Question....Women Especially......

[YME]

I have been married for awhile, and my wife is older than me.

I know that her sex drive isn't what it was at one time. So I try not to make an issue of the lack of activity in our home, sometimes for up to 2 weeks, but usually we are active once a week, rarely 2 times these days.

Please keep in mind she is very orgasmic when we are active, normally achieving 10-20 orgasms per session, and she is very liquid as well. And the burden for action shall we say is laid squarely on me, more often than not, which is fine, as I've gotten used to women who may not be very "Giving", and there is nothing, well, almost nothing I won't do to make sure she is satisfied.

Now my question is, I found an apparatus in a drawer that has obviously been used for self gratification, should I let this bother me?

Or is it normal to just want to get off by yourself, even when you know you have a horny and unselfish partner who wants to be with you?

For me, I do not masturbate untill I'm sure no activity will occur.

 

[ThatGirl]

Perfectly normal. My ex used to be jealous of my toys, even when we brought them into our "sessions". I thought it was so lame. Yes, sometimes we just want to get off alone, and sometimes we may not be in the mood with you, but then later when you're not home it just strikes us. It happens. I wouldn't worry about it.

 

[hamstershaver]

does she deny you sex? you didnt mention that part
if you are only getting it once a week and she is telling you no she doesnt want any, then she goes and sticks a dildo up her pussy when you arent around, id make sure the next time i saw her i would stick the same dildo up her ass unlubed

 

[Gymgurl]

As a married woman....ask her about it and ask her if you can buy her a new toy...This might make your sessions more and hotter

 

[allabs]

get her to use the toys during your sessions is a great idea don't trip out over it it can b a good thing ...................me when a women brings a toy into it its always unreal ......dont get jealous its a machine if you cant beat them join them......

 

[Gymgurl]

^^ this where all men should be thinking...keeps this alive

 

[allabs]

toys are in

gym grl u definatly are

 

[Snypr]

does she deny you sex? you didnt mention that part
if you are only getting it once a week and she is telling you no she doesnt want any, then she goes and sticks a dildo up her pussy when you arent around, id make sure the next time i saw her i would stick the same dildo up her ass unlubed

Dude, you're my hero!

 

[YME]

Well, denying may be a strong term, lets say, delaying tactics are used until I either just let it go or til she decides I'm horny enough.

Oh as far as toys, I bought two to use for a wedding gift(s), we had these for a long time, untill a this situation came up awhile back, and she was def. neglecting OUR time for HER time.

Then she denied everything threw a fit and cut the toys up and threw them away! Now its hard to deny the use when there were how shall we say, tidbits left on the toys.

I told her, I didn't care if she fukked herself 5 times a day, as long as she was ready when I asked for sex together. Actually I think its sexy as hell, as long as we get together.

As I said, I'm very open and willing to do most anything, and jealousy is only an issue if I feel I'm being replaced, but never as part of our time together.

 

[SoKlueles]

Yeah, id say dont be jealous of a battery powered object. Maybe shes horny at different times than u are? My advice is to bring it in the bed with u and sometimes it can be fun

 

[YME]

SoKlueless,

Maybe you didn't understand, I don't care if she is taking care of herself, but should I be left wanting sex, and she is telling me no?

 

[Gymgurl]

No not at all..but is she cheating on you?

 

[YME]

No, we both work at home, and if she did I'd know. Nothing like that, my only concern, is with her age, she won't have anything left for me, see when she was younger, we were VERY active, and she was VERY horny, and she prolly needed the extra relief.

Like last nite, I asked if she wanted to fool around, got no response so I said she could just lay there, LOL, and she laughed, then she said she didn't want to just lay there, so I said well do you want to fool around and you can do whatever you want, she said, maybe, that was at 9 p.m., and I'm still waiting......this is a normal evening of activity.

So I guess its the way it is

 

[AlphamaleStS]

No, we both work at home, and if she did I'd know. Nothing like that, my only concern, is with her age, she won't have anything left for me, see when she was younger, we were VERY active, and she was VERY horny, and she prolly needed the extra relief.

Like last nite, I asked if she wanted to fool around, got no response so I said she could just lay there, LOL, and she laughed, then she said she didn't want to just lay there, so I said well do you want to fool around and you can do whatever you want, she said, maybe, that was at 9 p.m., and I'm still waiting......this is a normal evening of activity.

So I guess its the way it is

There is deff intimacy issues here to worry about......

 

[Gymgurl]

Well how old is she....I am 5 times hornier now then I was in my 20's........

 

[YME]

57

But she has never "Been" her age.

She has always seemed much younger.

 

[TruBalla4Real]

Her sex drive is prolly winding down ?

 

[YME]

Even more reason to save it for our time together, right?

 

[Gymgurl]

I would seay sex drive is decreasing.....with the changes that women go through....have her go to the Dr. and get some meds for that....