As a youngster, girls would flirt and hint about sex. So, I would do the traditional date thing. Only, to feel like I am being manipulated. Then, I learned most girls already kind of had BF and were trying me out or just to have bragging rights that they had a date to their friends. So, I quit dating
Then as a man in my 30's who has a good career, house, etc. I have had 2 gf that really didn't love me but loved the idea of marrying a guy like me for security. They both used sex, threats, and just telling me I was a loser for not wanting to commit and take care of them. These 2 girls cost me more then the guy who paid the hookers 100k.