It's sad if you need to worry about what's gay and what's not...the fact is if you are comfortable with yourself, and are enjoying what you are doing, then what the fuck. What if you "accidentally" brushed up against another guys cock or something...who gives a fuck??? Doesn't mean you're going to throw your legs in the air and plan a commitment ceremony.
Obsessing about what's gay and what's not gay is done by those who are either very adolescent or a little shakey about their own sexuality.