The Two Most Desired Traits In A Mate - This Will Blow Your Pants Off - Healother Pay Attention....

[puddlemonkey]

Re: The Two Most Desired Traits In A Mate - This Will Blow Your Pants Off - Healother

lolol at "women want". C'mon BM, you GOTTA be smarter than that. Do you know how many fucking dudes I know that are tapping married women as we speak? It's a social norm at this point.

Agreed. Nothing I'm really proud of, but out of the 35 or so women I've "dated" well over 20 were married, engaged, or in monogamous relationships with someone else. At this point in my life I think I prefer it now, women who are in relationships already, that way I know up front she's scandalous and I don't have to put trust or faith in this individual.

 

[Wulfgar]

Re: The Two Most Desired Traits In A Mate - This Will Blow Your Pants Off - Healother

No one knows everything about everything, but the knowledge set for by this article is not all that complicated or *cutting edge.* Curious, what did your girl say what she believed to be the most desirable traits in a mate?

All she said was that different people prefer different things. Some people are doormats in thier relationships and are happy about it. and that she thought people who generalize need to stop worrying about what other people are looking for in their own relationships and focus on themselves.

btw..she said she liked nice people...and she beleived kindness included being "nice" but was just a more sincere trait.
she also agreed with some of the intellegence references.

 

[Bikini Mod]

lolol at "women want". C'mon BM, you GOTTA be smarter than that. Do you know how many fucking dudes I know that are tapping married women as we speak? It's a social norm at this point.

So don't give me this "classifying an entire gender age group as one" bullshit.

There are dumb "girls" and there are dumb "women".

LOL Please understand what I mean about the pond one is fishing in. I don't think this particular article was directed towards peeps that are shopping for dumb and easy ass.

If a man is satisfied to date ANYONE that is in some sort of committed relationship already then who is to blame?

 

[Bikini Mod]

Re: The Two Most Desired Traits In A Mate - This Will Blow Your Pants Off - Healother

Agreed. Nothing I'm really proud of, but out of the 35 or so women I've "dated" well over 20 were married, engaged, or in monogamous relationships with someone else. At this point in my life I think I prefer it now, women who are in relationships already, that way I know up front she's scandalous and I don't have to put trust or faith in this individual.

I am NOT judging you, but I will be blunt.

You have become who you have chosen to associate with.

If you are KNOWINGLY choosing to be in some semblence of a relationship with an individual that YOU KNOW you are not capable of trusting from the getco, how then can you complain about the type of people with whom you are sharing your life?

Aren't there enough single women for you to date?

You seem bright and deep down a good guy. Why would you knowingly choose to squander your attention and affection on women that are OBVIOUSLY less than worthy then seem to complain that you simply can not find a woman with whom you can be in a committed longterm relationship?

 

[healother]

interesting stuff.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I just read the last part of the article where this woman says that she believes she can show someone how they can focus on themselves and change themselves in order to be more desirable to a broader range of perspective mates. I don't agree with that insofar as this is somewhat deceptive. To try to improve one's self strictly to attract a broader pool of perspective mates is a futile pursuit as one will not be able to adhere to the changes long term. We all know that THE ONLY REAL changes(whether internal or external) one can affect are those that are born from a strong internal desire to improve to please themselves.

In other words, you have to do it for yourself.

Not to metion the fact that no matter how one tries to improve themselves, ultimately they are who they are. No matter how much I would like to have the IQ of a Mensa member, I can not. It is impossible. Just as I can no more add 5" to my height without the use of footwear. At the end of the date when my shoes come off I will still only be 5'1". So rather than try to pretend myself taller, why don't I focus instead on finding a larger pool of perspective mates how desire me EXACTLY the way I am.

At the day's end I am still ME and if a perspective mate does not accept me for who and what I am then why would I waste my time changing myself to accomodate THEIR desire?

.... The more that I think about it, the more sense it makes that this article was written by a woman..... always out to change somebody. LOL

 

[caligirl]

Re: The Two Most Desired Traits In A Mate - This Will Blow Your Pants Off - Healother

The same way women get offended by men preferring younger women. People have their preferences in all manner of traits when it comes to a relationship.

I've recently learned that this goes both ways. Men get offended too at the fact that some women prefer younger guys.

 

[javaguru]

Re: The Two Most Desired Traits In A Mate - This Will Blow Your Pants Off - Healother

I've recently learned that this goes both ways. Men get offended too at the fact that some women prefer younger guys.

You prefer to date 24 year olds too?

 

[FriendlyCanadian]

Re: The Two Most Desired Traits In A Mate - This Will Blow Your Pants Off - Healother

I am NOT judging you, but I will be blunt.

You have become who you have chosen to associate with.

If you are KNOWINGLY choosing to be in some semblence of a relationship with an individual that YOU KNOW you are not capable of trusting from the getco, how then can you complain about the type of people with whom you are sharing your life?

Aren't there enough single women for you to date?

You seem bright and deep down a good guy. Why would you knowingly choose to squander your attention and affection on women that are OBVIOUSLY less than worthy then seem to complain that you simply can not find a woman with whom you can be in a committed longterm relationship?

I don't agree how you blame the people he associates himself with, for the way he is.

I think some people are very easily influenced by those they chose to associate with, but I think it's ludicrous to assume that everyone becomes those they hang out with. I don't care what the so called "self proclaimed" experts say about this. I'm sure puddlemonkey is his own man at least he seems like it, and probably isn't like everyone around him.

also I've never heard him complain about the people he shares his life with so that seems like an unfair assumption aswell but maybe I'm missing something.

anyhow I think you're smart and have nothing against you, I just thought these points were a bit unfair.

 

[Cal_21]

Re: The Two Most Desired Traits In A Mate - This Will Blow Your Pants Off - Healother

Maybe someone else already said this. I've not read the whole thread, but this is true with women who are older and settled.
When I was younger, my criteria for a mate was totally different than it is now

What are your criterion now? Extra sprinkles? Coffee? I can provide both you fine specimen of confection you...