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Relationships? What's the fu*kin point?

DJLegacy2k1

DJLegacy2k1

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I mean seriously, Im ending a 4 year long relationship because the 30 year old GIRL (with kids) I was with had massive insecurity issues, started fights for no reason, bitched and complained about any random thing she could think of....meanwhile, Im going to work everyday, Im paying for EVERYTHING, doing nothing but going to work and then coming home, and im the one getting shit started with for no reason and im supposed to just sit back and take it?

So the other day I moved part of my stuff out to a friends for the time being to give her the hint that the last 2 months I was dead serious about "change and stop your shit or im leaving"...well she didnt get the point and has been fighting and bitching at me for the last 4 days about how "shes the only one that cares and im the asshole that just going to walk away from the relationship"...

So tonight im in the process of moving the rest of my stuff out...I mean its such bullshit, whats the point....even someone that says they love you cant fucking get their shit together to act right and it makes you want to leave...what the hell...i mean...i just dont get it...

Whatever...

/end rant
 
PS: I also stopped DJing and working for Radio for this girl because she was too insecure to deal with me being out...so i sacrificed my job and shit and i still got treated like shit...and im still being told im the bad guy...i mean really?

whatever, again

/re-end rant
 
Dude, I know you're angry at her and the situation, probably rightly so, but she doesn't represent every female out there. If you don't want to be in a relationship, then don't. You have the freedom to do whatever you want in that respect.

Side note, is there any chance of you going back with her?
 
Smurfy said:
Dude, I know you're angry at her and the situation, probably rightly so, but she doesn't represent every female out there. If you don't want to be in a relationship, then don't. You have the freedom to do whatever you want in that respect.

Side note, is there any chance of you going back with her?
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Maybe you're the fool if you stayed with her for 4 years and she's a girl with kids? Maybe you're the fool who hoped that it would get better? Maybe she has some issues and you shouldn't waste anymore time worrying about them?

Maybe you should post up nudie shots of her?
 
steady sex and the first month of "falling in love" and feeling like youv found something special is the only positives in a relationship that i can think of
 
Um, sorry but not all womenz are nutz all the time. You are the one that picks the girls bro, maybe you just suck at picking them out. Just sayin, I could be wrong
 
EnderJE said:
Maybe you're the fool if you stayed with her for 4 years and she's a girl with kids? Maybe you're the fool who hoped that it would get better? Maybe she has some issues and you shouldn't waste anymore time worrying about them?

Maybe you should post up nudie shots of her?
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or the fool who quit one of his jobs doing what he was passionate about for a girl.



stop crying DJ. you're trying to paint this girl out to be some awful person, but if that were the case you'd be happy to leave instead of bitching and moaning on an internet forum about it.
 
redshirt27se said:
or the fool who quit one of his jobs doing what he was passionate about for a girl.



stop crying DJ. you're trying to paint this girl out to be some awful person, but if that were the case you'd be happy to leave instead of bitching and moaning on an internet forum about it.
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I am happy for getting away from the BS and drama, im obviously not happy about feeling like i wasted the last 4 years of my life trying to "do the right thing" by trying to work things out with her and not just ditch he the minute things didnt go well.

Eh, whatever, my rant and vent are over, i got my 63" 3d TV back so im good now...Time to refocus and move on...

Blah
-Legacy
 
EnderJE said:
Maybe you're the fool if you stayed with her for 4 years and she's a girl with kids? Maybe you're the fool who hoped that it would get better? Maybe she has some issues and you shouldn't waste anymore time worrying about them?

Maybe you should post up nudie shots of her?
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Add in that he's the fool for paying for everything...for her and kids that aren't even his...and you'd have said exactly what I was going to post up.

Learn your lesson, dood: accept no baggage, suffer no fools, carry no freeloaders, and don't change for someone...ever!
 
Yeah but I feel like an asshole for holding shit like a kid or whatever against someone, i mean everyone makes mistakes, I just feel bad not giving someone a chance because of something in their past....but i guess ive learned my lesson, to stop caring about shit that shouldnt be my problem and to stop being so overly nice because i feel its the "right" thing to do. Im always worried about making th e"right" choices to help people because i feel that its the "good" thing to do. But i have to start being more selfish and focus on myself more than trying to please everyone.
 
SWV Alert!!!!!!!!!1

Dude! You put up with that shit for 4 years????? LOL @ You! She played you. She made you pay for her and her kids, made you quit doing something you loved, started fights, bitched and complained, took you for granted...and now has you feeling bad and crying about her on an internet forum.

her>you

hope you learned your lesson and I hope you stay away from her.
 
DJLegacy2k1 said:
Yeah but I feel like an asshole for holding shit like a kid or whatever against someone, i mean everyone makes mistakes, I just feel bad not giving someone a chance because of something in their past....but i guess ive learned my lesson, to stop caring about shit that shouldnt be my problem and to stop being so overly nice because i feel its the "right" thing to do. Im always worried about making th e"right" choices to help people because i feel that its the "good" thing to do. But i have to start being more selfish and focus on myself more than trying to please everyone.
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LMAO at shit like giving somebody a chance, doing the 'right' or 'good' thing. Right and good by who's fucking standards?! The person you have to do the 'right' thing for first and foremost is YOU. Don't ever forget that again.

You've wasted a lot of money and wasted four years of your life...that sucks.

But, the silver lining: you didn't knock her up or marry her, so you're not going to have to pay her fuck-all going forward...and that is a HUUUUUUGE plus. As crappy as you probably feel right now, you're coming off looking pretty good compared to dudes paying exorbitant alimony and child support payments that are guaranteed to keep them in the poor house for most of their life.

It's never as bad as you think.:supercool
 
Yeah and i have some Test and Mast coming in this week along with my Beastdrol, so hopefully ill be feeling super soon enough. lol
 
how does 1 crazy broad prove that relationships are pointless?

relationships with mooching lazy bitches that want you to raise their kids are pointless

4 kids at 30? Holy read flag
 
This isnt the first crazy chick obviously and im not going to get into the "they are all crazy" debate as most people will say...Im just saying overall, what is the point of long term committed relationships, over 50% of marriage end in divorce now and overall most people go through multiple attempts at it and wind up losing half of what they own...Just starting to seem like the whole thing is kind of pointless.
 
DJLegacy2k1 said:
This isnt the first crazy chick obviously and im not going to get into the "they are all crazy" debate as most people will say...Im just saying overall, what is the point of long term committed relationships, over 50% of marriage end in divorce now and overall most people go through multiple attempts at it and wind up losing half of what they own...Just starting to seem like the whole thing is kind of pointless.
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Good relationships can be had...you just need to keep your standards VERY high and NEVER settle.

I mean, look at the last one. She's not even hit it and quit it material for most of us. Most of us would have come back from the club to her place, seen the signs that she has a damn litter of kids there and said "WTF...either this is a sleepover daycare, or you're the old woman who lived in a shoe. Either way...I'm the fuck out of here!" and bounced. I can only guess that your standards were as low and your judgement as lacking on the past relationships that ended in disaster.

Make your standards for a 1st date high, a second even higher, and so on and so forth. If she's still around months later, and you haven't relaxed any of your standards, then she just might be worth investing in emotionally. It's not just the women that are flawed, it's your selection process.
 
I agree that most (like 99%) of women are crazy. I've had girlfriends that have jumped from guy to guy wanting to be taken care of. They get controlling, jealous, and bitch about all kinds of stupid stuff. Then I have others that do everything for the guy they are "with" only to be told that he isn't ready for a commitment. I know that I don't want to be one of those women that needs to be taken care of and I ain't taking care of no man. Right now I am kinda avoiding the dating scene. I do think that marriage is pointless. The whole thing seems like nothing but bullshit and games so I've been gravitating toward like minded people. We all just hang out and none of us really date. It's cool cause there's just no pressure.
 
just...v said:
The whole thing seems like nothing but bullshit and games so I've been gravitating toward like minded people. We all just hang out and none of us really date. It's cool cause there's just no pressure.
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so you've got a bunch of fuck buddies? sweet!


but wait...didn't you go out on a date a couple weeks ago?
 
ceo said:
so you've got a bunch of fuck buddies? sweet!


but wait...didn't you go out on a date a couple weeks ago?
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No. No fuck buddies. Not to say that some haven't tried to gain that status. I guess that just happens when you hang out with the opposite sex.


What date are you talking about?
 
I am married and have been for 4.5 years now. I love being married. It is hard at times, but also amazing at other times. I couldn't imagine life without my wife. She is a best friend to me, and I wouldn't want things any other way.

Just because a relationship went bad, doesn't mean they all go bad. I think reading books on relationships are great. Stop picking girls that are like this.
 
You dodged a bullet. If you were supporting her and her children and she didn't work, then she should have blown sunshine up your butt every chance she got. Obviously she didn't.

Imagine if you had married her and were losing all your income to her and four children that weren't yours (or additional children that were).

Do your juice and go bang another girl as absolutely quickly as possible. You will be shocked at how quickly you forget about her. Just don't rebound right into the arms of another crazy. You need no less than 12 randoms before you are fit to even look at another girl. Trust the plunkster on this one.
 
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

this advice will get you far

How about just take your time before getting into another relationship. Do you really need to bang 12 chics to figure things out, lol
 
EarthRider said:
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

this advice will get you far

How about just take your time before getting into another relationship. Do you really need to bang 12 chics to figure things out, lol
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Yes. Because running through a few will help you tell the difference between a good partner and good poon. You gotta find one with both. Without a good basis for comparison, men will always make that mistake.
 
the only reason you ever get with a girl with kids is to bag them unless you are like 50+ because women that age all have baggage. she used your ass for 4 years, treated you like a doormat.. about time you woke up.

now she will find the next sucker that comes along. how the heck does a girl like that have 4 kids anyway? she must know how to manipulate men bigtime .. you would of thought after 3 the guys would of learned to use a condom.
 
lol I don't know what the point is, though I think it's important to stay optimistic. If you're with someone for 4 years, not married and having these kind of problems I would say that it's best to get out.

If you can get through this now, you'll never look back.
 
redshirt27se said:
or the fool who quit one of his jobs doing what he was passionate about for a girl.



stop crying DJ. you're trying to paint this girl out to be some awful person, but if that were the case you'd be happy to leave instead of bitching and moaning on an internet forum about it.
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in the dude's defense leaving someone after 4 years cant be easy even if the person was the biggest cunt in the world.

hell, people stay with partners taht abuse them on a regular basis. a big change such as a break up, with someone you love, but know you cant be with anymore, is NEVER a happy situation.

unless ur leaving for a new broad :D
 
Ok a few details, she didnt work because she still had her youngest all the time. she doesnt go to school until September so she didnt work. The government pays for her food, and helped with some other bills. She collected minimal child support, and i mean like $60 a week or less for 3 of the children. One of the babies dads was on work release from jail for multiple DUIs so he was only sending in about 35$ a week. I paid for everything in the house from furniture, to TVs, computers, Phones, and all services. Also, I no longer work for RadioShack although I making great money at that job. I now work for a privately owned AT&T store, making about the same money, but MUCH closer to my house and less responsibility so it works out well. I make hourly plus commission for the total of two stores and my insurance and all is completely paid for me. Am I making 6 figures, obviously not, and am i going to do this forever, no Im not, but its isnt TERRIBLE money.

This is mainly to some of Smufy's questions, I cant remember is there were any more...
 
the.gladiator1987 said:
Ive made that mistake plunkey hahaha, free p00n = relationship to me

hey DJ ill leave my girl too bro so you dont feel so left out, haha
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same here dude iv just barely (had boner issues for 1/6 so i stuffed my floppy in her so i could count it) fucked half of his magic number, as my total. no way i could get to 12

i'm not in a place in my life to make sacrifices right now anyway - so if someones down to fuck regularly ill call her my GF, but id prob be a bad/boring boyfriend anyway, and wouldnt really care what she did
 
I guess the idea of not working is foreign to me. I was a single parent with no child support and I worked 2 jobs so it seems weird to me that someone who was able to make an income would choose not to work. I wasn't implying that you made terrible money, But I also know how much it costs to support a family and especially in MD where the cost of living can be higher. We make 6 figures between 2 people and occasionally I worry about money. So I can't imagine having 4 kids and not having both people working.

That's where my questions came from. More like intrigue rather than judgment.
 
Smurfy said:
I guess the idea of not working is foreign to me. I was a single parent with no child support and I worked 2 jobs so it seems weird to me that someone who was able to make an income would choose not to work. I wasn't implying that you made terrible money, But I also know how much it costs to support a family and especially in MD where the cost of living can be higher. We make 6 figures between 2 people and occasionally I worry about money. So I can't imagine having 4 kids and not having both people working.

That's where my questions came from. More like intrigue rather than judgment.
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im disappointed we never had a meatup smurf
 
Sub-Zero said:
same here dude iv just barely (had boner issues for 1/6 so i stuffed my floppy in her so i could count it) fucked half of his magic number, as my total. no way i could get to 12

i'm not in a place in my life to make sacrifices right now anyway - so if someones down to fuck regularly ill call her my GF, but id prob be a bad/boring boyfriend anyway, and wouldnt really care what she did
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lmao
 
Smurfy said:
I guess the idea of not working is foreign to me. I was a single parent with no child support and I worked 2 jobs so it seems weird to me that someone who was able to make an income would choose not to work. I wasn't implying that you made terrible money, But I also know how much it costs to support a family and especially in MD where the cost of living can be higher. We make 6 figures between 2 people and occasionally I worry about money. So I can't imagine having 4 kids and not having both people working.

That's where my questions came from. More like intrigue rather than judgment.
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Dont worry, I didnt assume you were stating the NEGATIVE, I was just trying to clarify the issues, didnt think you were trying to judge.

But yeah, thats my point, I sacrificed a whole hell of allot because I was trying to do that whole "compromise" thing and blah blah blah trying to be the good person that tries to help make things work, but I got nothing but grief for everything else under the sun...One of those things where if I was quite minding my own business watching tv, she would start a fight by saying i was benig antisocial and ignoring her...or whatever it was that day.
 
well be happy to be moving on then. in my past breakups (yes, i've had several) i didn't find it hard to leave. I found it refreshing. i guess when you get to the point where you can't stand the other person, then it's past time to go.
 
Yeah that's what I figured too. When every day I was looking for ways to NOT have to deal with all the BS I figured it was kind of worthless at that point. Of course during the whole process Im being told how much she cares and how shes the only one TRYING to make things work and how Im the wrong one in the situation, but whatever, it is what it is i guess. I just hate feeling like the bad guy in a situation, whether I am or not...but oh well, i'll survive.
 
DJLegacy2k1 said:
This isnt the first crazy chick obviously and im not going to get into the "they are all crazy" debate as most people will say...Im just saying overall, what is the point of long term committed relationships, over 50% of marriage end in divorce now and overall most people go through multiple attempts at it and wind up losing half of what they own...Just starting to seem like the whole thing is kind of pointless.
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as you have suggested, the statistics are skewed a bit by repeat offenders.
 
the.gladiator1987 said:
I can probably guess that if I did or didnt leave my g/f, she would somehow end up with 4 kids as well....and they might not be mine..... :confused:
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trouble in paradise new daddy bro?

Your girl still fuckin her ex?
 
canadianhitman said:
I thought the minimum number of hook-ups between relationships was 10? When did they change it to 12? Why wasn't I informed?
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I just picked a number where it all starts to run together. Much fewer than that and you'll remember specifics of each one.
 
DJLegacy2k1 said:
This isnt the first crazy chick obviously and im not going to get into the "they are all crazy" debate as most people will say...Im just saying overall, what is the point of long term committed relationships, over 50% of marriage end in divorce now and overall most people go through multiple attempts at it and wind up losing half of what they own...Just starting to seem like the whole thing is kind of pointless.
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You might fail at some relationships, even most, but you're not a failure until you give up. Get back up, dust yourself off and move on. You need to figure out where you went wrong (yes you have some responsibility) and learn from your mistakes. I think the number one reason why LTRs and marriages fail is selfishness.
 
cindylou said:
You might fail at some relationships, even most, but you're not a failure until you give up. Get back up, dust yourself off and move on. You need to figure out where you went wrong (yes you have some responsibility) and learn from your mistakes. I think the number one reason why LTRs and marriages fail is selfishness.
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Of course, I blame myself for lots of things. Im nowhere near perfect, i just try to be as decent of a person as possible, i just tend to care too much about sacrificing things to try to make other people happy and tend to forget about making myself happy I guess.

But yeah, moving on is the only option. I ordered my workout supplements, new laptop, new dj equipment, sold an old home gym for some extra cash. So Im trying to keep things as positive and focus on being productive for myself...we will see how it goes i suppose.

Worst part is i blew almost everyone off because the X didnt like me talking to a bunch of people or going out and doing nething without her and all, so now im trying to catch back up with people and let them know im "allowed" to talk and do things without the black cloud hanging over my head...So it is what it is...
 
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