The term "Friend"

[Austin316]

What does this mean too you? How do you classify a friend? is there differant types...and as opposed to the whole true frined thing can u honestly count the number of true friends you have on one finger? Its funny because I don't belive it is possible, there are very very few doesn't even take up one hand people that I would term true friend, had more till I realized that even after a lifetime of being close they can abandon you or turn a very hurtful time in your life around on you as a cheap shot in an argument because they know it will hurt...I dunno this whole concept is an interesting one

 

[big4life]

A friend.....


Someone who first and foremost accepts me for who I am. They will encourage me in my pursuits and goals in life. They will tell me when I do something stupid. They will be there during the good times and the bad. They will understand when I make mistakes. They are the people that can make you fly or bring you down. That is why you should always be careful about who you consider your friend.


I have few friends and many acquaintances.

 

[Charvelle]

A friend.....

That is why you should always be careful about who you consider your friend.

I have few friends and many acquaintances.

Bro, you took the words out of my mouth. I call people I know and
joke with, like at the gym or work "friendly acquaintances". REAL
friends are very few, and people are lucky to have 1 or 2 in their
lifetime. Go talk to some people in general...every time in life, they
have been fucked over, cheated on, lied to, and taken advantage
of, was by their "friend". How many times have you heard the 'ol,
"my friend fucked around with my boyfriend/girlfriend, or as soon
as I broke up with my boyfriend/girlfriend "my friend hit on them".

Friend is a word to be taken very seriously.

 

[Raina]

There is a very small group of people who really know me-- ones who have been there for me through everything. I love them more than they'll ever know.

 

[Austin316]

yep have a large number of aquaintences, I trust very few and do not completey trust anyone but myself and my parents

 

[danielson]

i have many aquantances

i'll be happy if i could count the friends i really have on my one hand. i have very few good ones, and only one or two at most i trust implicitly.

'good friends' or one friend atleast has backstabbed me, the only reason i decided to drop it was because they had been a good frined in the past

 

[vinylgroover]

Your family should also be your best friends, assuming you get along.

I do have close friends outside of family who i do place trust with in certain situations, but i never completely hand over all my trust to any one person outside of family members.

I also think that sometimes too many people place too great an expectation on friendship which puts pressure on a relationship from the start.

 

[Austin316]

There is a very small group of people who really know me-- ones who have been there for me through everything. I love them more than they'll ever know.

 

[pageset]

A friend.....


That is why you should always be careful about who you consider your friend.

I have few friends and many acquaintances.

how true this is.

 

[Jimsbbc]

I've said this before - it's a saying i heard -

If you find one friend in your entire life you can trust, you are very lucky.

If you find two friends in your lifetime that you can trust you are very very blessed.

If you find three friends in your life that you can trust - YOU ARE A DAMN FOOL.

 

[Taps]

I have quite a few friends...at least 3 of whom I'd consider to be close friends. Beyond that, there's a bunch of other people, most of whom annoy me...which is why they're just aquaintances.

Seriously, I judge my levels of friendship by how long i can stand to be around a person without clawing my eyes out. That being said, I'm sure there are quite a few people who can't stand being around me for more than an hour or two.

 

[Jimsbbc]

If you can trust a friend with money or your GF then maybe you found one (a real one).

 

[Austin316]

I have quite a few friends...at least 3 of whom I'd consider to be close friends. Beyond that, there's a bunch of other people, most of whom annoy me...which is why they're just aquaintances.

Seriously, I judge my levels of friendship by how long i can stand to be around a person without clawing my eyes out. That being said, I'm sure there are quite a few people who can't stand being around me for more than an hour or two.

these real people? or your right hand and 2 blow up dolls?

 

[satanic goatslayer]

'The dictionary doesn't know the meaning of friend.'

A friend will undertake massive revenge plots for you, and will also forgive you if you happen to leave his legs and neck with large lacerations after a night of absinthe.

 

[Taps]

these real people? or your right hand and 2 blow up dolls?

You will call my "dolls" by name, you son of a bitch! Candy and Bambi. And don't spread rumors about my right hand -- lefty will be jealous.

 

[theoak01]

i have people i hang around with,but only my girlfriend is my true friend,everybody else has turned their back one time or another

so i say fuck them,i dont need friends,i get along fine being alone most of the time

 

[vinylgroover]

i have people i hang around with,but only my girlfriend is my true friend,everybody else has turned their back one time or another

so i say fuck them,i dont need friends,i get along fine being alone most of the time

And if you ever break up with her..................

 

[huntmaster]

friendship is a great thing. i have been blessed with some great friends--and some of them happen to be family others are not.



Jesus is the friend that sticketh closer than a brother. in my family that is pretty close.

later friends

 

[theoak01]

And if you ever break up with her..................

then ill be all alone i guess

i just dont get along with anyone or cant trust anyone else enough to be friends

 

[vinylgroover]

You don't necessarily need to trust someone to be freinds. I mean i have close friends who i do put some amount of trust in and then i have friends who i will do things with if i feel like i want company. I don't necessarily trust them, but if it's just about spending a few hours with them at a club or movies or dinner etc, do you really need to 'trust' them for that.

 

[Puc]

i am far to picky in classification... i have no friends, because no one i know fits.....

 

[velvett]

Someone that will stick around when the shit hits the fan and someone that appreciates you for who you are and loves you even for your faults.



Note: Add sex to the equation and you have the near perfect mate.

 

[huntmaster]

i guess my true friends are the ones that i can call when i am stuck in mud up to the windows of my truch at the back of the deer lease --- in the middle of the early morning and they will come and help


i have a couple like that


and i am one like that





did that make since?

 

[big4life]

Someone that will stick around when the shit hits the fan and someone that appreciates you for who you are and loves you even for your faults.



Note: Add sex to the equation and you have the near perfect mate.

Now if we could just do something about adding the sex.

 

[theoak01]

i can still do those things with a aquaintance

a friend means trust just like velvett described it,ive put trust in people before only to be fucked around so i chose to have people i associate with i just dont call them friends

 

[vinylgroover]

i guess my true friends are the ones that i can call when i am stuck in mud up to the windows of my truch at the back of the deer lease --- in the middle of the early morning and they will come and help


i have a couple like that


and i am one like that





did that make since?

Or a moose

 

[huntmaster]

lol

 

[Austin316]

Someone that will stick around when the shit hits the fan and someone that appreciates you for who you are and loves you even for your faults.

and there we have pretty much the test book meaing of a "true" friend however they are few and far between, a rareity, and someone to be treasured

Note: Add sex to the equation and you have the near perfect mate.

 

[velvett]

Since this thread I've had a message left on my cell phone from an old friend that I'd been friends with since sophomore year of high school.

We had always been around for each other through the least attractive and most fragile moments of our lives. One for him was the death of his 13 year girlfriend/then fiance (cancer) which then led to the complete breakdown of his life. For me... (naw that's a different story.)

They had moved to California back in 89 to start their lives out there in their similar lines of work (acting and production). She had been in and out of remission for the next 9 years until her death in 98..

Several months after her death - my friend now on a missing person's list was found wondering the streets, naked in Studio City, CA. He was hospitalized and then institutionalized for several months. When he could he contacted me - mostly by letter, sometimes by phone.

I didn't know how to help him so for a long time I just listened and read.

Back in high school we had written in each other's year books that if we should both find ourselves single at 30 we'd just marry each other.

Time past and we lost contact until an email I received from him said that he had moved to Vegas to start over. Our contact become sporadic at its best and somewhat artificial - I guess we both seemed to have gotten lost in our own lives.

At 2:45 am this morning he left me a message to tell me he just married a dancer he'd been seeing for a while. "She loves me and I love her so we're gonna give it ago." He reminded me of our year book pack and he said that he regretted letting so much time lapse, "it should have been us". He said that he wished that he had had the strength then to let me see him broken. (we were gonna meet up in CA for a month long trip across country but he bail last minute without a trace.) If he only knew that there were times I felt the same way.


I do however, get to be the Godmother!


Friends may be few but when it's good it's forever.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

Since this thread I've had a message left on my cell phone from an old friend that I'd been friends with since sophmore year of high school.

We had always been around for each other through the least attractive and most fragile moments of our lives. One for him was the death of his 13 year girlfriend/then fiance (cancer) which then led to the complete breakdown of his life. For me... (naw that's a different story.)

They had moved to California back in 89 to start their lives out there in their similiar lines of work (acting and production). She had been in and out of remission for the next 9 years until her death in 98..

Several months after her death - my friend now on a missing person's list was found wondering the streets, naked in Studio City, CA. He was hospitalized and then institutionalized for several months. When he could he contacted me - mostly by letter, sometimes by phone.

I didn't know how to help him so for a long time I just listened and read.

Back in high school we had written in each other's year books that if we should both find ourselves single at 30 we'd just marry each other.

Time past and we lost contact until an email I received from him said that he had moved to Vegas to start over. Our contact become sporatic at its best and somewhat artifical - I guess we both seemed to have gotten lost in our own lives.

At 2:45 am this morning he left me a message to tell me he just married a dancer he'd been seeing for a while. "She loves me and I love her so we're gonna give it ago." He reminded me of our year book pack and he said that he regreted letting so much time laspe, "it should have been us". He said that he wished that he had had the strength then to let me see him broken. (we were gonna meet up in CA for a month long trip across country but he bail last minute without a trace.) If he only knew that there were times I felt the same way.


I do however, get to be the Godmother!


Friends may be few but when it's good it's forever.

Very touching story, Velvett. FOR ME TO POOP ON!!! j/k

I don't think he should have married a stripper or a dancer as you said. They aren't very stable people. I just hope he doesn't start doing drugs or restart.

Let's meet up in NYC and take a month long trip across the country. I promise I won't bail on the last minute without a trace.

 

[Pebcak]

...had more till I realized that even after a lifetime of being close they can abandon you or turn a very hurtful time in your life around on you as a cheap shot in an argument because they know it will hurt...I dunno this whole concept is an interesting one

Austin,

I agree with pretty much everything everyone else said in the thread. One other thing to point out is that ture friendship is a two way street. Your true friends will understand when you make a mistake, but if you consider yourself their friend you will do the same.

Pebcak

 

[Austin316]

Re: Re: The term "Friend"

Austin,

I agree with pretty much everything everyone else said in the thread. One other thing to point out is that ture friendship is a two way street. Your true friends will understand when you make a mistake, but if you consider yourself their friend you will do the same.

Pebcak

I agree and im totally for that, but time and time again I find myself the only one making an effort to keep a friendship going (ie; live of communication) and I dunno it should be a two way thing! And one thing I will not forgive is betrayal, you betray me, your gone and there are manyt form\s of betrayal

 

[Pebcak]

Re: Re: Re: The term "Friend"

I agree and im totally for that, but time and time again I find myself the only one making an effort to keep a friendship going (ie; live of communication) and I dunno it should be a two way thing! And one thing I will not forgive is betrayal, you betray me, your gone and there are manyt form\s of betrayal

I can understand that. It's tough, heck if it was easy it wouldn't mean anything. I also agree with your betrayal comments. At some point you have to make the decision that it's not worth it, Like any other relationship. Like they say..."Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

Pebcak

 

[rnch]

Someone that will stick around when the shit hits the fan and someone that appreciates you for who you are and loves you even for your faults.

i firmly believe that it is harder for guys to have close friends than girls; the male macho thing gets in the way with guys WAY too often. guys are usually afraid of being labeled "gay" if they show affection and/or love for another guy.

my best friend/broly/partner in higher acts of stupidity is the one person in this foiked up world that fits velvett's above quoted description of a "friend" for me.

more than once i have thanked god for bringing us together.

 

[PinK233]

I think a friend is someone you choose to let into your life, and trust....unfortunately as we get older we realize that most people are out for themselves, which obviously makes it harder to trust...I think time is a good indicator for me as far as friendship goes...you can't trust someone in a day or two or even a month...if you can grow with someone and know you can always count on them, thats a friend for life!

 

[naturally anabolic]

word

 

[The Shadow]

He reminded me of our year book pack and he said that he regretted letting so much time lapse, "it should have been us". He said that he wished that he had had the strength then to let me see him broken. (we were gonna meet up in CA for a month long trip across country but he bail last minute without a trace.) If he only knew that there were times I felt the same way.

.....wow

 

[Austin316]

In the end the only tue frined you have is yourself...and some don't have that, thats truly sad

 

[Pebcak]

In the end the only tue frined you have is yourself...and some don't have that, thats truly sad

Hey bro, read your sig. Given the meaning behind the song it's kind of poignant that you brought this topic up.

And by the way......Smile You're bringing me down.

Pebcak

 

[Frackal]

I think a friend is someone you choose to let into your life, and trust....unfortunately as we get older we realize that most people are out for themselves, which obviously makes it harder to trust...I think time is a good indicator for me as far as friendship goes...you can't trust someone in a day or two or even a month...if you can grow with someone and know you can always count on them, thats a friend for life!

penis

 

[big4life]

Since this thread I've had a message left on my cell phone from an old friend that I'd been friends with since sophomore year of high school.

We had always been around for each other through the least attractive and most fragile moments of our lives. One for him was the death of his 13 year girlfriend/then fiance (cancer) which then led to the complete breakdown of his life. For me... (naw that's a different story.)

They had moved to California back in 89 to start their lives out there in their similar lines of work (acting and production). She had been in and out of remission for the next 9 years until her death in 98..

Several months after her death - my friend now on a missing person's list was found wondering the streets, naked in Studio City, CA. He was hospitalized and then institutionalized for several months. When he could he contacted me - mostly by letter, sometimes by phone.

I didn't know how to help him so for a long time I just listened and read.

Back in high school we had written in each other's year books that if we should both find ourselves single at 30 we'd just marry each other.

Time past and we lost contact until an email I received from him said that he had moved to Vegas to start over. Our contact become sporadic at its best and somewhat artificial - I guess we both seemed to have gotten lost in our own lives.

At 2:45 am this morning he left me a message to tell me he just married a dancer he'd been seeing for a while. "She loves me and I love her so we're gonna give it ago." He reminded me of our year book pack and he said that he regretted letting so much time lapse, "it should have been us". He said that he wished that he had had the strength then to let me see him broken. (we were gonna meet up in CA for a month long trip across country but he bail last minute without a trace.) If he only knew that there were times I felt the same way.


I do however, get to be the Godmother!


Friends may be few but when it's good it's forever.

You just keep amazing me.