Dont u be tearing on us BTS lurkers and posters!

 

[bakemeacookie]

are you asking for a date?

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[redsamurai]

having some with bdsm is alot different than actual bdsm relationships. Those are for people that have serious issues with reality....I would stay away.

 

[Rachel...lol]

nah just wondering if it's more mainstream than we all think and trying to get a little conversation going

 

[Sub-Zero]

all women like to be dominated, unless youre raymond in which case ur bitch wife dominates u

 

[puddlemonkey]

all women like to be dominated, unless youre raymond in which case ur bitch wife dominates u

first few seasons of ELR she was looking pretty good bro

 

[redsamurai]

nah just wondering if it's more mainstream than we all think and trying to get a little conversation going

this isn't a normal question for women to be contemplating....you've obviously been exposed in some way and I'm guessing some "daddy" made you an offer, lol.

As I said....it's usually bad news when you willfully make yourself someone else's "property". I've heard some pretty bad stories about what happens when master or mistress get's bored with the novelty of their new toy and decides to up the ante.

I know a little about this scene cause I used to date a dominatrix. She wasn't into that whole 24/7 thing though....but she sure had some stories to tell. There's people who like to have fun with it like my ex, and then there's people who take it way way way too far and way too far some more. If you're looking for bdsm kick just go pay for it.

 

[Rachel...lol]

this isn't a normal question for women to be contemplating....you've obviously been exposed in some way and I'm guessing some "daddy" made you an offer, lol.

As I said....it's usually bad news when you willfully make yourself someone else's "property". I've heard some pretty bad stories about what happens when master or mistress get's bored with the novelty of their new toy and decides to up the ante.

I know a little about this scene cause I used to date a dominatrix. She wasn't into that whole 24/7 thing though....but she sure had some stories to tell. There's people who like to have fun with it like my ex, and then there's people who take it way way way too far and way too far some more. If you're looking for bdsm kick just go pay for it.

Well - as you referred to in your comment, there certainly are different "levels" so to speak - 24/7 Master/Slave vs a relationship that is just a little dom/sub...

I think many people get involved in relationships with a dom/sub structure, but not willingly (i.e. controlling/manipulative abusive husband, etc).

Anybody been involved in a relationship that was unique to you in that you or your partner willingly gave up the power to the other?