Please Help a insecure woman

[jenscats5]

It can be hard to accept compliments especially if you had my mother! No compliments, no being proud of ya, etc and there was always a "but." Or sideways comments....oh it's too bad you're not thin like your friend Jessica.....Jen's really strong, she eats like a truck driver, would never wear frilly dresses....

If women were raised like that -- pressure from their mother's to be thin, not eat, blah blah blah....it's hard to lose that mindset and be accepting of who you are & how others see you....

 

[mrstamiina]

I used to get upset...well, not upset, but suspicious, when someone complimented me. I just figured they were trying to manipulate me somehow.

AHAHAH thats it exactly...

 

[Pamela]

I used to get upset...well, not upset, but suspicious, when someone complimented me. I just figured they were trying to manipulate me somehow.

True!


She may also feel, no matter what she does and how hard
she works out, she's never good enough.

 

[mrstamiina]

I hate to say it but its worse then before.

WHATS WRONG WITH YOU GIRLS?


I've been with this girl for 3 years and she's so crazy that she thinks shes fat and won't even take her shirt off for sex.

What do you think i should do?

 

[Daisy_Girl]

Therapy.

(for her, not you. )

 

[jenscats5]

I hate to say it but its worse then before.

WHATS WRONG WITH YOU GIRLS?


I've been with this girl for 3 years and she's so crazy that she thinks shes fat and won't even take her shirt off for sex.

What do you think i should do?

Actually counseling for both of you might be a good idea in that she can help deal with her demons and you can learn 1) not to enable her mental self-mutilation and 2) how to deal with her on your level....

 

[mbrooke5]

Is there specialist on this subject or should she just go to any of them?

Also, isnt therapy expensive?

No Sir! If you live a fairly large city, there are government programs that help individuals in need of couseling. The cost is based on her income, so $ is not an issue. There are all types of couseling centers even some sponsored by churches, organizations, etc. You just have to do some research and ask ask ask. Ask everyone! But before you start asking, she has to be ready to take that next step. Do not put pressure or she may never want to "find out whats wrong with her"

 

[Pamela]

The thing about consulting is; if she's not ready to get better it won't help
her.
Does she even think she has a problem?