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Vixi
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I'm 34 and 6 months out of a divorce after being married for four and a half years. A few weeks ago I went out on my first date with a guy (39 years old) since then and we really hit it off. We both work in similar professional fields. He's been into old school bb for around 14 years and is in fantastic shape and is serious about his health/nutrition.
He's also pretty good looking. Our educational backgrounds are similar. The sparks do fly.
I have a few points to ponder, though. Thought I would ask this tough crowd for some sage advice.
He has been married twice before. 2 kids (14 and 17) from his first marriage. She cheated on him a few times and he says he still tried to work things out with her but it just didn't happen. He has a kindergartener from his second marriage and that child lives with his mother. He sees that son every Sunday. From what he tells me she was a bi-polar psycho who spent his money and nothing ever showed for it and the house always looked like the floor of the rhino pen at the zoo. That divorce took place about 8 months ago. Right now he is living at a hunting lodge with some of his buddies and saving/investing.
He lives a two hour drive away and has been visiting every weekend. (We've known each other only about 5 weeks.) I'm about to move out of state in the spring, but that actually makes the driving distance about an hour. I don't have a job in the new place I am moving and will be living with a friend for a few months until I get on my feet.
This new guy has been very good to me. He built my dog a dog house. He even washed my jeep for me when I was sick. Last weekend was my dad's birthday and he went with me to deliver a present. Dad seemed to like him.
He is wanting to get very serious very fast. He wants to date exclusively. He has brought up subjects that go something like ...children, living together, deep committment, etc. This could be such a lovely rebound tragedy or it could be something good. At least he openly admits that he has made some huge mistakes in his life. But who hasn't.
I don't usually ask people what I should do but sometimes it is helpful to get an outside perspective when you are standing too close to something to see the whole thing.
He's also pretty good looking. Our educational backgrounds are similar. The sparks do fly.
I have a few points to ponder, though. Thought I would ask this tough crowd for some sage advice.
He has been married twice before. 2 kids (14 and 17) from his first marriage. She cheated on him a few times and he says he still tried to work things out with her but it just didn't happen. He has a kindergartener from his second marriage and that child lives with his mother. He sees that son every Sunday. From what he tells me she was a bi-polar psycho who spent his money and nothing ever showed for it and the house always looked like the floor of the rhino pen at the zoo. That divorce took place about 8 months ago. Right now he is living at a hunting lodge with some of his buddies and saving/investing.
He lives a two hour drive away and has been visiting every weekend. (We've known each other only about 5 weeks.) I'm about to move out of state in the spring, but that actually makes the driving distance about an hour. I don't have a job in the new place I am moving and will be living with a friend for a few months until I get on my feet.
This new guy has been very good to me. He built my dog a dog house. He even washed my jeep for me when I was sick. Last weekend was my dad's birthday and he went with me to deliver a present. Dad seemed to like him.
He is wanting to get very serious very fast. He wants to date exclusively. He has brought up subjects that go something like ...children, living together, deep committment, etc. This could be such a lovely rebound tragedy or it could be something good. At least he openly admits that he has made some huge mistakes in his life. But who hasn't.
I don't usually ask people what I should do but sometimes it is helpful to get an outside perspective when you are standing too close to something to see the whole thing.
