I am in a fraternity in northern cali, Some people ust dont understand why people join. Hoestly I joined one because i came to college at 17 years old and was a pretty shy kid. I wasnt that out going and needed some help meeting some people that I shared interests with. Thats all fraternitys do, I dont buy my firends we are a large group with similar interests they can choose to hang out with me or not. Its kinda the same theroy as using steriods if you could build muscle without it then there would be no need, for me I had a hard time meeting friends on my own so I used my fraternity as a resource and Ihave some friends now that will always be a part of my life. you cant buy that kind of bond.