Those of you who ARE the/HAVE the piece-o-sheet ex....

[patsfan1379]

That's probably the hardest thing to reason with...knowing you'll never get that time back. Not having anything to show for it.

(Don't misinterpret me....I have the most amaaaaaaazing 5 year old in the world....no really........everrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.....in the world.....really.)

wasted time. lessons learned.

 

[habitualhealth]

Looking back, I realize how poor my judgment was and what a mistake I made by choosing to be involved with someone who was less than par (way less). He may be a pitiful human being and poor excuse for an adult, but I'm the one who chose to be with him, so I take blame for my part in that. That was a poor choice I made.

Here's to making better choices! *cheers*

Agreed, however....I think lies and overplay get the best of us in the honeymoon stages. Initial desire of wanting to believe everything that comes out of their mouth before making them prove their "par".

And yes, YAY for better choices!

 

[jh1]

That's probably the hardest thing to reason with...knowing you'll never get that time back. Not having anything to show for it.

(Don't misinterpret me....I have the most amaaaaaaazing 5 year old in the world....no really........everrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.....in the world.....really.)

Time... fuck.. I had a great *TIME*... I don't want the time back.

But... at least for me... You build up this whole life with someone for X number of years... house, furniture, pets, friends - FUCKING EVERYTHING - then it all kind of goes to waste. I never would have choosen to have a dog, cat AND A FUCKING GOLDFISH - if I were single.

I don't want a pink laundry room, goddammit!

I hate those fucking couches...but you know what - I bought them to shut her the fuck up.

I don't like the floral pattern'd 'douve' cover in my bedroom.

I have a hibiscus plant that takes up my whole fucking kitchen it's so fuckin big....

I want my money back for all this bullshit.

And... I want my masculine house back... without having to spend more money to get it.


Time... shit...

 

[blueta2]

That's probably the hardest thing to reason with...knowing you'll never get that time back. Not having anything to show for it.

(Don't misinterpret me....I have the most amaaaaaaazing 5 year old in the world....no really........everrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.....in the world.....really.)

If you learned a hard lesson from a sad/pathetic ex, the "lesson" is what you have to show for it. Every experience in life is not a waste!

 

[habitualhealth]

If that is you in your avatar, and you were my ex, I'd come running the fuck back to you pronto.

I am sorry for what I did.

I forgive you.


...song comes to mind.....One Republic "Apologize".

 

[caligirl]

My response could fill a book, but I'll spare you details. I would have gone sooner, not waited 6 years thinking things btween us could maybe change. Many good things did result from hanging on, but it wasn't anything that improved us together.

 

[Smurfy]

Agreed, however....I think lies and overplay get the best of us in the honeymoon stages. Initial desire of wanting to believe everything that comes out of their mouth before making them prove their "par".

And yes, YAY for better choices!

oh. In my particular case (not that you asked, but for contrast purposes), it's not that he was misrepresenting himself in any way. I was just too blinded by stupidity and cluelessness and immaturity to realize that, hey, this probably isnt someone you should involve yourself with on any more than a one-night-stand basis. Also, low self-esteem perpetuates decisions like this. "oh, someone likes me. someone wants me. amazing. since I am not worthy of anyone of any real character, i'll just settle for this useless piece of crap since Im a useless piece of crap too"

 

[habitualhealth]

If you learned a hard lesson from a sad/pathetic ex, the "lesson" is what you have to show for it. Every experience in life is not a waste!

I agree completely. That's what I was trying to get through to Pintaduh.

Captain obvious pointed out they are an ex for a reason....I think I mentioned that. But, everyone has learned some type of lesson to better themselves or perhaps yield them next time. So would you (not you blueta) give up learning that valuable lesson to avoid the pain/suffering/drama from the ex?

Pintobean...you didn't read well....I said, KNOWING WHAT YOU KNOW NOW....including but not limited to: ALL LESSONS LEARNED to create a better you....would you go back to that moment of choice and opt OUT? (also, opting out of those lessons learned)

DUH.

 

[habitualhealth]

BTW, this thread is like the written version of the Butterfly Effect

good movie.

 

[alien amp pharm]

I don't have any exes because I can't get them to go out with me in the first place.