OBGYN Docs

[simm]

Seriously?? Your wife is going once a month for BS reasons and if he got insecure you would show him the door?
Why not just make him feel better and that your not being shaddy by switching? If I was insecure about this and enstead of trying to fix it she wanted to "show me the door" before she was willing to work on it or make a comprimise that would be a major red flag that something was going on. Maybe Im seeing this wrong??

You are seeing this right buddy, and any guy that doesn't, must have his head sooo far up his own arse that he knows whats goin on and dismisses it, or is a complete coward scared to lose his slut of a woman/wife...The same goes for 'people' male/female who get aggressive when asked about their past 'relationships,' as my fiancee got aggressive when i asked her how many relationships she had in past...Her reply...THE USUAL SHIT..Past is past and will do no good bringing into our relationship...It will do me good to know if you want to spend your life 30-50yrs together...She has a 5yr old and been married, so i have a right to know her past...I've told her mine!!! To the starter of this thread...You have a right to know as (1) you are married (2) you are a couple as females always say (3) show 'her' the door if she won't be open and honest with 'you' her husband and partner.......Do NOT live in the same house with someone who is not open and 110% honest with you...Fuck that bro..You worth more than that...Do NOT let anybody walk over you, as if i found my girlfriend cheated/ing she'd be fuckin history with NO chance to explain...1 or the other ...You or him.....Look into it and raise the subject 'slightly off the topic' to her and watch reactions....restaurant meal or intimate setting somewhere quiet...see if she eyes up other guys when you away from table too...if her sex drive with you is dying she gettin somewhere else as women can fuck into their 80s+ and men loose it..so they still need the pole from somewhere...lol
Women reading this post, im not psychologically fucked/screwed up, i just do NOT like women thinking they can have 2+ men on the g at once, and women are NOT clever as they ALWAYS fuck up in their tracks at sometime...Women are manipulative so guys have to ignore the emotional shit as women use that to get laid too...Caveman instinct is best and if they dont want to know..then let them go elsewhere...Im sure they will, as 'most' always do...lol...This is not aimed at the faithful women or men cus they 'DO' exist but are rare...!!!!!!

 

[mustang_00]

domestic. keeping bitches in check since the stone age!!

 

[Bikini Mod]

Seriously?? Your wife is going once a month for BS reasons and if he got insecure you would show him the door?
Why not just make him feel better and that your not being shaddy by switching? If I was insecure about this and enstead of trying to fix it she wanted to "show me the door" before she was willing to work on it or make a comprimise that would be a major red flag that something was going on. Maybe Im seeing this wrong??

MY BODY - MY HEALTH...

If my husband didn't trust me sexually while I was engaging in something that was THE LEAST SEXUAL behavior that could go on between a man and a woman then there is something wrong with MY MARRIAGE.

The board has no idea about the complications of the situation (meaning the health issues going on) so to say, "Switch doctors even though YOU are obviously happy with the level of care you are receiving because I have a mental problem" (meaning the husband does) SCREAMS that the marriage is really REALLY messed up.

Sorry, but I am 40 something years old so my coochie has been touched by plenty of gynecologists and regardless of how sexual ANY MAN *thinks* this is... IT AIN'T.

She's obviously happy with her gynecologist. It is HER body. He needs to *get over it*. PERIOD

 

[bigdho]

MY BODY - MY HEALTH...

If my husband didn't trust me sexually while I was engaging in something that was THE LEAST SEXUAL behavior that could go on between a man and a woman then there is something wrong with MY MARRIAGE.

The board has no idea about the complications of the situation (meaning the health issues going on) so to say, "Switch doctors even though YOU are obviously happy with the level of care you are receiving because I have a mental problem" (meaning the husband does) SCREAMS that the marriage is really REALLY messed up.

Sorry, but I am 40 something years old so my coochie has been touched by plenty of gynecologists and regardless of how sexual ANY MAN *thinks* this is... IT AIN'T.


I can see your point.... Im not the jellous type nor would this make me un comfortable but I just feel for the guy when this situation is making him un easy and he cant do anything about it and if its that bad for him why she couldnt just switch docs. But your right I have no idea what goes on in there and its not anyones place to dictate where you go to get your medical care.

I guess all he can really do is TRUST. Trust that his wife is not a hooker looking for something better anywhere she can....And he would know the answer to that question anyway. And trust that the doc has at least a minor level of professionalism and wont cross that line with a client.

 

[Bikini Mod]

MY BODY - MY HEALTH...

If my husband didn't trust me sexually while I was engaging in something that was THE LEAST SEXUAL behavior that could go on between a man and a woman then there is something wrong with MY MARRIAGE.

The board has no idea about the complications of the situation (meaning the health issues going on) so to say, "Switch doctors even though YOU are obviously happy with the level of care you are receiving because I have a mental problem" (meaning the husband does) SCREAMS that the marriage is really REALLY messed up.

Sorry, but I am 40 something years old so my coochie has been touched by plenty of gynecologists and regardless of how sexual ANY MAN *thinks* this is... IT AIN'T.


I can see your point.... Im not the jellous type nor would this make me un comfortable but I just feel for the guy when this situation is making him un easy and he cant do anything about it and if its that bad for him why she couldnt just switch docs. But your right I have no idea what goes on in there and its not anyones place to dictate where you go to get your medical care.

I guess all he can really do is TRUST. Trust that his wife is not a hooker looking for something better anywhere she can....And he would know the answer to that question anyway. And trust that the doc has at least a minor level of professionalism and wont cross that line with a client.

Agreed 100%.

If this guy is THAT torn up about a situation that should be THE LEAST sexually threatening then he really needs to have an honest discussion with her. THEY NEED TO WORK ON THAT AS A COUPLE. But ultimately, the jealousy is his issue.

I will elaborate:

My first husband was a jealous, controlling, CRAZY piece of work that NO AMOUNT of counseling could "fix". Ultimately he ended up so insane that he would leave later and later for work, pop home on surprise visits and come home earlier and earlier - in the end he even placed a camera on me as he was straight up convinced that I was having an affair... even though HE NEVER EVER EVER should have even had a fukkin inkling (because duh - I wasn't cheating nor did I ever even think to)... It was a sickness that he later admitted in a brief moment of clarity. IT WAS ALWAYS IN HIS HEAD and there was NOTHING I could do to make that feeling go away.

Ironically enough, the more jealous and possessive he became, the less I wanted to be around him. It made me SO AGNRY to be accused of shit CONSTANTLY.

Long story short - he beat me up, I kicked him out and stayed THE HELL AWAY from any man that was remotely, jealous, controlling AND possessive.

Oh ya, and after the fact I did learn that HE was cheating.... ON ME.

 

[bigdho]

Agreed 100%.

If this guy is THAT torn up about a situation that should be THE LEAST sexually threatening then he really needs to have an honest discussion with her. THEY NEED TO WORK ON THAT AS A COUPLE. But ultimately, the jealousy is his issue.

I will elaborate:

My first husband was a jealous, controlling, CRAZY piece of work that NO AMOUNT of counseling could "fix". Ultimately he ended up so insane that he would leave later and later for work, pop home on surprise visits and come home earlier and earlier - in the end he even placed a camera on me as he was straight up convinced that I was having an affair... even though HE NEVER EVER EVER should have even had a fukkin inkling (because duh - I wasn't cheating nor did I ever even think to)... It was a sickness that he later admitted in a brief moment of clarity. IT WAS ALWAYS IN HIS HEAD and there was NOTHING I could do to make that feeling go away.

Ironically enough, the more jealous and possessive he became, the less I wanted to be around him. It made me SO AGNRY to be accused of shit CONSTANTLY.

Long story short - he beat me up, I kicked him out and stayed THE HELL AWAY from any man that was remotely, jealous, controlling AND possessive.

Oh ya, and after the fact I did learn that HE was cheating.... ON ME.

WOW!! I would also venture to say you are probably way more attractive then he is and I would bet he felt you were out of his league and it made him super insecure........not to mention he was cheating! So that right there would automaticlly equate to him thinkin you were too.

Im sorry you had to go through that. I think bad relationships are the hardest things on this planet to go through.

 

[dagar]

I don't post much here, just surf and read but BIKINIMOM, I have observed in life that when one accuses the other of cheating, it was usually because they ( the accuser ) are or thinking about an opportunity to do so. They figure if they're thinking about it, so are you.

 

[MichaelScott]

sounds like bad news to me , ask to go along next time, you will be ablr to tell if there is anything fishy, lol, going on

 

[Bikini Mod]

I don't post much here, just surf and read but BIKINIMOM, I have observed in life that when one accuses the other of cheating, it was usually because they ( the accuser ) are or thinking about an opportunity to do so. They figure if they're thinking about it, so are you.

My point exactly. Believe me gentlemen, I am fully aware that if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck and quacks like a duck chances are it ain't no chicken.

I learned a lot from my first marriage. If nothing else what was NOT acceptable treatment from a partner so for that, I suppose I am appreciative.

It takes 2 to have a relationship. If something is out of sync for one then they need have an open discussion. If the "out of sync feeling" isn't quelled then that party needs to decide if these feelings are in their head alone or if their partner isn't being honest with them. Bottom line is that there is no truth, but only perception. If your perception is that she is cheating (regardless of how irrational that feeling is) then DO HER A FAVOR AS WELL AS YOURSELF AND GET THE HELL OUT.

 

[drsketch]

dude either trust her and keep her or kick her ass to the curb. Who gives a shit if a male doc is checking her vag