Ok I don't normaly post my problems but I just found out some very disturbing news and for some reason I feel the need to talk to someone but it is 3am and I can't fall asleep so I guess I'll just unload here to get some releif.
Shit my head is spinning so bad right now I don't know where to start.
I met my girlfriend in a mall 9 months ago. We hit it off from the start and we have been together since. She is 22 and I am 20. Until tonight I "thought" we had a really good relationship. I loved her so much and according to her, she felt the sameway.
At first our relationship was mostly just sex (for me anyways) but eventually my feelings for her changed and what I thought would be a fling turned into a relationship. Couple months went by and I totally fell for her. I've been in a few relationships in my day and I have never felt for anyone like I have felt for her. Call me crazy since I'm only 20 years old but I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I even told her about this and she said she felt the sameway. We even started to talk about moving out together.
Anways, last month she quit her job and had a lot more time on her hands so she started to hang around with some old friends of hers (mostly guys). I trusted her and I'm not the type of guy who gets overprotective of his girlfriend and trys to control her. Her X-Boyfriend (from what she tells me) was a control freak and never let her do anything without him. I didn't want to be like that. Ok so she started to hang around with the old friends and she was honest with me and said that some of them were hitting on her. This kind of puts me in a position because I really don't know what to say or do in this situation. If I beat the shit out of everyone who hit on her, then I would have to beat the shit out of 90% of the guys on this board you know what i mean? she is an attractive girl and gets a lot of attention. I guess you could say you learn to deal with it and don't take it personaly after awhile. I was just happy she was being honest with me which made me feel like I could trust her even more.
I've met the guys she was hanging around with and they were cool, I had no problems with them at all. In fact I somewhat built a relationship with one of them. Him and his girlfriend would always invite my girl and I out for dinner or to do whatever.
Well Just tonight I had a chat with this guy friend of hers and apparently he had no idea me and my girl were a couple. He said that my girl said we broke up about a month ago and we have just been goofing around, we're not serious at all. Anyways the conversation went on for a good 2 hours and he told me a lot of information I wish I never heard. He has known her since she was 14 years old and said that she is a compulsive liar. I asked if she cheated on me and he wasn't sure but he did say that she went out for dinner with a few different guys.
This is a huge shock to me, I don't think the full efect of what is going on has hit me yet. I can't beleive how badly I have been played. But what if this guy who gave me all this information is just bullshitting me. I don't know him well enough to judge.
What do you guys think I should do? I kinda promised this guy who gave me all this information I would keep his name out of it and I'm a man of my word. My girl has no idea I know about this.
So when morning hits, I will be calling her but I have no idea what to do...
Should I confront her saying I know something?
Act like nothing has happend and try and catch her slip?
Try to work things out?
Ignore the guy with all the information because he might be full of shit?
Shit my head is spinning so bad right now I don't know where to start.
I met my girlfriend in a mall 9 months ago. We hit it off from the start and we have been together since. She is 22 and I am 20. Until tonight I "thought" we had a really good relationship. I loved her so much and according to her, she felt the sameway.
At first our relationship was mostly just sex (for me anyways) but eventually my feelings for her changed and what I thought would be a fling turned into a relationship. Couple months went by and I totally fell for her. I've been in a few relationships in my day and I have never felt for anyone like I have felt for her. Call me crazy since I'm only 20 years old but I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I even told her about this and she said she felt the sameway. We even started to talk about moving out together.
Anways, last month she quit her job and had a lot more time on her hands so she started to hang around with some old friends of hers (mostly guys). I trusted her and I'm not the type of guy who gets overprotective of his girlfriend and trys to control her. Her X-Boyfriend (from what she tells me) was a control freak and never let her do anything without him. I didn't want to be like that. Ok so she started to hang around with the old friends and she was honest with me and said that some of them were hitting on her. This kind of puts me in a position because I really don't know what to say or do in this situation. If I beat the shit out of everyone who hit on her, then I would have to beat the shit out of 90% of the guys on this board you know what i mean? she is an attractive girl and gets a lot of attention. I guess you could say you learn to deal with it and don't take it personaly after awhile. I was just happy she was being honest with me which made me feel like I could trust her even more.
I've met the guys she was hanging around with and they were cool, I had no problems with them at all. In fact I somewhat built a relationship with one of them. Him and his girlfriend would always invite my girl and I out for dinner or to do whatever.
Well Just tonight I had a chat with this guy friend of hers and apparently he had no idea me and my girl were a couple. He said that my girl said we broke up about a month ago and we have just been goofing around, we're not serious at all. Anyways the conversation went on for a good 2 hours and he told me a lot of information I wish I never heard. He has known her since she was 14 years old and said that she is a compulsive liar. I asked if she cheated on me and he wasn't sure but he did say that she went out for dinner with a few different guys.
This is a huge shock to me, I don't think the full efect of what is going on has hit me yet. I can't beleive how badly I have been played. But what if this guy who gave me all this information is just bullshitting me. I don't know him well enough to judge.
What do you guys think I should do? I kinda promised this guy who gave me all this information I would keep his name out of it and I'm a man of my word. My girl has no idea I know about this.
So when morning hits, I will be calling her but I have no idea what to do...
Should I confront her saying I know something?
Act like nothing has happend and try and catch her slip?
Try to work things out?
Ignore the guy with all the information because he might be full of shit?