Update on the girl I am into

[confusedmushie]

Well, have not been on the board for almos a week. Been so busy with finals and also work.

Well, since my last post, the little date that I planned did not happen. Something really important came up on my end at the very last minute. I had already picked her up and was on our way out, but I had to turn around and drop her off. I was VERY DISAPPOINTED, but it was something I HAD to do. She said she understood, but I was very unsure about it.

It was 11 pm by the time I got done with what I needed to do. Called her, apologized over and over again. We did end up going out at around 1am and hung out till 4 or 5 in the morning.

Since then, we have been out just about everyday, I never took the chance to make a move on her, again, didn't want to do something that I might regret, unless I am really sure about.

Wednesday night we hung out, just sat and talked.

Last night, we laid out in the middle of my drive way and watched the lunar eclipse. Got into some deeper conversation for the first time and actually started to understand her a little better. We did end up kissing and it was good from there. What sucks is that she will be going on a road trip with her best friend next week for like 10 days (her best friend is a guy). I guess everything will follow through if it’s meant to be. Only time will tell I guess. I am somewhat happy, she did tell me something that are very personal and claim that she’s never told anyone that she didn’t know really well. Guess that means something?

Just wanted to update you all, not like you all wanted to hear anything I just said.

How you doing flexy?

Ian

 

[DcupSheepNipples]

Are you for real? Or are you just a straight edger?

 

[duritz]

what did you have to do before you hung out with her??? couldn't masturbation wait til late???

 

[TrainerOfChampions]

What sucks is that she will be going on a road trip with her best friend next week for like 10 days (her best friend is a guy). I guess everything will follow through if it’s meant to be. Only time will tell I guess.

By my calculations, she should be gulping down his manchowder at a rest stop in Alabama right about....NOW!
J/K hope it works out for you.

 

[confusedmushie]

Some wired ass replies. No idea what you all are talking about.

If it was just 'some' girl, I'd have no problem jumping on her right away. With someone that I'd like a little more then just a fling, I tend to be very reserved and take it real slow.

What is so wrong about that? Is sex the only thing? Hmmm, makes me wonder. Guess my ethics and beliefs are just different.

Ian

 

[TrainerOfChampions]

Guess my ethics and beliefs are just different.

Ok, but remember this cardinal rule of life: overly ethical=gay.

 

[gtrcivic]

10 days on a road trip, things will happen unless:


Neither are attracted to each other
or the guy is GAY......

So if they are sharing same room, chances are they will be hooking up some way or another. Sorry man, might want to hit it or get some before she takes off......

 

[confusedmushie]

Nah, not gay. Just think that it's a little more important then just a 'fuck'.

Ian

 

[Staind]

Shouldn't the strategy be to always go as far as the woman will let you? Get in her pants and you might have the emotional connection you need to have the upper hand, then just be fairly nice but don't show too much love. That will be my strategy.

 

[confusedmushie]

10 days on a road trip, things will happen unless:


Neither are attracted to each other
or the guy is GAY......

So if they are sharing same room, chances are they will be hooking up some way or another. Sorry man, might want to hit it or get some before she takes off......

My thoughts exactly.

Ian

 

[TrainerOfChampions]

10 days on a road trip, things will happen unless:


Neither are attracted to each other
or the guy is GAY......

So if they are sharing same room, chances are they will be hooking up some way or another

One way or another? Brother, cheap motel rooms lead people to do all the sleazy things you can imagine. Shell be pounded nine ways to sunday until her teeth bite clean through the pillow. Sorry, thats just the way life goes.

 

[confusedmushie]

One way or another? Brother, cheap motel rooms lead people to do all the sleazy things you can imagine. Shell be pounded nine ways to sunday until her teeth bite clean through the pillow. Sorry, thats just the way life goes.

I agree with that. But then again, there's always the benefit of doubt. If she's like what you are claiming, then I really didn't miss out on anything. Now, on the other hand, if she has the ethics that I have, then I will have everything in the long run.

I am kinda over the whole, wham bam, thank you ma'am thing. I had my fun, a lot of fun for that, a couple of years back. I am looking to settle down, at least something serious, don't want some 2 week relationship. In no way do I want to put up with that shit.

Like I said, only time will tell.

Ian

 

[TrainerOfChampions]

GOOD LUCK!

 

[gsxr1000]

Please refrain from updating us on the situation any further until the content is of an X, or better better yet XXX, nature.


Thank you, that is all.

 

[muscle_geek]

I like Dawson's Creek

 

[Bullit]

Best example of a gay guy who hasnt come out of the closet ever.

 

[-SD-]

Forget her bro. Ask yourself this, if you get seriously involved with her and she still wants to go on trips with her "best guy friend", will you be able handle that? Should you be able to handle that? I wouldnt, nor shouldnt expect anyone to handle that sort of disrespect, so cut her off now why the pain is still nothing.

 

[flexygrl]

Hey Cutie!!

I'm proud of you! Good job! She's a really lucky girl. Hope she deserves you! Don't worry bout the road trip. My sister's best friend is a guy and guess what, he's gay. Even if her friend isn't gay, I wouldn't worry. If she screws around then she is trash. Your doing just fine!!! Trust me, if she is a good, respectable girl she appreciates it. Personally, if I was hanging out with a guy that I was really into and he was constantly trying to jump my bones I would lose interest real fast. It has happened before. The guy I was seeing before my husband was always trying to grab my ass. It got really annoying after awhile. He was a nice guy and I gave him like 2 more tries to straighten up, but he just wouldn't stop. He would put his hand down at the last minute before I sat, so that he could cop a feel. It got old, really fast.

Keep us posted!! Another thing. If while she is gone something else comes along, go for it! You are not engaged and are not even commited to eachother yet. Don't sell yourself short.

J

 

[Bullit]

Hey Cutie!!

Hi!


How you doin'?

 

[flexygrl]

Awww bullit!! I have one better for you:

Hey Sexy!!

 

[fistfullofsteel]

My guess is that they are going to have sex through out the whole trip especially after you not giving her any. Then she is going to get pregnant and you are going to make a thread crying about it.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

One way or another? Brother, cheap motel rooms lead people to do all the sleazy things you can imagine. Shell be pounded nine ways to sunday until her teeth bite clean through the pillow. Sorry, thats just the way life goes.

 

[Outtlaw]

10 days on a road trip, things will happen unless:


Neither are attracted to each other
or the guy is GAY......

So if they are sharing same room, chances are they will be hooking up some way or another. Sorry man, might want to hit it or get some before she takes off......

Even if the guy isnt gay, it doesnt mean anything is going to happen. This girl has been hanging out with Ian for around 10days now, every night till 4-5am and nothing was happening all that time till now. Any girl thats gonna hang around like that is clearly hooked on the guy. I dont think you´ll have much to worry about.

 

[confusedmushie]

Even if the guy isnt gay, it doesnt mean anything is going to happen. This girl has been hanging out with Ian for around 10days now, every night till 4-5am and nothing was happening all that time till now. Any girl thats gonna hang around like that is clearly hooked on the guy. I dont think you´ll have much to worry about.

Outlaw,

Thanks a lot man. Seems there are only a few people that can actually say something without being negative. This guy has been her best friend for years and years now. I am not sure what history they have, and frankly, I don't really care.

Do I care that she's going on the trip with a guy, well, the truth is, YES, I do. There's nothing that I am able to do. We are not commited, there's just a mutural attraction between the two of us. What kind of a man would I be to ask her not to go, when, #1, we are not commited in anyway, #2, the trip has been planned for month now before I met her.

I have a whole bunch of doubts, main reason is because I am very paranoid about a lot of things. But when I do sit down and think about it, it's been almost 2 weeks since we started to hang around each other. Out of the 2 weeks, there's only been like 2 days where we have not been together till the sun came up. No sex, no kiss, nothing, just pure talk. At times, I think she might have even been bored, as I have, but it was just so great being in her presence.

So, when I do think about it, if she's a trashy type of girl, she'd be long gone. If she wanted just some casual sex, she'd moved on by now. But all that has not happened, in fact, it has just been getting better as time goes on.

One bad thing is that I can't really read her. I am normally really good at reading people, but not with her.

Ian

 

[confusedmushie]

My guess is that they are going to have sex through out the whole trip especially after you not giving her any. Then she is going to get pregnant and you are going to make a thread crying about it.

hahahaha, that would really suck. I don't know whether I'd be crying or not, I think I'd actually be thanking god that I didn't get more involved with a girl like that.

Ian

 

[confusedmushie]

Best example of a gay guy who hasnt come out of the closet ever.

Hmmmm......

I've had funny feelings about guys lately....wonder if you are right. I have to sleep on this one!!!! LMAO.

Don't think I am gay, if this shit gets anymore complicated, I just very well might turn gay. But it's all good right now.

Ian

 

[confusedmushie]

Forget her bro. Ask yourself this, if you get seriously involved with her and she still wants to go on trips with her "best guy friend", will you be able handle that? Should you be able to handle that? I wouldnt, nor shouldnt expect anyone to handle that sort of disrespect, so cut her off now why the pain is still nothing.

Thanks for the suggestion. One thing you do have to understand is that we are not in a relationship yet. I would love to have one with her, but it's just not at that stage yet.

Handling her going on a trip with her best friend is something I am totally against. I hate the fact that she is. There's nothing I can do. She's not 'mine' to control. Again, if she indeed feels anything for me, she won't do what we are thinking. And if she does, then, you know what, it's her lose, not mine. I'd just be disappointed more then anything, but that's it. She knows how i feel and with that in mind, she has the choice to do what she pleases. If she wants a commited, stable, loving, and romantic relationship, I am here. If she's not ready for one, then she's not the person for me, cuz that's what I am looking for.

Ian

 

[confusedmushie]

Hey Cutie!!

I'm proud of you! Good job! She's a really lucky girl. Hope she deserves you! Don't worry bout the road trip. My sister's best friend is a guy and guess what, he's gay. Even if her friend isn't gay, I wouldn't worry. If she screws around then she is trash. Your doing just fine!!! Trust me, if she is a good, respectable girl she appreciates it. Personally, if I was hanging out with a guy that I was really into and he was constantly trying to jump my bones I would lose interest real fast. It has happened before. The guy I was seeing before my husband was always trying to grab my ass. It got really annoying after awhile. He was a nice guy and I gave him like 2 more tries to straighten up, but he just wouldn't stop. He would put his hand down at the last minute before I sat, so that he could cop a feel. It got old, really fast.

Keep us posted!! Another thing. If while she is gone something else comes along, go for it! You are not engaged and are not even commited to eachother yet. Don't sell yourself short.

J

Hey Sweetie!

I love to hear from you, always brightens my day to read something you've put up on the boards.

Seems the majority of people here are just into the whole sex part and that's it. Hmmm, if that's what I want, I'd go to a club, I wouldn't have any problems getting some scanky ass girl and take home. BUT it is not what I want.

Maybe this is all a test. A test that will let me know if she's into me or not. This whole road trip thing might just work out, whether negative or positive.

Ian

 

[confusedmushie]

Just to add, she's also a fitness buff. A life long ballet dancer and is in perfect shape. Works out a lot and is amazingly hot. She is 6'2 and I think weighs around 120 ish? Very lean, toned, and one of the greatest ass around. Wonderful personality and is the easiest gril to talk to.

On top of all that, she's unbelivably smart. In the beginning it somewhat intimidated me, but it's all good.

Ian

 

[mojokid]

Some wired ass replies. No idea what you all are talking about.

If it was just 'some' girl, I'd have no problem jumping on her right away. With someone that I'd like a little more then just a fling, I tend to be very reserved and take it real slow.

What is so wrong about that? Is sex the only thing? Hmmm, makes me wonder. Guess my ethics and beliefs are just different.

Ian

heh you say 'is sex the only thing?' yet you say that if it were
just 'some' girl you'd have no problem jumping on her right away, and then you say you guess your ethics and beliefs are just different ( in a better, more noble way ? ) heh .. not from the standpoint of that 'some' girl.

 

[casualbb]

It was 11 pm by the time I got done with what I needed to do. Called her, apologized over and over again. We did end up going out at around 1am and hung out till 4 or 5 in the morning.

Since then, we have been out just about everyday, I never took the chance to make a move on her, again, didn't want to do something that I might regret, unless I am really sure about.

Wednesday night we hung out, just sat and talked.

I don't want to have to say this but it's time for some tough love: you need to grow some balls. "Apologized over and over?" You're sending her the message that she's doing you a favor by going out with you. Where's the self-confidence in that?

"We have been out just about everyday, I never took the chance to make a move on her."

1) You're smothering her. Seeing someone everyday is predictable and thus neither exciting nor romantic

2) If you want to kiss her, then do it. None of this wishy-washy business, just do it. And make no excuses about it. It may not be PC, but the whole "sweep them off their feet" deal really is what women want.

3) It sends the message that you have nothing else to do with your time, and obviously no other women in your life if you're willing to invest so much time in her. It makes you look less desirable.

The good news is, despite your blundering, she's obviously into you. Who else would hang around for so long? So don't freak out about the trip, just WAIT TO CALL HER AFTERWARDS. If you call her immediately it screams "desperate," just play it cool.

-casual

 

[Frackal]

She's going to dump youif you dont work on getting into her pants a little harder

 

[-SD-]

She's going to dump youif you dont work on getting into her pants a little harder

Sounds paradoxical, but true. The only way you can become unpredictable and exciting at this point is to act more like a horn dog and go for the ass. You will need your A game at this point as well.

 

[confusedmushie]

I don't want to have to say this but it's time for some tough love: you need to grow some balls. "Apologized over and over?" You're sending her the message that she's doing you a favor by going out with you. Where's the self-confidence in that?

"We have been out just about everyday, I never took the chance to make a move on her."

1) You're smothering her. Seeing someone everyday is predictable and thus neither exciting nor romantic

2) If you want to kiss her, then do it. None of this wishy-washy business, just do it. And make no excuses about it. It may not be PC, but the whole "sweep them off their feet" deal really is what women want.

3) It sends the message that you have nothing else to do with your time, and obviously no other women in your life if you're willing to invest so much time in her. It makes you look less desirable.

The good news is, despite your blundering, she's obviously into you. Who else would hang around for so long? So don't freak out about the trip, just WAIT TO CALL HER AFTERWARDS. If you call her immediately it screams "desperate," just play it cool.

-casual

Thanks for the advices.

Ian

 

[confusedmushie]

heh you say 'is sex the only thing?' yet you say that if it were
just 'some' girl you'd have no problem jumping on her right away, and then you say you guess your ethics and beliefs are just different ( in a better, more noble way ? ) heh .. not from the standpoint of that 'some' girl.

I divide the two into different catagories. Sex is NOT the most important thing to me. If I am out and some random club chick hits on me, I'd have no problem having sex with her. To me, that's two people looking for the same thing and forget each other the next day. With her, it's different. I have more respect and am also looking for more then just a one night stand. Therefore, sex in this aspect is not as important to me.

Ethics, hmmm, well, here's the thing. When I talk to a girl, the very first thing that pops up is NOT always 'sex'. It seems on this board, everyone's all about hitting it and moving on. Not me.

Ian

 

[confusedmushie]

She's going to dump youif you dont work on getting into her pants a little harder

See, here's the thing. We've talked and she was involved in a pretty serious relationship for 4 years. She asked me to let us take our time and take it slow. That's why I am moving so slow, respect I guess. Like I mentioned, if it doesn't workout romantically with her, it's not going to be the end of the world. I'd rather have her as a good friend then not having her around at all. Despite everyone's suggestions, I think I will just take it the way I know how, slow and earn her trust.

As for me not getting many chicks, well, I don't hook up every time I go out, but there are a few chicks around me that I can have at any time. Just not interested at the moment.

Ian

 

[Frackal]

You might be on to something...who knows...I'd still try to get some good kissing in though if nothing else...kissing is both safe and intimate

 

[-SD-]

See, here's the thing. We've talked and she was involved in a pretty serious relationship for 4 years. She asked me to let us take our time and take it slow. That's why I am moving so slow, respect I guess. Like I mentioned, if it doesn't workout romantically with her, it's not going to be the end of the world. I'd rather have her as a good friend then not having her around at all. Despite everyone's suggestions, I think I will just take it the way I know how, slow and earn her trust.

As for me not getting many chicks, well, I don't hook up every time I go out, but there are a few chicks around me that I can have at any time. Just not interested at the moment.

Ian

Sounds like she is dictating to you how "things are going to be". You are the man bro, youve got to take what you want when you want it. Dont ever let a woman try to suppress you or lead you around by the nose. If you say youd rather have her as a good friend then not around at all then I think you may have already admitted defeat concerning her.

 

[confusedmushie]

Sounds like she is dictating to you how "things are going to be". You are the man bro, youve got to take what you want when you want it. Dont ever let a woman try to suppress you or lead you around by the nose. If you say youd rather have her as a good friend then not around at all then I think you may have already admitted defeat concerning her.

Not admitting defeat. Just answering to the comments that are made on the thread. According to people here, it's either fuck her, or I'd end up with nothing. I don't believe that to be true.

I am leading her, but at the same time, giving her the respect that she's indirectly asked for. I've always been taught that to get respect, I must first show respect. Don't see her as a piece of meat.

Ian

 

[confusedmushie]

You might be on to something...who knows...I'd still try to get some good kissing in though if nothing else...kissing is both safe and intimate

I am......making out with her every chance I have. I haven't dated for so long and when I did date, I would say that 99% of all the girls made the move. I don't know, call me gay, but I never had to make the first move. It was always taken care off. Now, with her, she's the type that believes the guy should do everything, so I am slowly doing it.

We'll see what all this leads too. She's coming over for dinner tonight, I will be kicking my brother out of the house so I can be alone with her. We will see how she feels.

Ian

 

[-SD-]

I am......making out with her every chance I have. I haven't dated for so long and when I did date, I would say that 99% of all the girls made the move. I don't know, call me gay, but I never had to make the first move. It was always taken care off. Now, with her, she's the type that believes the guy should do everything, so I am slowly doing it.

We'll see what all this leads too. She's coming over for dinner tonight, I will be kicking my brother out of the house so I can be alone with her. We will see how she feels.

Ian

"I am slowly doing it", "We will see how she feels". Your attitude says it all, quit putting her up on a pedestal and start acting like a man who is in charge and knows what he wants then goes for it. Youve had it handed to you in the past by women and you didnt have to act like a man. This doesnt necessarily mean rip her clothes off when she walks in the door, it means you start acting like "I am a man and I get what I want when I want it concerning women". Youve been acting like her teddy bear friend for too long bro, turn the situation around, it isnt too late already.

 

[confusedmushie]

"I am slowly doing it", "We will see how she feels". Your attitude says it all, quit putting her up on a pedestal and start acting like a man who is in charge and knows what he wants then goes for it. Youve had it handed to you in the past by women and you didnt have to act like a man. This doesnt necessarily mean rip her clothes off when she walks in the door, it means you start acting like "I am a man and I get what I want when I want it concerning women". Youve been acting like her teddy bear friend for too long bro, turn the situation around, it isnt too late already.

Will take that into consideration tonight!

Thanks!

Ian