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So very sad

Thinker82

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Ok I don't normaly post my problems but I just found out some very disturbing news and for some reason I feel the need to talk to someone but it is 3am and I can't fall asleep so I guess I'll just unload here to get some releif.

Shit my head is spinning so bad right now I don't know where to start.

I met my girlfriend in a mall 9 months ago. We hit it off from the start and we have been together since. She is 22 and I am 20. Until tonight I "thought" we had a really good relationship. I loved her so much and according to her, she felt the sameway.
At first our relationship was mostly just sex (for me anyways) but eventually my feelings for her changed and what I thought would be a fling turned into a relationship. Couple months went by and I totally fell for her. I've been in a few relationships in my day and I have never felt for anyone like I have felt for her. Call me crazy since I'm only 20 years old but I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I even told her about this and she said she felt the sameway. We even started to talk about moving out together.
Anways, last month she quit her job and had a lot more time on her hands so she started to hang around with some old friends of hers (mostly guys). I trusted her and I'm not the type of guy who gets overprotective of his girlfriend and trys to control her. Her X-Boyfriend (from what she tells me) was a control freak and never let her do anything without him. I didn't want to be like that. Ok so she started to hang around with the old friends and she was honest with me and said that some of them were hitting on her. This kind of puts me in a position because I really don't know what to say or do in this situation. If I beat the shit out of everyone who hit on her, then I would have to beat the shit out of 90% of the guys on this board you know what i mean? she is an attractive girl and gets a lot of attention. I guess you could say you learn to deal with it and don't take it personaly after awhile. I was just happy she was being honest with me which made me feel like I could trust her even more.
I've met the guys she was hanging around with and they were cool, I had no problems with them at all. In fact I somewhat built a relationship with one of them. Him and his girlfriend would always invite my girl and I out for dinner or to do whatever.
Well Just tonight I had a chat with this guy friend of hers and apparently he had no idea me and my girl were a couple. He said that my girl said we broke up about a month ago and we have just been goofing around, we're not serious at all. Anyways the conversation went on for a good 2 hours and he told me a lot of information I wish I never heard. He has known her since she was 14 years old and said that she is a compulsive liar. I asked if she cheated on me and he wasn't sure but he did say that she went out for dinner with a few different guys.

This is a huge shock to me, I don't think the full efect of what is going on has hit me yet. I can't beleive how badly I have been played. But what if this guy who gave me all this information is just bullshitting me. I don't know him well enough to judge.

What do you guys think I should do? I kinda promised this guy who gave me all this information I would keep his name out of it and I'm a man of my word. My girl has no idea I know about this.

So when morning hits, I will be calling her but I have no idea what to do...

Should I confront her saying I know something?
Act like nothing has happend and try and catch her slip?
Try to work things out?
Ignore the guy with all the information because he might be full of shit?
 
sounds familar to me. If I were you I' keep your eyes peeled for a couple of weeks. Start looking at how shes acting and reacting to things. I cant give you examples of this, but you'll know what I'm talking about when the times come. Dont take this guys word. You dont know him well enough for him to be a credible source for info. First off, take your girls word over anyone b/c after all, its you two in this relationship, not anyone else. If you dont trust her, then its not worth being in that relationship. I know you love her and its going to be hard. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to pm or im me. my aim is Pineapple Devil Let me know man b/c Ive been through the same things
 
Ya know what bro, if it were me in this istuation, I'd flat out tell her you know, it doesn't matter how you know but, you do. I'd tell her to hit the fucking road! There's no need for you to torture yourself with shit like this forever. That is the way she is & nothing you can say or do will change it so might as well be through with her. IMO I don't care what woman you are or how strong you think you are, if you hang around groups of guys constantly, even the ones oyu grew up with, you are eventually going to cheat. I know it for a fact becuase not only have I seen it too many times but, it's also happened to me. Men & women CAN NOT be close friends without one of them eventually falling for the other in some way or another, it's human nature. That is of course unless one of them is totally unatractive & or one is gay & even this doesn't totally rule it out. I am not a jealous or controlling person but, I will & have stepped in when I think my girlfriend is geting over her head & I do not even attempt to hide my feelings on the situation. I am not at all mean about it but, explain myself in a sensible & logical way. I know there will be at the very least, 1 woman that will respond & say I'm wrong but, I'm sure there are a lot more who agree with me. After all I said it before, it's human nature. How do you absolutely avoid cheating?.........Keep yourself out of situations where the possiblity may arise. Otherwise, you may regret it afterwards but, by then it's too late, the deed is done. I think it is about having respect for your mate by not even getting in this situation in the first place. I would never go hang out with a group of women w/out my girlfriend for the simple fact that I know it would make her uncomfortable & I expect the same. It's her choice as to what she does but, it's also my choice as to what I do when I feel like I can no longer trust her because she's doing something that I feel is disrespectful.
 
Well, I stayed up all night and went to my girlfriends place at 8am (10 mins after her roomate left for work). Right away she could see I was mad and continued to ask what was wrong. I just kept saying "you tell me", not making much sense at all. After about 3 minutes of saying "you tell me", I just came out with it and said "I know what you have been doing so you don't need to hide it anymore, if you really do love me you will tell me all your lies and maybe we can work things out". She continued to play dumb which made me get a bit angry. I started swearing at her about how she wasted 9 months and broke my heart and so on.
After we calmed down she started to open up a little, she began to tell me some lies but they were way off topic from what I was originaly mad at. (keep in mind this whole time I did not say why I was mad, I wanted her to tell me, also if I did say why she would know who told me and would completely blow the cover of my source.).
20 mins past by and we were still arguing when I had enough and said "ok we're done, i never want to see you again, bye". She started to cry and jumped on me like a leech and wouldn't let me go. Another 20 mins past by and she was still attached to me like a leech, crying and begging to stay together. I made my escape when her roomate came back from work or wherver she went.

So all in all what I have done? I just fucked up what could have possibly been a really good future because of someone else telling me something that might not even be 100% true.

I was being a total prick and I never really gave her a proper chance to explain since I never really said why I was leaving her.
I feel like such a bastard right now
 
I don't think you fuct up, if you can't trust her, it's not worth being with her. You'd be jealous every time she was not around you & it would make you crazy.
 
You will probably end up talking to her again after the smoke settles from your morning chat. For you and for her, it would be good to tell her exactly what you heard - you dont' have to be explicit in who told you -but just say that you heard from a few people that she said you had broken up a month ago -- let her explain that and see if she comes clean. But at the end of the day, if you dont' trust her, it aint' gonna work.
 
I didnt read the whole thread but I would suggest either a ka-bar knife to the jugular or a silenced 9 millimeter slug to the chest.
 
LOOK OUT FOR YOU FIRST BRO WOMEN ARE LIERS AND BELIVE HALF THE SHIT THEY LIE TO YOU ABOUT. YOU WILL TALK TO HER AGAIN, BUT LOOK AT THE FACTS.
THE GUY SAID SHE WAS LYING TO YOU ABOUT CERTAIN SHIT.
SHE TELLS YOU SHE WAS LYING TO YOU BUT ABOUT OTHER SHIT.
1ST- THING YOU KNOW SHE IS A LIER
2ND -IF GUYS SHE HANGS OUT WITH ARE HITTING ON HER SHE SHOULD NOT HANG OUT WITH THEM OUT OF RESPECT FOR YOU.
3RD-WHAT DO GUYS WANT WHEN HANGING OUT WITH GIRLS? YOU KNOW AND SO DO I, SO SHE SHOULD NOT HANG OUT WITH THEM, YOU HANG OUT WITH GIRLS?
4TH- IF SHE SAYS SHE IS A LIER OR HAS LIED TO YOU THEN ASSUME SHE LIED ABOUT THE OTHER STUFF STRAIGHT UP ASK HER ABOUT IT NAME NAMES IF YOU HAVE TO FUCK IT YOU OWE THIS GUY ANYTHING NO.
5TH- I SAY PROTECT YOURSELF KEEP HER AROUND BUT START HANGING OUT WITH OTHER GIRLS AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS TELL HER YOU ARE JUST GOING TO TAKE A FEW STEPS BACKWARDS IN THE RELATIONSHIP.
6TH- NEVER EVER TRUST A FEMALE I'M 23 AND HAVE HAD THREE GIRLS I SAID WERE THE ONE WHO JUST TURNED OUT TO BE LIARS.

DON'T LET YOURSELF GET HURT BRO THAT STUFF STAYS WITH YOU FOREVER.
 
i found out the hard way the last two girlfriends i had. you have to be overprotective. it shows you dont want to lose her. but besides that i know its true what he told you. cause all women are fucking lying cheated hos. its sucks there might be one or two that arent but youll have to be overprotective about any girl you have. anyone who thinks this aint true. think about this guy down the street with me whose wife i know for a fact cause she told me cheated on him the last seven years with his best friend and other guys. he poured everything into that marrigae and she dont work just lives off him and he has no clue. all women are fucked except maybe a select few. they say men are bad women are 10 times worst. leave her. dta. dont trust anybody
 
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