Question for the women

[fyxgel]

Hey,
I know I'm not a woman, so technically I shouldnt be here, but I had a question and was wondering if I could get some input from some women about it:

I am a male, and quite honestly I admit, I am attracted to good-looking females. What am I wondering is, is what they say completely true, about if you are a male looking for a hot female you don't have to be good looking but you just have to be confident?

Like could I be really average looking, and get with a really hot female, just because I come across as being really confident in myself?

 

[Shak]

Most certainly! Although, just like you want "really hot" girls to go for you, maybe you shouldn't rule out finding an average looking girl. I think you should base your search on who you have the most fun with and are most compatible with, and then maybe that "average" girl will become really hot in your eyes.

But, if you are insistent on getting a hot girl, I think having a confident personality is a very attractive quality. I have met many guys who I initially thought weren't that attractive, but after I got to know them, they became really hot. Attitude means a lot - if you have a great personality, it will shine through and you'll realize that looks don't matter all that much.

 

[fyxgel]

So basically if I give her enough time to get to like me and my personality..
I can seduce any hot girl?


I'm going to be honest, I agree that appearances aren't everything, that a good personality is really cool, and all this stuff, but..
I have a hangup, I like hot girls, I can't explain it. I would go out of my way, if I could somehow ensure that the girlfriend I got, would be hot. Like I know it's not fair to the girls, but basically this seems like a requirement for me.

But maybe I'm just dumb because I've never had a girlfriend before, so i dont know what really matters.


So girls, you would really consider confidence more important than appearances?
I mean, as a guy I can say that confidence is a good attribute for a girl to have, but to be quite honest it isnt the first thing that comes to my mind, appearances come before that.

 

[Shak]

I assume you are young? I think as you grow older and date more women, you'll figure out what matters to you in a relationship. Sure, a hot girl is nice, but that can't be your only requirement - you'll understand that after you've dated a couple girls that may look good but have crappy personalities.

 

[wend]

Yep. I've been with guys that were drop-dead gorgeous, but when they turned out to be kinda dumb, the attraction faded. (And confidence isn't everything...there's also thoughtfulness, intelligence, kindness, good sense of humor, etc., which all go together to make a great personality.)

 

[fyxgel]

I assume you are young? I think as you grow older and date more women, you'll figure out what matters to you in a relationship. Sure, a hot girl is nice, but that can't be your only requirement - you'll understand that after you've dated a couple girls that may look good but have crappy personalities.

yea, I'm relatively young, just turned 20, and I havent really dated any girls before.
Appearances arent my only requirement, like I have to like her personality too, and get along with her, and have fun with her,
but Of the requirements, the appearances are probably the first one I think of.

 

[fyxgel]

Yep. I've been with guys that were drop-dead gorgeous, but when they turned out to be kinda dumb, the attraction faded. (And confidence isn't everything...there's also thoughtfulness, intelligence, kindness, good sense of humor, etc., which all go together to make a great personality.)

so would you date an 'ugly' guy if he had good confidence, intelligence, thoughtfulness, kindness, humor, and a good personality all round?

 

[smoknjilly]

more important - treat her nicely and with respect, and you will be way far ahead of all the other guys....

personally - you could be the best looking guy in the world - but if you didn't treat me right - you'd have NO chance in hell

 

[FitFossil]

more important - treat her nicely and with respect, and you will be way far ahead of all the other guys....

personally - you could be the best looking guy in the world - but if you didn't treat me right - you'd have NO chance in hell

Yeah - what she said

For me, there has to be some visual attraction, but what's "hot" is purely up to individual taste. Also, as you get to know the person better, you'll find they either get prettier or uglier, depending on their inner qualities.

Contrary to popular belief, not all hot girls are being constantly bombarded by men, because lots of men are too intimidated to approach them. And some hot girls avoid hot guys because they're used to being the pretty one and don't want any competition on the looks front.

So, if you've got confidence, use it - your odds are better than you think!

 

[fyxgel]

more important - treat her nicely and with respect, and you will be way far ahead of all the other guys....

personally - you could be the best looking guy in the world - but if you didn't treat me right - you'd have NO chance in hell

I go to a Christian College, and a good fair number of the guys there are willing to treat any of the hot girls nicely,

you seriously think this would give me a rung up on some people?